was just closing my eyes and hoping that sleep meets me again that was the only escape this one time when i was sleeping next to my mom i remember i started feeling something deeper than sleep paralysis i felt like these little shadowy creatures this shadowy power was kind of chaining me down to the bed it gradually chained me up entirely and i knew something was wrong i remember those shadowy creatures screaming out something i don't remember what they said but it was like they were welcoming some kind of a lady some kind of a queen i'm getting goosebumps as i say this i suddenly saw this woman sitting on top of me pale skin patchy skin it was torn up it had a few blisters untidy hair and i could only see one of her eyes because her hair was covering the other eye and with that pale red eye she was staring down at me while she was sitting on top of me i couldn't even move my neck because i was paralyzed so


even move my neck because i was paralyzed so i moved my eyes and i saw my mom sleeping next to me i tried screaming her name but i was paralyzed and i couldn't see anything all this while she's sitting on top of me i could feel her weight on the top of my chest and it wasn't comfortable i felt her fingers on my body and it was one of the creepiest things i'd ever been through i was just 11 years old because i grew up in a spiritual family my mum knew about my fear of ghosts my fear of the dark and she told me about a particular mantra that's made specifically to shew away bad spirits all i remember doing in that moment is closing my eyes and saying that mantra for those of you wondering the mantras so i closed my eyes and i just started saying and that's the last thing i remember i went to sleep i still felt her weight on me but i just realized that all i could do


me but i just realized that all i could do in that moment was say the mantra after a bit i opened my eyes and she wasn't there anymore now this could be just a hallucination this could be just sleep paralysis but here's the scarier part two years later i was watching national geographic i believe a show about alien abductions and you know how in those shows they create a reenactment of real life events they created a reenactment of a japanese phenomenon i forgot what it's called but even in japanese culture this kind of phenomenon exists where sleep paralysis is accompanied by a witch sitting on top of you so in that show they said that one of the theories about alien abduction is that aliens simulate this kind of an experience for some human beings do experiments on the human beings but to be able to manipulate human perception they create this imagery of a woman sitting on top of the human now in that show when they were trying to create a visual representation


show when they were trying to create a visual representation of this phenomenon what they showed in that show was exactly what i saw it felt like it was almost the same woman same single eye staring down the same hair on one side the same burnt up skin untidy clothes those pale dead eyes not staring at you angrily just staring at you with the eyes of death with nothingness i remember watching that show turning off the television immediately running to my mom and crying because i got so creeped out this was when i was 13 and my mum just kind of pacified me she told me calm down it's okay let go of it i struggled to sleep alone for the next seven to eight years now eventually in life i feel like i grew out of this phobia i discovered spirituality as most of you guys know and here's the thing with spirituality while it definitely speaks about meditation and being a good person and karma it also speaks about the spirit world the


karma it also speaks about the spirit world the astral world dark energies demons and it also speaks about how you tackle these energies as the autobiography of a yogi says when you stare fear in the eye it ceases to exist that's how i overcame my fear of the dark kind of just worked on strengthening my spiritual muscle of my mind i started meditating a lot at around the age of 22 or 23. rajas my co-founder on beer biceps i meditated with him a lot as well now after working together for two or three years we worked out of a garage inside my building and we often begin our day by meditating together just to kind of make our edit room a little more positive i remember this one time we meditated at night at about 12 am you always meditate in darkness for deeper meditations and usually meditations feel very positive this particular meditation in my head was feeling extremely dark the thing is when you meditate with someone else you kind of do


when you meditate with someone else you kind of do share a certain energy you share experiences both of y'all can sense the positivity or negativity of that particular meditation session so while you're meditating i definitely felt something dark and that line from autobiography of a yogi kicked in that if you stare fear in the eye it ceases to exist so i kept meditating i even said that omna mudatta mantra because i went back to that memory from the time i was 11 years old and i felt like we pushed out some kind of a negative energy from that room and from the environment we were in which was my building after waking up from that meditation i looked at rajas he looked at me and before i could say anything he said did you feel that we both felt like there was some other dark energy with us and we both pushed it out together now i'm not gonna name the person but i do have a friend who is considered to be psychic that person eventually


who is considered to be psychic that person eventually visited our office and the moment he came to office without visiting any other room he went to the end of the corridor if you scan my building my mom's room the same room i was sleeping in when that witch incident had happened is right above the room that this guy went to straight up and he said that this room has a lot of dark energy this room has had some kind of a demon or a ghost within it and since you guys have started meditating it's probably pushed it out because meditation makes the environment more positive now i remember getting a little freaked out and i went to my grandfather who is pretty much the owner of that building i asked him about that particular room now he had been running that hospital since the 1960s but he had a lot to say about that part of the building he said that there were patients over that span of 50 years who said that sometimes at night they would feel a woman sitting on


sometimes at night they would feel a woman sitting on top of their chest patients would visit that hospital for their routine surgeries and when they'd be recovering in those two rooms some of them would even report that a woman pushed them off their hospital beds they'd see a flash of a really scary looking woman and it would go away all this is right under the exact spot where i had that experience as of now that hospital is defunct it's not being used and fortunately we don't feel that kind of a negative presence there since the day my psychic friend examined that building we did pujas that we did havens there we've lit candles just to kind of make the environment more positive and here's another reason why i've embraced spirituality so strongly in my life i felt the presence of darkness around me when i was a child i felt the presence of darkness around me while i was growing up i feel like everyone's scared of the dark but my fear of the dark was something deeper than just


fear of the dark was something deeper than just the fear of a lack of light my fear of the dark was the fear of some entity that always stared at me right from the time i was a child till the time i was a teenager until i learned to just face it and go with it until i learn to push it out through the positivity of my spiritual practices this is a side of myself i don't reveal on the internet but there's a reason i'm fascinated by the occult i've had occult experiences many of which have not spoken about online many of which i might speak about from here onwards so if you enjoyed this podcast make sure you hit that thumbs up button share this video and if you feel you're going through any kind of occult experiences i'm not the right guy to give advice but i do believe that spiritual practices help combat the occult god bless you stay in the light you


hello and welcome to a covert 19 quarantine special off the runway show I actually got my cousin to record this one because my entire team is spread all over the city going about the remote work culture so for today's episode I thought everyone's at home everyone's looking for content recommendations and honestly I believe that when it comes to content you should only invest your time in content if it's gonna stay with you after maybe a year or two of watching or consuming that kind of content just like the runway show today we're talking about my top end mind-fucking movies that's right mind king these are the movies that if you watch ones will probably stay with you for the rest of your life and the reason I wanted to include these ones are runway shows because I feel that if you're a listener of this podcast you are a deep thinker you analyze everything that you consume keeping that in mind these are my quick 10 recommendations at number 10 a very common mindful recommendation its shutter island'


a very common mindful recommendation its shutter island' starring Leonardo DiCaprio shutter island' is a movie about a mental asylum about a detective who reaches the mental asylum in order to solve a mystery and then figures even more mysteries about the island that the mental asylum is located on this is one of those movies that will keep you grip throughout that will scare you and at the end of the movie there's a twist involved and that twist will kind of mess with your head even more one of those Leonardo DiCaprio movies that I feel is kind of underrated that more people need to watch ok number 9 keeping it much lighter inside out it's a animated Pixar movie it's basically about a girl and you're you know usual preteen problems but from the perspective of your soul your spirit your mood your ego your emotions so you know usually animated movies have characters where they probably animate an insect or a bird or you know living being like that here the animated objects are


know living being like that here the animated objects are all the girls emotions so anger is shown as one of the characters whatever love is shown as one of the characters embarrassment is shown as one of the characters ego is shown as one of the cat was one of those movies that make you analyze yourself a lot and there's some stories and some concepts that can only be explained through animation so other than the movie up by Pixar which impacted me on a deep romantic level this is that one movie which is animated which I recommend to all my friends and especially listeners of the run be sure because all of you all are deep thinkers ok next movie recommendation we got the shining starring Jack Nicholson it is a horror movie but it's not a horror movie just about ghosts or monsters it's not just got jump scares The Shining is a classic when it comes to filmmaking it also analyzes human spirit and especially during this phase of quarantine this one will talk to you what I recommend is


this one will talk to you what I recommend is that you don't watch this movie if you're someone who's staying alone but if you're someone who's staying with your family watch it it's one of those horror movies that you definitely should watch it especially if you enjoy film in general there's a lot of people who don't watch horror movies because they don't want it to stay with them at night this isn't one of those horror movies this doesn't have really scary scenes other than like a few it has mind-bending scenes some of the scenes are so weird some of the things that happen in the story are so weird that the weirdness of the movie stays with you and it's a cult classic so as a human being I think it's your responsibility to watch The Shining ok next one if you ever had a bad breakup at number 7 we have Eternal Sunshine of the spotless mind if you've drifted away from a close friend from a close family member and of course from someone


from a close family member and of course from someone who you loved a lot at some point in your life the Eternal Sunshine of a spotless mind starring Jim Carrey and Kate Winslet we'll help you we'll help you analyze yourself we'll help you think about love from a third-person perspective from a macro perspective you look at the whole concept of love from a top view it'll really make you understand a breakup better understand the dynamics of a big breakup better if you've just had a breakup this movie might hurt you a little bit but if you're already in the process of healing and you just want some kind of help in that healing process I do believe that this movie will help you a bit the director has kind of shorted and a little strange wait it's our dive into Jim Carrey's mind in this movie where he's had a breakup with someone and he's trying to erase the memories of that person so it's a movie that'll mess with how you perceive your memories


movie that'll mess with how you perceive your memories about that person who you loved or that person who you were close to at one point in your life definitely should watch it especially if you enjoy slightly different filmmaking okay my next recommendation at number six very good movie it's called get out again it's slightly a horror movie slightly a horror movie it's not an all-out horror movie doesn't have ghosts some monsters but it is one of those movies that stays with you it will mess with your head I don't even want to talk much about it because it's one of those movies where you should just let the movie speak for itself I'll tell you this it's directed by Jordan Peele he used to run a comedy show every still runs one called Key & Peele you'll find fantastic key and Peele videos on YouTube so if you I will just up for you no fooling around if you just want great comedy content short in a beautiful way look for key and Peele


in a beautiful way look for key and Peele videos on YouTube the same guy has gone and directed this movie so it is a scary movie it's a mind-bending movie but it will also make you laugh a lot and it will stay with you and it's one of those movies you can watch like five six times and never get bored of it highly highly recommended that you watch get out at number five it's an all-out horror movie I know I've been recommending a lot of horror movies but I'll tell you what the reason I recommend horror movies is because they stay with you oh good horror movies are usually built on very mind-bending concepts that make you look at society in a different way that kind of expose the evils inside people that's what I feel about ghosts monsters and evils rather than being afraid of the ones on the outside should be afraid of the ones on the inside it's a very nice Dada G line for you guys but even when it comes to


line for you guys but even when it comes to the devil it's about I think five people stuck in an elevator and one of them is the devil the devil Satan so the whole movies about how they figure out who's the devil inside the elevator and how each of them slowly starts dying through the process of figuring that mystery out it will teach you a little bit about life I don't think this movie did too well but it's one of those underrated classics it will you in some parts do not watch it if you don't enjoy horror movies what get out and The Shining instead of the three get out is the least scary next to shining then this one devil okay next forth this one's kind of common but I do feel that it's one of those movies that if you watch again and again it will teach you something new it'll make you understand the movie deeper it'll start making you question the way your mind works and the way your dreams work the movies called inception according


way your dreams work the movies called inception according to me it's one of Christopher Nolan's best movies according me Christopher Nolan is possibly the best director of all time I know that we've got arguments like oh no Scorsese's or better director or you know Quentin Tarantino was a better director I genuinely feel that Christopher Nolan is an abscessed director and this is the piece of work of his where he's put the most of himself into it where he's really kind of constructed this elaborate story it's called inception for a reason it's about dreams it's about the world of dreams it's about lucid dreaming being in control of your dreams entering other people's dreams very complicated movie you have to watch this with subtitles on if you are someone who really enjoys investing time in a movie in order to exercise your mind watch this movie if you haven't watched it already very entertaining I think I watch this movie 1020 times usually from dating anyone I ensure that this is the movie


from dating anyone I ensure that this is the movie I show them if they haven't seen it already because you know I'm all about that deep conversation and if you like deep conversation you probably like super deep movies as well of this entire list I think this movie is the deepest one okay next one another Christopher Nolan classic which will mess with your head which is probably as difficult to understand as Inception it's interstellar it's about time travel it's about space travel it's about black holes and it is about the dimension beyond us by that I mean that human beings live in a 3d dimension where there is length there is breath there is height okay so if there's an object in front of us our phones it has a length it has breadth it has thickness or height now human beings the way our minds are built we are not capable of understanding a dimension beyond these three dimensions interstellar talks about that dimension beyond these three dimensions and that dimension is called time so here's one of the things


dimension is called time so here's one of the things I retain from interstellar they talk about time as a linear concept that means you can go backwards in time you can go forward in time so the year 1999 is happening at the same time that 2020 is happening but it's just different perspectives because our minds aren't developed enough we can only perceive 2020 as a moment of time that's happening right now but right now 1999 is happening at the same time did you get it no don't worry about it watch interstellar and then listen to this podcast again so I get one more listen of one more view on this podcast and you understand this statement metal trust me you will start perceiving the world in a different way and a lot of the logic used in interstellar is also spoken about in the world of yoga as a way to understand and start perceiving the fourth dimension as a dimension beyond the three that we know of okay now we're at the top of our list


of okay now we're at the top of our list number two and number one these are the two movies that had a very deep impact on me I actually struggled to place them I didn't know which one I should keep at number two which one I should keep at number one number two another underrated movie it's become a TV classic this used to show this a lot on television sets all over the world it's called the Curious Case of Benjamin Button starring Brad Pitt it is a slightly sad movie it's about a guy who was born old like when he was born he had the physical appearance and the physical features of a really old man and throughout his entire life he ages backwards it's an incredible concept when you think about it honestly it's one of those movies where you you start living Brad Pitt's life he's playing Benjamin Button in the movie and the way they've directed the way they've shown the way his life pans out you start putting yourself in his mind within the movie


start putting yourself in his mind within the movie ages backwards okay so at the end of his life he actually becomes an infant and twirled the length of his life he actually falls in love with this lady who's normal she's born as a normal person and she grows old so while she's growing old he's growing young and that dynamic really messes with your head the way they've shown historical events and the movie really messes with your head the way they've shown that society treats him really messes with your head at the end of the movie some of those scenes will stay with you for life at the end of his life and he's remembering all the amazing characters that he met throughout his life that's something that'll stay with you that's something that stayed with me and that's a movie I do recommend to you and the final movie unlike most of the mine in movies that we've spoken about in this list the final movie is a commercially very successful movie stars Jim Carrey it's


a commercially very successful movie stars Jim Carrey it's called Bruce Almighty it's about a guy who meets God one day God is played by Morgan Freeman and God tells Bruce ed you know what for some time you'll get to be your do you'll have all my power so it's a regular guy who's kind of fallen out of love with his own life and he gets all of God's Powell's and therefore gets a lot of perspective on the world and realizes how small he is in this big bad world that we know of it's a movie that I saw as a ten-year-old and honestly I felt like I was an atheist before that I didn't understand the concept of God but I genuinely feel that even if someone who doesn't believe in God that's fine this movie will make you question that concept of a higher power is there something beyond humans which I strongly believe there is by the way I think you guys would have guessed that by watching the podcast till


have guessed that by watching the podcast till this point but highly recommended if you haven't seen that movie it's also extremely funny and those are the best kind of mind movies everything doesn't have to be serious it can mess with your head and at the same time it can entertain you like crazy so that was the short episode of their and me show today I hope you guys had fun I hope you enjoyed this list of quarantine movies that I prepared for you guys lots of love from run read as always if you're watching this on youtube share this video with your friends if you're listening to it on audio platforms share this audio listening concept with your clothes smart pee people who are looking for mind-bending content recommendations until next time guys from ranbir all about their own the runway show boom we'll see you later


romance it's one of my favorite topics to talk about on the ranvi show to the listeners of this podcast we're living in some grim times it's difficult times for the world and that's why it's hot let's kind of put out positivity in the world through this podcast keep in mind today's podcast is all about stories I am gonna talk about my own personal life without taking any names I'm gonna talk about everything that I've learned from all my breakups all the relationships that I've had in the past keep in mind I'm friends with all of them everyone I've dated everyone everyone that I've felt love for I'm still close to those people and I've taken the permission to create this episode so let's begin at the age of fourteen there were about seven girls in my class and there was this one person who I really gelled with a lot she was my best friend in school and what do you know you end up liking that person but here's the thing your definition of love as a kid is


the thing your definition of love as a kid is movies is Anjali and Rahul from Kuch Kuch Hota things like that so you think that the person who you feel for completely at that point is gonna be your ultimate person without understanding what you really need in life what you really need from a relationship without even completely understanding yourself you give all of yourself to that other person and that's pretty much what we did intense relationship have you guys seen the music video love the way you lie with Eminem and Rihanna I think it was kind of like that very intense fiery relationship it was a relationship from my childhood and I'd look back at it very fondly I feel like it was very innocent puppy love the first time you ever feel something for anyone else it's very innocent it's very beautiful it's very pure that's why when it ends it feels as intense it feels like a whole world has come crumbling down but the lesson I gained from that one was that


but the lesson I gained from that one was that never fear letting go of something good for something that could potentially be great as you grow up in life as you age you end up discovering a lot of things about yourself you also possibly grow into two different people while you're in a relationship that person might grow into something else you might grow into something else and eventually you might get a in your head that tells you there might be someone else out there for me someone who I'm more suited to and this is where the second person came into my life let's call her disha again we were too young back then I think you're about 19 or 20 years old and honestly Disha was also in the middle of studying I was in the middle of my studying process I feel like both of us made mistakes in that phase we paid heavily for those mistakes honestly this was also the phase when I began engineering college where I got into alcohol deeply I've spoken about it on the channel


alcohol deeply I've spoken about it on the channel in the past I actually dealt with a deep form of depression back then because of the cocktail of things happening around me this relationship happened at the wrong time in fact it pushed me deeper into that dark pit that I've created for myself at that point a lot of teenagers especially in the late teens early twenties deal with this kind of a situation and the reason I say teenagers in the early twenties is because I feel you really mature at 22 but before the age of 22 you still have an element of that appeal of left inside you and I thought that the only way I know how to love is with all 100 percent of my intensity that's the second lesson do not get emotionally dependent on other people do not make them the center of your world relationships should be a part of your life not your entire life your entire mood all your emotions the way you perceive the world the way you perceive your day should we


the world the way you perceive your day should we send out around one person because if at all it comes down crashing it's gonna hit you really really hard it's gonna push you down any deeper pit that you're already sliding down I was already in a very weak mental state at that point taught me a lot about life for sure when you're beaten down by life it's your biggest teacher in life that's also why we created the mental Fitness series on bi biceps eventually mental fitness is the ability to battle out difficult situations in the world in fact kovat 19 is a very good example of a difficult situation for the world where people's mental fitness levels are coming to the forefront you're going to see the most real version of people the underlying emotion behind everything they do is it positivity is it ambition is it hope is it fear is it cynicism is it angle what's happening all that's coming out but I feel if you're mentally fit you'll always perceive a


if you're mentally fit you'll always perceive a situation like over 19 or at least practically that's why you gotta work on your mental fitness and sometimes your relationships I have greatest teachers when it comes to mental fitness to toughening you up their greatest lessons in life whether you learn positive things from them or negative things from them they will make you a more evolved being and this is where the third relationship of my life began at about 21 I began a very beautiful relationship with a very beautiful person let's call her a Natasha and this person had the purest heart everything I felt I had felt for my previous two relationships I felt that this person was the first person who reciprocated those feelings this person was the first person who could love back with the same intensity over time once again that same problem of growing up you grow into two different individuals with different priorities but this is the one relationship I look back at and say that you know what that's the relationship that kept me sane it


what that's the relationship that kept me sane it probably got me out of that deep bit of darkness another beautiful aspect of relationships definitely helped you grow but more importantly at certain stages of your life they pull you out of the pit that you wish to be pulled out of they almost rescue you now it's not healthy but that's just the nature of being a human being sometimes you want someone to get that lifeboat and come get you if you're not mentally fit if you don't have perspective of this world if you're not a mature person exactly like a 21 year older and we're all about there sometimes you take people for granted sometimes you project all the pain that you've been through onto them that's a huge lesson I learned from that particular one don't project your pain don't project your insecurities on someone else especially someone who loves you with an open heart I probably projected more negativity on this person than my previous two relationship people because I felt like you know what no matter what


because I felt like you know what no matter what happens this person won't leave me that's why you can see like my ugliest side which is not correct and that's something you learn as you grow up you cannot project your shortcomings onto someone else for those of you don't understand what projection means I'm gonna give you an example now if you see a parent having a bad relationship your parents are rule setters you've grown up watching them looking at the behavioral patterns so say if you grow up and this happens to a lot of us because a lot of us grow up in broken families in India especially we grew up with parents having Tiff's with family members having Tiff's with each other we think if sir okay and they're part of all relationships so you've grown up holding on to that little negative idea which eventually you throw at the person you're dating you throw the person who loves you you start taking that person for granted huge life lesson never do that and you won't understand the


lesson never do that and you won't understand the depth of this situation until it happens to you until someone does the same to you if you've ever had a relationship that's even been marginally toxic the toxicity the poison of the relationship comes from the other person's past their experiences growing up their upbringing their insecurities which are projected onto you so next time if you're dating someone or if you're currently dating someone and you want to say something nasty to them you want to lash out at them angrily you want to take out your work frustration and throw it on them take a minute take a step back and understand the consequences of your anger understand the consequences of your toxicity that's what I understood from that relationship this person had the most beautiful heart in the world and I honestly feel it from every relationship you take away a positive from that person you're dating from that person I took away the possibility of being back nice in life how can someone be so nice we


nice in life how can someone be so nice we definitely grew into different people we parted ways and eventually the next person came into my life at this stage of my life I was in my early 20s and your early 20s especially in a country like ours which is this career-driven they're all about growth in this world sometimes even in your part nose you have a quest for growth through them you tell yourself that you know what am I gonna gain from this relationship how am I gonna grow in this relationship and if you have butterflies in your stomach because of someone then hey even better there's that little base layer of ambition and growth and positivity I don't talk of that the cherry on that cake is those butterflies you feel in your stomach you feel like you're a school kid even after college is done even when you're out in the real world sometimes you hold on to innocent love that way but you need to understand that the thing I keep saying about people growing into


the thing I keep saying about people growing into different individuals there's no jump like the jump that you experience from the age of 22 to 25 you'd be an extremely different person at 22 compared to the person you are at 25 because the real world starts hitting you you get access to older people who aren't just your teachers you get access to people who are your mentors you get access to new experiences you're earning money for the first time you're an adult for the first time it's a wave of newness you rapidly grow into different people now also understand that your early 20s especially in India is a estou period for your married life people especially society appearances generation expects us to get married in our late 20s possibly early thirties so any relationship you have in your early 20s is a test drive for that now you're changing so much from the age of 22 to 25 you're changing spiritually you're changing financially your understanding your own financial capabilities in this world and therefore your ambitions are changing


in this world and therefore your ambitions are changing rapidly so just imagine the depth of change that's taking place in your own mind maybe the reason that that person loved you in the first place may not exist within you anymore that's how much you change and the big lesson I learned from this one is that no matter how perfect a relationship seems today always take it a little slowly and communicate a lot understand the other person's perspective especially in your twenties and and the stage of life that they're at and if you feel that you're taking away from that person's happiness in any aspect then slow down a bit don't get ahead of yourself life is extremely long and the best relationships are sometimes the ones that progress really slowly until you're married to someone you can't give 100% of yourself to that person please understand that and that's another mistake that sometimes bollywood makes us do they talk about crazy intense love that appeal of which you've gone through in school you've made those mistakes


you've gone through in school you've made those mistakes but you repeat those mistakes in your mid-20s because hey you're earning money you're an adult you have your own personality maybe this time you're so sure of yourself the same way you was so sure of your career you're sure that this one's gonna work and it may not because destiny may not be in your hands destiny may not be in your favor maybe you two aren't meant to be together you need to process that fact that until you're actually married to someone help until you're married to someone for at least five years I feel you should go slowly take one day at a time especially in your mid-twenties we're growing so fast there's a reason that there's so many divorces in the modern day a lot of people rush into marriage a lot of people rush into marriage for the wrong reasons dating someone going out of them hanging out with them is very different from living with them you don't understand what it's like to live


them you don't understand what it's like to live with a person when you travel with them or when you have a live-in relationship and good luck trying to create a living relationship in India not the easiest place to have one but that's the true test for marriage you need to experience what it's like being with that same person for more than just a week you need to understand what that person's like to breed with you need to have comfortable silences you need to be with that person all the time all your activities your conversations your ambitions your goals need to match it gets low it's a learning process and finally I'm gonna leave you all with the almost 27 year old version of ranvier at this stage of my life here was my Phi rules for successful relationships rule 1 as much as bad breakups have taught me against proclaiming this rule I still believe in true love and I still believe that butterflies in your stomach are a necessity you need to have that base level of Attraction


you need to have that base level of Attraction you need to be either physically attracted to the person you need to be intellectually attracted as a person and if you're a spiritually evolved person you need to be spiritually attracted to the person that base of Attraction has to be there when you meet the person for the first time you have to get some butterflies in your stomach going you know what even three fours into a good relationships sometimes you need those butterflies in your stomach and keep in mind this does happen to human beings maybe it's that person's voice maybe it's that person's odda in Hindi there's a word called odda which basically translates to the little subtle movements you know the things they do the way they put the hair back the way they flare their nostos when they angry these little things when you break up with someone those are the things you miss because those were the things that got you charmed in the first place the way that person spoke the way


the first place the way that person spoke the way the person smiled not just the looks not just the brains it's all our package deal that kind of chills up the butterflies in your stomach the second aspect of this friendship friendship is way more important than relationships romance and love if you begin very intensely if you begin romantically there's a chance that all that file might burn out at some point but if your relationship is built on the basis of friendship that's the true test for relationship a great life hack is to be able to see how well you gel with that person's friends if you get along with the friends you'll probably end up in a long-term relationship with that person because see when you're attracted to someone it's a combination of lust love and friendship eventually lust fades sometimes even love fades what you're left with is friendships and what relationships turn into our partnerships according to me that's why you need to be able to have that partnership with that person and the test for partnership


partnership with that person and the test for partnership is that if you remove that element of attraction who is this person that you love you'll be able to know who that person is by knowing their friends because people vibe with others like themselves if you like the French's company it's very likely that you're in a good long-term relationship right now if you don't take a step back and gauge this situation see this isn't a golden rule this doesn't apply to everyone but most cases you need to see if you can jell with their friends third point don't go out looking for perfection in relationships you don't go out looking for the 100% perfect partner no one's perfect you are not perfect you're probably never gonna be perfect at the most you get an eight or ten or a nine or ten this person might look gorgeous but might have some major flaws say in conversation this person might be extremely intelligent but may not be able to dress well and that might be an important factor for you this person


that might be an important factor for you this person may be smart and loving towards you but doesn't really want to talk to your family now you've gotta ask yourself that those two points that are missing if this person's an eight on ten those two points that are missing are they that crucial for you or can you bridge that gap through good communication this is where friendship comes in as a factor once again talk a lot to each other relationships are about accepting people for who they are but it's also about bridging gaps through a bit of compromise so be ready to compromise because you wanna order a 10 on 10 either you're probably an 8 or 10 boy number 4 if you are in a serious relationship or you want to develop a serious relationship with someone exchange ideas about your long-term goals where do you see yourself when you're 50 years old not professionally where do you see yourself is it a big house in Europe in some orchard is it a small flat in Mumbai or Delhi but you


a small flat in Mumbai or Delhi but you just want your coziness what you just want maybe your dog maybe a kid is it somewhere of beach in Goa and then you've got ask that person these questions where do they see themselves if you really love them ask yourself if you can put yourself within their dreams discuss your long-term visions because that needs to match and when that that's what creates magic in the most symbiotic relationships I'm dead sure Bill Gates and Melinda Gates spoke about this at some point they exchange ideas I'm dead sure Barack Obama and Michelle Obama exchanged ideas about the long-term visions your visions got a match the ambitions after match what you want from life in terms of kids pets the way you want your life to be your daily cycles what time you want to wake up things like that little things like that matter in the long term and the fifth and final rule have a life outside of them I've repeated this point through the course of this podcast but that's


point through the course of this podcast but that's the one big learning of my life till this point it cannot be the center of your world your career your own family your own parents your pets eventually your children or a part of your world none of these aspects our entire world and your relationship also fits into your world in the same way the best relationships help you grow they bring out the best in you they help you learn a lot about life they support you in your dark times but there's still just a part of your life remember that love is the biggest motivation in the world I was recently listening to a podcast by Tim Ferriss where he was interviewing the former Surgeon General of USA who has dealt with a lot of patients who were on their deathbed and his one learning of life was that when people are dying they don't talk about the career they don't talk about the Instagram following they don't even talk about the amount of money they have in the bank they talk about the relationships


they have in the bank they talk about the relationships that were the highlights of their life the people who invoked a feeling of love inside them that's what you remember when you're dying love is the biggest motivation behind everything we do we want to become rich to give to the ones around us not just to feel a sense of power ourselves that's not how you mean Nature has built human nature's all about socializing giving to others and that's why I strongly believe that relationships are definitely just a part of your life but don't stop believing in love at the same time when you're loving love with an open heart but love with all these learnings as a part of your subconscious mind I hope you enjoyed this podcast wow this was like an intense heart to heart a lot of your requests for these episodes where only you should interviewed Ranveer I think this is the closest you'll get to back and in the time of covert 19 I hope you'll like my home setup I


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this is the story of the wildest experience of my life but it was also the most important character building experience of my life if you've heard of ayahuasca this is going to be a great ayahuasca perspective for you and if you've not heard about ayahuasca here's what i'll tell you human civilization has been around for a long time they tell us that it all started only about four thousand five thousand years ago modern historians don't believe in that modern historians believe that it's been around for like more than fifty thousand 60 000 years there were some important ancient civilizations indian civilization was one of them the egyptian civilization was one of them another very important ancient civilization which stretches back possibly beyond 50 000 years ago is the amazonian rainforest civilization in the same way that we have ayurveda in india the amazonian civilizations have their own version of ayurveda where they talk about herbs and plants that are native to the amazon rainforest there's more than two million three million


amazon rainforest there's more than two million three million species of plants that are already discovered in the amazonian rainforest and you know what they're constantly discovering new species of plants now imagine out of all these two or three million plants somehow some human being and i doubt it was a human being i do believe that there was some kind of divine intervention or alien intervention but of all the plants in the amazonian rainforest you combine two of them the leaves of one plant the creepers or vines of another plant you brew them together you boil them together and you create a drink like chai like tea you consume that drink and imagine that there's a spiritual ceremony attached to consuming that drink there's someone who guides you through that spiritual experience created by consuming this natural drink that person is called a shaman the culture is called the shamanic culture the drink we're speaking of is ayahuasca it's currently being studied by neuroscientists all over the world because of its healing properties


all over the world because of its healing properties keep in mind in this video i am not promoting the use of ios i don't want you guys to listen to this and say oh i want to go into ayahuasca right now it's not that let me get into the details i've done ayahuasca myself i'm going to be talking about the experience in detail but it's also important for you to know that you need to know the back story of ayahuasca what does it do science has found out that ayahuasca has the active compound called dmt or dimethyltryptamine dimethyltryptamine when it crosses the blood-brain barrier when it actually reaches your mind a lot of it can break old neural patterns and can form new neural patterns that means imagine you're a kid you're five years old you're little you're weak some dogs on the road start chasing you you get scared you run away from them then there's a neural pattern that gets formed in your head and the neural pattern explains to your


your head and the neural pattern explains to your mind dogs are scary at one point in my life they chased me down the road therefore associate your own internal fear with the concept of dogs you grow up with that neural pattern dogs are scary dogs are scary dogs are scary you go to your friend's house your friend's dog is extremely friendly but you're still scared of that dog why because of your neural pattern and this is one small instance imagine all the instances you go through in your life all these multiple neural patterns that are formed in your head ayahuasca has the capability of destroying certain neural patterns and forming new neural patterns the reason it's a combination of two plants is because the leaves of that one plant have the active compound of dmt but if you just consume that plant or a drink made from the leaves of that plant your stomach acids destroyed emt the creepers the second plant in the drink actually blocks out some of your stomach acids and the active


out some of your stomach acids and the active compound of dmt is therefore absorbed by your body and it can reach your brain by crossing the blood-brain barrier now out of two to three million amazonian plants how did someone figure let me combine this one and that one and i'll be left with ayahuasca nobody knows the origins of it the only thing that people know is that it's been around for a while and that it's played a huge role in the human evolutionary process it's helped a lot of people on a spiritual level it's helped a lot of people grow into the better version of themselves and in saying that it is not a recreational drug when we think about something like alcohol or marijuana you do these things for fun you do these things for recreation they're fun to do even something like lsd and shrooms are relatively on the more fun side and ayahuasca experience is never done for fun an ayahuasca experience and i'm speaking as someone who's done


experience and i'm speaking as someone who's done it shouldn't be done by everyone it is an intense experience please understand that what's the story my final year of engineering college i was listening to a podcast with graham hancock who's considered one of the world's most famous most respected historians who's doing a podcast with joe rogan joe rogan speaks a lot about ayahuasca on his own podcast graham hancock spoke about how he's done ayahuasca multiple times and every time he's done it he had become a better version of himself he had healed in some aspect he spoke about how ideally you should do it in the amazon rainforest you should go to south america and curate an experience for yourself you should find a legitimate shaman because there's a lot of fake shamans out there and there are some negative vibes associated with the term ayahuasca there have been ayahuasca deaths which aren't legitimately ayahuasca deaths their deaths caused due to those fake


deaths their deaths caused due to those fake shamans who probably mix other substances with the ayahuasca call it ayahuasca sell it to tourists sell it to people who are looking for healing and actually cause more harm to them than benefit all right so please understand that that's one of the primary reasons you shouldn't go out looking for ayahuasca they say that with these sacred plants which are also part of ancient native american culture the plants always find you you never go out searching for those plants that's something i'd read and i never really believed that i was like okay cool whatever graham hancock also stressed on the fact that when you try experiencing an ayahuasca trip when you consume the drink when you consume the brew a shaman has to be around you he has to guide you through that trip because you open a whole new dimension of existence and it's very easy to lose your mind completely someone has to guide you through the trip it's very important to the process now he


the trip it's very important to the process now he also said that the first part of the trip is where you'll either puke a lot or you'll cry a lot ayahuasca is a highly acidic substance that's the biological aspect of it that they say that it's so acidic that your stomach feels dirty that your stomach feels uncomfortable and throws up whatever is inside the spiritual aspect of throwing up in ayahuasca is that throughout your life you accumulate a lot of physical toxins because of your bad habits your bad eating habits your bad recreational habits and more importantly you accumulate a lot of emotional toxins painful experiences from your life hurtful experiences that are trapped inside you that even you didn't know actually hiding in some corner of your being that's what you puke out it's a toxin release but it's extremely intense and it's usually accompanied by hallucinations so i listened to this podcast and i pretty much forgot about it cut to a year later


pretty much forgot about it cut to a year later when i began beer biceps i was very nervous i've spoken about my early struggles enough on this podcast people were saying all kinds of things people are telling me not to go down this road of becoming a youtuber there's no such career called a social media career and it's all fake and there's all these like voices which were pulling me down and in the middle of all this one day my dad comes up to me and he says that hey you know what before you begin your career let's plan a final family vacation and go to this place called seychelles so at that stage of my life i was so stressed and so unsure about what i was doing that i agreed pretty readily went to seychelles and i was trying to switch off from the world of early careers in that country on vacation with my family the beautiful thing about my family is that on vacation they let me be by myself i go do my own


let me be by myself i go do my own thing i was on the seychelles beach and i started a conversation with this one person started talking about a lot of deep things i explained what i do basically did my own version of a mini podcast with that guy and he mentioned shamanic culture to explain a certain concept to me so the moment i heard shamanic i went back to that graham hancock conversation and i looked at him and i said wait you mean like ayahuasca shamans and then he looks at me and says where have you heard that word ayahuasca so i told him that you know what this is what i know about it i also know that it's a pretty intense experience it's not recreational while it can help you it makes you face your worst fears in terms of hallucinations you'll see the things you're scared of the most in your hallucinations and then maybe it becomes a better trip later he looks at me and says don't believe everything you


looks at me and says don't believe everything you see or read or hear on the internet if you want to know what ayahuasca is experience it and then come to conclusions so i looked at him and said yeah but for that i'll have to go to south america to experience it right so he looks at me and says what if i tell you that i'm a trained shaman and i'm carrying ayahuasca with me and at that moment i realized has the ayahuasca reached out to me i didn't reach out to it and in the next moment i thought to myself no no i don't want to go through scary hallucinations that's not my kind of thing at that stage of my life i was drinking a lot of alcohol consuming a lot of cannabis and i thought i'm all right i'm okay with this much i'm just 22 i don't want to face my biggest fears i met this guy constantly over the next two days and we weren't just talking about ayahuasca


days and we weren't just talking about ayahuasca we're talking about all kinds of topics but he told me a few crucial things about ayahuasca he said that that bad aspect of the trip that first difficult part of the trip it doesn't even happen to everyone when you consume marijuana or alcohol your body reacts to those substances and then creates a high or a state of existence within your own mind when you consume ayahuasca you're consuming a substance that's completely alive it's got a soul and identity of its own i'd also read these books by someone called carlos castanada i think the book was called don juan by carlos castanada he spoke about a very important concept so ancient culture was from the americas that's the ancient american culture and south american cultures had these nine sacred plants they considered particular plants and particular plant brews to be very important from a spiritual perspective these plants have consumed under the right circumstances could help you grow a lot


the right circumstances could help you grow a lot spiritually but you needed the right circumstances and each of these plants had what you can think of as a spirit attached to it okay now imagine that you're alone in the room with one other person imagine that it's a man it's just you and that man even if you close your eyes and if it's your dad your brother you know that there's a masculine presence in the room with you you feel a male energy now in your head the same scenario you remove the man you put a woman you put your sister or your mum you suddenly feel feminine energy but i'm talking to you you're feeling masculine energy through me it's a guy talking to you you're listening to a man's voice imagine that i was a woman you'd feel a lot of feminine energy coming through the screen similarly each of these plants had either masculine or feminine energies attached to them and when you consume them under the right circumstances you do


you consume them under the right circumstances you do feel an external presence so say you do it alone with a shaman you'll feel the presence of the shaman with you and then you'll feel the presence of what they call mother ayahuasca in your hallucinations you might feel a feminine presence in the same room as you are it's something very difficult to explain so let me try breaking it down a little further different people have different kinds of hallucinations when they do ayahuasca someone will picture a female lion someone will picture a doll someone will picture a really scary looking lady someone will picture a beautiful lady their own version of mother ayahuasca similarly there's another plant called peyote it's not shrooms or magic mushrooms that's a different plant but peyote there's a father figure that exists in association with peyote so when people consume peyote they feel a very strong masculine presence as a part of the hallucinations as a part of their experience and everyone who does peyote speaks of


their experience and everyone who does peyote speaks of father peyote every single person that does ayahuasca speaks of mother ayahuasca a female presence which kind of sounds scary on the surface level but trust me it was a huge aspect of the ayahuasca experience and it actually made it a lot nicer now a lot of skeptics will be listening to this podcast and say this guy's talking about drugs he's talking about hallucinations oh my god i completely understand where you're coming from but this is societal conditioning all your life you've been told that listen you can drink alcohol which is an extremely harmful substance for your body and your mind and your spiritual journey but because we even brought them in a society where it's legal you think it's all right similarly a substance like cannabis which is harmful if done in excess but it's way less harmful than alcohol that's also villainized in our society because it's clubbed with other drugs like cocaine


because it's clubbed with other drugs like cocaine or heroin which are actually extremely harmful for your body much more harmful than alcohol is without getting into the physiological details of the substance i believe that you should trust 50 000 years of wisdom rather than trusting laws which were made in the last 100 years primarily out of fear primarily out of political organizations controlling their own citizens telling us that you need to think like this because these substances are bad and if you do this you are bad you are a drug addict it doesn't work like that let your own experiences decide your own opinions coming back to the story he explained to me that the ayahuasca experience would be very individualistic so what i read online was again specific to those individuals what i would go through in the ayahuasca experience would probably be very very different so that got me thinking and i honestly didn't know what direction i should go in that also happened to be the same day that i went for my


to be the same day that i went for my first ever deep sea dive like the one they do in zindagi namely dubara with you know scuba diving equipment i went on a guided dive basically someone held my hand but took me really deep i think i went 36 feet deep underwater i saw a whale on my first dive i saw a whole underwater world i saw sharks near me kind of opened up my perspectives you know how a deep sea dive starts you sit at the edge of the boat and then they tell you to just fall off the edge you need to trust that the water will just support you so you're kind of scared because you're kind of falling into an open ocean far away from the land but you just go with it you fall backwards you land in the ocean you look underneath you and this colorful fish you were able to see all those colors and all those experiences because you decided to just take that plunge so while i was swimming


just take that plunge so while i was swimming underwater with all these fish with that whale that i saw with those sharks it struck me that i should probably just go for it because it kind of was like ayahuasca reached out to me i didn't go out searching for it i knew what it was i'd studied about it out of interest but i never thought i'd end up doing it so after my dive i went back to the surface i met that guy i told him that tonight we'll do an ayahuasca trip he was a shaman a shaman guides you through the experience now when you consume ayahuasca some shamans will also consume some of it along with you and some people say that your shaman will kind of share your experience they'll also be a part of your whole journey along with ayahuasca here's what i saw he called me to his room he did a few rituals like how we have mantras in our country he said a few of his shamanic


our country he said a few of his shamanic mantras he poured out two shots of ayahuasca it was like this deep brown liquid which was smelling bitter so i looked at the brown liquid and that same thought of just falling into the ocean took over my head i just took the glass downed it best choice i ever made especially for my career i'll come to while later let's talk about the experience first so for half an hour nothing happens everything's still normal my shaman told me specifically that the moment you start feeling something we'll switch the lights off and we lie down nothing happened initially and then suddenly i look at the walls i look at the floor i look at the roof and everything is becoming a little more jelly-like the solidity vanished from the floor i looked everywhere and everything was becoming a little more liquid i looked at my shaman and he was kind of moving and this was the beginning of the trip i told him that i feel like something weird


i told him that i feel like something weird is happening and he said okay it's begun so he made me lie down switched off the lights he also lay down and then he just told me to close my eyes i closed my eyes and the one thing that my ayahuasca trip was defined by was the presence of animals i have no idea why but animals were something that i was always drawn to even as a child i'd watched natgeo all day i'd watch the discovery channel all day and i saw oh big whale just swallowing me when i went inside the whale's mouth there was this long road and suddenly i felt like i was kind of going down a car in that road but it wasn't a car i was just sliding down that road in some kind of a seat and i didn't know what was happening i opened my eyes and everything vanished everything was normal i wasn't even feeling kind of high or woozy or anything and i just turned to him and i said


anything and i just turned to him and i said hey you know what this is happening he said no you're supposed to close your eyes and just keep experiencing it go deeper in your trip i swear to god i was feeling completely sober and i asked him that is it normal he said yes and this is why it's not a recreational drug it doesn't take your senses away from you you're completely in control and honestly if you want it to stop it will stop but if you wanted to go deeper that's where you'll get your answers one important point i want to put across to you guys and this is something i forgot to mention earlier in this podcast you have to have an intention when you're doing your ayahuasca trip so what was my intention at this stage of my life i was extremely underconfident i had no self-belief i was constantly being told by my family by my friends by the world that this beer biceps choice was the wrong one and i


this beer biceps choice was the wrong one and i was gonna fail and i'd then have to go back and re-enter the rat race which i'd run away from which i make videos about why you shouldn't be entering so i was very afraid at this stage of my life at the start of the trip my shaman had also asked me to write down the question that i had for mother ayahuasca the question that i wanted answered so i wrote two questions the first question was this beer biceps thing that i've started is it the right direction for my life am i doing the right thing and the second question i asked is that if i really want success in my life what's the one thing i should be adding to my personality or what's the one thing i should be working on two extremely simple questions coming back to the experience i'd ask these two questions about life but what i got in return was animal imagery i'm the kind of guy who even today when i have dreams those important dreams


even today when i have dreams those important dreams always contain an element of some animal and they say that in the study of dreams there's lots of websites all about dreams you guys should check this out so say you have a lion doing some particular thing in your dream attacking you or you riding the back of a lion it all means something animal presence in your dreams means something and it happens to a lot of people who are on spiritual journeys so that's what i was seeing in my ayahuasca experience and keep in mind at that point my spiritual journey had not begun i was just seeing animals so i felt my shaman next to me i felt he was also on the road with me and suddenly me and him were turning into different animals we were lions at first then he turned into horses and he turned into dragons and we were just going down this road so once i kind of made peace with this weird hallucination i looked up around me away from the road and


i looked up around me away from the road and i saw these little windows and those windows contained key memories from my life now i wanted to actually enter some of those memories like almost like time travel i wanted to travel back to those important character building moments in my life and the moment that wish popped up in my head this masquerade mask actually entered the hallucination it was a feminine looking masquerade mask with wings it kind of just settled down like a feather right in front of me while i was traveling down that road it was traveling with me floating near me kind of landed on me it touched me i touched the mask i realized that that was my version of mother ayahuasca weird right and mask took me away and asked me okay what memory do you want to enter and i said i want to go there i went into one of those windows it was a memory from my childhood it was my sister and myself sitting and watching tv after school complete peace


myself sitting and watching tv after school complete peace you're done with your homework it's probably a friday evening you're watching some cartoon with your sister it's a very happy peaceful childhood memory i stayed there for a while i felt like the concept of time got extremely stretched out i felt like i could probably stay there for like a month in the timeline of that dimension and then come out and it would have probably been just a few seconds in the real dimension two seconds in the real dimension could be as long as you want in the ayahuasca dimension so i spent some time in that memory as a third person just seeing these two kids myself and my sister kind of like a weird time traveling experience came out of that trip entered another trip where i saw a negative experience i think my parents were shouting at me about something and they were shouting about something in specific so i heard that whole shouting experience as a third person viewer and it kind of taught me certain things about


and it kind of taught me certain things about myself in one of our old podcast we spoke about implicit memories things that have happened in your childhood someone shouted at you some negative experiences which leave scars forever and you don't even know why you have those scars as an adult you don't know why you have certain fears negative neural patterns you don't know why you think in a certain way you don't know why certain foods trouble you why certain words trouble you my certain experiences suddenly start troubling you and it's because of all these implicit memories ios was my first experience of re-experiencing implicit memories and i went inside multiple windows and i found all these old implicit memories of myself and a lot of my current thought patterns in life made sense to me oh that's why i kind of fear the dark oh that's why i kind of doubt myself so much oh okay this is why i feel like i procrastinate too much i started also getting the


i procrastinate too much i started also getting the solutions in my head i didn't know what was happening but then it also struck me that hold on it's been a while since i've been in this trip am i not supposed to puke that's usually what happens right that's what i read online that you puke after ayahuasca but i wasn't even feeling slightly nauseated i was feeling fine i was feeling happy i was enjoying the experience that was time traveling i was like experiencing this beautiful scenario that you didn't know your mind was capable of experiencing and you know what else i was experiencing this is very crucial for the mood of this story in video games imagine that you have a life meter that's as big as 100 points when you go to a next level of a video game sometimes the video game rewards you and says you know what from 100 points you're gonna go to 110 points in terms of your life meter imagine i had a happiness meter


your life meter imagine i had a happiness meter that locked at about 100 ayahuasca allowed me to access a new dimension of happiness it was a slightly more elevated level of happiness i was feeling happier than i ever felt and i was actually at this point in my life i was feeling a lot of self-doubt and there wasn't that much happiness in my life but ayahuasca unlocked something new in me i didn't know was happening but i kept continuing down that trip i also felt a strong presence of god for the first time in that trip while i've prayed a lot in my childhood i wasn't a spiritual kid growing up i just prayed i knew that there's one god there's a higher power and you gotta express gratitude you've gotta kind of ask for what you want but that's all that the concept of god was for me so ayahuasca mother ayahuasca that masquerade mask was leading me down that ayahuasca journey and at the same time i felt


ayahuasca journey and at the same time i felt like a masculine presence which i consider the presence of god came down and led me along the road along with mother ayahuasca the two elements of the higher power the feminine element which is mother ayahuasca the masculine element which was father god once i felt this presence of parents felt exactly for those elements the way i feel for my parents okay a mom and a dad once i felt that combined presence i went back to my original question i said that am i doing the right thing in life and the straight up answer was hold on let us show you so the two hallucination parents changed up the entire trip for me from experiencing the road and those animals and those time traveling windows the scenery changed into the side of a highway there's no cars on the highway i could just see the horizons on the two ends so the parents showed me one end of the horizon and i heard this massive sound like something huge was coming my way


this massive sound like something huge was coming my way before i knew it i saw this big fireball just flash across me it came from one horizon went across me and went to the other horizon and as it went its size kept increasing the ayahuasca that element of god looked at me and told me that is your career if you continue down this current path that you're on that's what this particular road can lead you to and then i said what about my second question the second question was what do i need to add to my mind in order to maximize my success and the parents kind of looked at me and said you've got everything that you need to succeed other than self-belief you have zero self-belief which was very true at that stage of my life i'd spent four years in engineering college hearing insults from teachers who are upset with their own lives hearing my parents say that your marks aren't great i hope you're gonna do something in life hearing my friends say things


do something in life hearing my friends say things like why you're not going abroad you're making the wrong choice by staying back in india just hearing negative feedback but i just beaten on my self-belief to zero points 100 points a very negative mind space to be in at the moment they told me that you need to incorporate the concept of self-belief in your existence everything faded away the trip stopped happening there was nothing there was just darkness you know when you close your eyes you just see darkness there's just that man i open my eyes and i'm back in that hotel room i look at my shaman i woke him up throughout this experience he was doing a few chants he was doing a few shamanic chants but i was too withdrawn from him i was too within myself within my own mind within my own experience i looked at him i was full of emotion and i couldn't i couldn't explain my entire trip to him but i said that the end of the trip was this those


said that the end of the trip was this those two questions that i wrote on that piece of paper these are the answers it's the right choice my career is going to be one fireball of a career but i need to tell myself that i am capable of killing it in my own life and the shaman looked at me and asked me what about the negative aspect of the experience i looked at him and i just started crying 22 year old buff power lifter just weeping like a little baby crying i said i don't know there was no negative experience it was just so happy powerful and positive and he looked at me and said this is the height of the negative aspect of this experience tears that's it that's the only negative aspect of it because you're probably not capable of handling more negativity at this point maybe in the future when you're slightly stronger mentally and if you try doing ayahuasca again maybe you'll have a more intense negative experience but at this stage of your life


intense negative experience but at this stage of your life ayahuasca has only given you what you can handle and i looked at him and i said yes that's probably true i was a different person after that day i didn't tell my parents about it i've still not told them in detail about this experience but i swear to god i felt like one personality entering that ayahuasca experience and another personality exiting from it that actually led me to researching a lot more about ayahuasca the scientific aspects of it the biological aspects of it and of everything i read that neural pattern thing i told you guys about that it creates new neural patterns that was something i experienced in an extremely strong way i felt like i was more powerful i felt like someone gave me an extremely powerful sword called self-belief i read other people's accounts of doing ayahuasca and everyone said that it gave them the weapon that they needed at that stage of their life there's almost no one who's had a negative


life there's almost no one who's had a negative ayahuasca experience very rarely on the internet you come across someone who says that okay you know what i regret doing it most people say that it was a character building experience but it's very very very crucial to know it is not safe to go out searching for ayahuasca experiences and i feel you shouldn't there's two reasons why i explained the scientific reason first the scientific reason is that there's a lot of people who crooks lots of fake shamans out there the shaman was legitimate he had explained a lot more details to me which i haven't spoken about on this podcast but i knew for a fact that he was a legitimate shaman he knew what he was talking about he was trained by shamans in the amazon rainforest so a lot of people were just mixing and matching chemical substances and selling it as ayahuasca and that's why it's important not to go out looking for it but if you are looking for it i'm


for it but if you are looking for it i'm gonna ask you this are you looking for it because you want to experience it are you looking for it because you want to add some element within your character do you want to heal something within yourself ayahuasca is primarily for people who have lived out life enough who have been broken enough by life to need some kind of healing healing is the key word later in life i discovered meditation strangely thanks to the same shaman i met him about six months later in india he came to india and he explained how he had stopped doing ayahuasca and he had gotten into this thing called meditation he explained basic um chanting meditation to me and keep in mind this guy's a white european guy all right he got into um chanting meditation sitting in one place taking a deep breath keeping your back straight and when you breathe out you go oh [Music] he said it was one of the greatest healing experiences of his life


one of the greatest healing experiences of his life 20 minutes of um chanting meditation every single day and i asked him that is it the same as doing ayahuasca and he gave me this analogy which i completely agree with he said that what is ayahuasca basically it's an experience that floods your brain with dmt and that dmt is what makes the trip happen what breaks neural patterns what makes neural patterns what changes the structure of your brain dmt is a substance that can be produced within your body as well within your mind is something called a pineal gland in pop culture the penile gland is also referred to as the third eye this react the opening to another dimension the pineal gland gets stimulated when you do deep meditations especially when you practice daily meditations here's the analogy he gave me while ayahuasca is like downing a barrel full of whiskey in one go meditation is like having a sip of whiskey one step at a time so each meditation session


one step at a time so each meditation session won't be as powerful and life-changing as one ayahuasca session but in the long term meditation daily meditation does stimulate the production of dmt within your mind that causes that state of bliss that causes that state of extended happiness that changes the structure of your mind over time but most importantly it helps you level up it helps you level up by healing you from within that's how i slipped into that process of deep meditations and that's why i promote the idea of meditation this much it's basically the same thing they say that your brain is flooded with dmt only at three moments within your existence the first is when you're born the second is when you die and that's why they say my life flashed before my eyes remember that time travel analogy i gave you about my own ayahuasca experience when your brain is flooded with dmt you don't have a correct concept of time your concept of time changes up time feels stretched out


concept of time changes up time feels stretched out that's what happens near your death when you know you're going to die time feels stretched out you go through an extremely intense dmt style experience because your brain is flooded with dmt the third moment is in very vivid dreams where crazy stuff is happening within your dreams you're flying you're controlling the shape of buildings around you that's when your brain is flooded with a little bit of dmt but the fourth way to release dmd naturally in your mind is by stimulating your pineal gland over time through daily meditation i've never wanted to do ayahuasca after that day there's been no urge for that but as i've gotten into deeper meditation as i've gotten into deeper spirituality i've reached a stage and a depth in my meditation where i do get lost in my own mind sometimes my meditations get so deep that i lose my sense of identity i don't remember that i'm a youtuber i don't remember


remember that i'm a youtuber i don't remember whether or not i'm a man or a woman i don't remember my own name who i am what i do i just have a sense of me being someone who's within their own meditation focusing on my breath that's what my focus boils down to these kind of strange experiences happen through deep meditation so all of you who stayed and listened to this podcast till this point i'm sure you're very intrigued by the concept of ayahuasca but i stress on this statement once again don't go out chasing it if it has to come to you it will come to you you don't choose ayahuasca ayahuasca chooses you but what i do urge you to do is heal yourself take a deep dive into the world of spirituality if you do want to flood your brain with dmt you don't have to go to the amazon rainforest you have to get into a habit of daily meditation and go deeper into that spiritual journey as my


and go deeper into that spiritual journey as my careers unfolded i look at that ayahuasca experience and i realized that it made me realize that such intensely deep spiritual experiences are possible you can feel the presence of mother ayahuasca and father god and these big fireballs and future predictions and time travel all these larger than life experiences are possible in this world within our existence you're brought up in a certain world being told go to school go to college go get a job go have kids go do this go do that it's a controlled environment but there's a complete dimension out there that's waiting to be tapped into that's what you need to remember and that opened up the possibility of personal change through spiritual journeys and through meditation so if i feel like meditation is the single biggest factor in my life today that possibility of meditation began in that ayahuasca journey and that's why i always stress that doing ayahuasca was the one spiritual turning point of my life where i


one spiritual turning point of my life where i became open to a lot of concepts that i didn't know exist i used to be that guy who would make fun of people like myself who promote the idea of meditation promote the idea of these crazy experiences like ayahuasca now i'm that guy who's talking about it in podcast and on youtube final message of this video stay open to all kinds of experiences and please explore the spiritual world there's a lot of self-discovery and all kinds of growth whether that's career growth whether that's growth in relationships whether that's growth in your own personal empathy it begins with spirituality reading spiritual books meditating daily and listening to different perspectives thank you guys i hope you guys enjoyed today's episode of the ranveer show


dude i feel stressed i feel pressure i still have bad mood swings sometimes but that's part of it and and that reminds you how far you have to go and it keeps you humble and it keeps you grounded and also it helps you empathize with people more because if you never felt that way and then someone tells me if a young person comes up to me and says jay i feel stressed and i'm like oh come on just get over it like there is no such thing as stress that's not true and so i find that when i feel stressed or fearful or anxious i explore it a little deeper so that next time someone says that to me i can actually feel empathy and compassion for them because i know how it feels [Music] jai shetty my brother it's an honor having you on the ranvir show there's also so much that people like myself motivation speakers all over the world content creators all over the world have picked up from you firstly


all over the world have picked up from you firstly congratulations on your book it's come out it's become a best seller and uh secondly thank you man like you i don't i'm sure you know the value you spread out but i'm not 100 sure if you know about the magnitude of the value you spread in the world well i want to thank you man i've been a fan of watching you and seeing what you've been doing and it's really inspiring and so i'm grateful to be live with you man this is uh this is my honor and keep doing what you're doing you're having such a big impact yourself and i'm glad that we're getting to do something together i can't wait to meet you in person likewise brother i'm sure if this whole pandemic situation hadn't happened you would have probably been in india at this point definitely um with which is going to be a theme on this podcast there's a lot of indian fans of yours watching this um the


of indian fans of yours watching this um the big question to you is what has this country and this culture and this heritage giving you that you carry through into your career into your work into the jai shetty who's staying in los angeles and talking to the kardashians and athletes what is indian culture given to that person yeah so i was born and raised in london but of course my heritage is indian my father was born in pune but originally from mangalore and my mother was actually born in yemen but she's gujarati so there's a big quadratic community that grew up in yemen and for me india has given me every piece of wisdom that i try and share that i'm trying to extend out to the world all comes from the texts of india so whether it's the bhagavad-gita whether it's the vaders whether it's any of those amazing literatures and i think also that incredible understanding of growing up in an indian home with good hospitality uh good values


an indian home with good hospitality uh good values uh the ability to welcome others into your life to to want to serve others to want to have a positive impact on others so really i would say that everything that i'm doing is fueled by the incredible culture and love that i receive from windy india through its books and text but also through the people so jay i want to ask you a lot more about the books but i gotta know about your time spent in an indian ashram as a monk how did you land up in that specific ashram and where was it yeah absolutely so i was studying in london and i was really interested by people's motivational journeys people who went from nothing to something and it wasn't the material success i was impressed by i was impressed by people who had sacrificed who'd broken through depression who'd really worked on themselves and so i was reading biographies and autobiographies and i would go and hear people speak because i was really inspired by listening


people speak because i was really inspired by listening to amazing people with great insights and once i was invited to hear this monk speak and and i thought what am i going to learn from a monk you know like what do monks have to teach and i went along anyway because i told my friends and and i know your your tag name is beer biceps so i told i told the team that i told my friends sorry that i would only go if we went to have a drink afterwards and and they agreed with me and so we went to this event to hear this monk speak and the monk was from india his name was gauranga das he uh went to iit but had given up his degree to become a monk and so i thought you either have to be really crazy or really smart because why would you do that why would you give up your degree at iit to become a monk and so i got really interested by his sacrifice and and his choice


really interested by his sacrifice and and his choice and so i started asking him questions and spending time with him and at the time he was starting a new project which was two hours outside of mumbai uh in i believe it's in the vicinity of palgar but the area is called vada and this new project was to provide villages with a proper functioning village a sustainable community and a livelihood to actually give back to the communities to teach people there about business agriculture to really help them make the most of their lives and it was being constructed by monks and so i got completely uh blown away by the fact that these monks were not only going deep and doing meditation but they were also serving and helping the world and and i thought to myself that how beautiful is that that you can do both you can take care of your mind and take care of your own inner life but that you can also try and make a difference in the world and that's why i ended up in


in the world and that's why i ended up in that monastery and that ashram because i saw this perfect balance of self-care and self-mastery balanced with service and philanthropy and giving back to the world beautiful jay i have to ask you this one question i have always uh thought about when i watch your content which is that it comes out of an extremely deep place and often if a human being has the ability to think that deep or right that deep uh it's it's kind of uh almost always the case where uh the human beings also had like kind of a dark past so has your past had any darkness in it like have you gone through i'm sure you have you've had some baggage in the past possibly you know you've let go of it now through all the meditation you do through the work you do uh because content cures the content creator but uh i wanna i wanna take you like way before you became a content creator was there any like darkness in your life yeah so from a


any like darkness in your life yeah so from a very very early on i remember being bullied at school and i was around i was probably around like five six years old when i started to get bullied and i used to get bullied because i was overweight and i was one of the few indian people in my class so i think in my whole school at five six years old i was one of three indian people maybe maybe even just four of us and so i was bullied for being overweight for being indian and people weren't used to seeing indian people in my area uh i was i was always overweight growing up as a child so people would bully me about the way i looked and and my weight and that was that was definitely difficult to go through as a young person because you know for you you don't understand any of that at that time like to you it's like oh i was born with this skin and this color and i i don't i don't know if i should


i i don't i don't know if i should you know you're not thinking at six years old about having a six-pack you're just happy with whatever you have and so that was definitely tough and then even in my teenage years i started to get involved in the wrong circles because i never felt i really had like an older brother figure i'm the eldest i have a younger sister i didn't really have anyone older that was guiding me or helping me or supporting me and so i definitely felt that i got involved in the wrong circles and some of those wrong circles ended up in getting involved in everything from drugs through to you know fights and and that sort of scenario and that was very dark because i've always been a good person at heart and i never wanted to be into hurting anyone or fights or drugs or any of that stuff i'm not it's not really my natural inclination and so when you find yourself in those places and you don't know what's


yourself in those places and you don't know what's happening next that was a dark place and and beyond all of that i think the darkest thing was just that i constantly felt like no one really understood my decisions and i think for all of us not just for me i think the darkest place to live is where you feel people don't understand you and and i think a lot of people today that go through mental health challenges or depression or stress or pressure it's because they feel no one understands them and and the truth is that those are sometimes the most powerful moments of our life because it's when people don't understand you that you try to take the time to really try and understand yourself and and that's where so much strength comes from is understanding yourself and taking the time to validate yourself yeah 100 man um now you said that you know the books from india inspire you one of the concepts that i've picked up from those books it's kind of like a deep concept


from those books it's kind of like a deep concept but uh it basically said that the rewards that you receive in life are equally a result of your hard work but also your karma how good you've been as a person how honest you've been as a person how truthful you've been um you have broken out as a content creator all over the world and there's a lot of other people who are trying to do what you're doing there have been tons of other people so i want to ask you from this perspective of this learning what have you done correct in life have you been guided by the right people have you constantly kind of held on to your own ideals your own ethics like what's gone right for you according to yourself yeah yeah good question i i'd say that in in my heart and my intention i've i've only wanted to do good for others and serve others and support others so whenever i even when i started creating content or even when i worked in the city or when i


even when i worked in the city or when i became a monk my my intention was always to serve and to help others my intention was never motivated by uh big results or anything that's happened in my life today i never thought it would happen and and i never even believed that that was the goal or that was the reason i was doing it the reason i was doing it was i believed that i uncovered this incredible wisdom and i wanted to share it that was it and so i think sometimes our intention gets uh dirty or messy uh sometimes really our intention is ego driven or sometimes it's money driven or sometimes it's results driven and none of those things are bad you can have money you can be famous you can be successful but if that is your reason for doing it if that is your intention for doing it it won't satisfy you even if you get there and actually if you do it for a deeper reason you'll probably get there faster and you'll be


reason you'll probably get there faster and you'll be happier when you actually receive it and so one thing for me is and i work on this every day it's not that i've mastered it but every day i'm working on my intention to always be of service to always want to help so that's one thing the second thing i'd say is that i met all the best teachers and mentors in my life the coaches and the guides that i have in my life they all always remind me of how far i have to go so i'm not surrounded by yes people i'm surrounded by people who will say jay this is great but how deep is your meditation well this is great but but how much have you really overcome your ego so they're always checking me in a positive way they encourage me they give me hope but they also humble me at the same time and i think that having people like that in your life who know your passion and your purpose but they also know how to bring out


your purpose but they also know how to bring out your greatest potential is really important and and the third thing i'd say is that i've really worked on my craft i think people forget that you know i was fortunate enough to go to public speaking school from age 11 through to age 18 because my parents forced me so i've done seven years of public speaking training from the age of 18 to 28 i gave lectures and classes for three hours a day when i had zero followers and made zero money and had no online following so i was doing it because i loved it and i didn't even know that anyone would ever care but for 10 years from age 18 to 28 every day i was studying learning speaking sharing and most importantly it's only sharing what you're applying in your life so sometimes we we try and share ideas that we haven't experienced yet and and for me it's always been to try and share ideas that i'm practicing and experimenting and trying to learn and i and i think that


and trying to learn and i and i think that works so these are all things that i haven't mastered but they're things that i'm constantly working on but i think they're sometimes forgotten when people see the last four years but we don't look at the last 15 years and then you miss out on that journey 100 uh according to you is your life easy or difficult today that's a good question you're brilliant by the way i love watching so i've watched a lot of your interviews i think you're great uh is is my life easy or difficult i would say that my life is can i i mean i um okay i don't want to give you that answer because i would challenge if someone gave me that answer i would challenge them as well i would say that my life is um i would say my life is purposeful which has both elements so so what i mean by that is my life is easy because i know what i want to do what i stand for i know what i believe


do what i stand for i know what i believe in but it's difficult because i have to put in hours i have to put in work i have to be organized i have to live a disciplined life but discipline funnily enough actually makes life easier so people think discipline is difficult but but the result of discipline is that life becomes easier and so waking up every day and meditating or going to the gym is difficult it's difficult it's not easy it's it's challenging but the result of that is life becomes easier so i'd say that i'm dedicated to difficult discipline but that because it's purposeful and it has meaning become makes life easier to live if that answers your question it does it does but um and i'm asking you this for selfish reasons because i i have i have difficult days even today you know with with so many blessings around me established businesses there are days where i'll wake up not feeling completely motivated slash not feeling completely


not feeling completely motivated slash not feeling completely worthy uh i'm just asking you this kind of as a younger brother oh yeah for sure bro for sure i still have that i wake up days where i feel stressed where i feel under pressure where i feel like i've just got so much to do and you know i haven't got the support i need or you know all of that like i i experience all of that and and what i say to people is that training your mind and your body is not about never feeling that way again it's not that one day that won't happen it's that you let it affect you for less time so in the past you and me maybe when it happened when bad things would happen you'd be thinking about it for like a whole month but now when something happens you think about it for a week and then in a year from now you'll think about it for one day and then in a year from now you'll think about it for one hour and then