you know and obviously like the ratio like what what is astounding is like our malayalam channel has 60 women watching um and that wasn't a talked about trend earlier so you know even like in terms of who's consuming content what are they consuming there is a wave and vernacular and like we've been betting on vernacular since 2017-18 so that is definitely going to be the way um and i think the third thing is which we already know and like even with our app that's something that we are echoing again and again is uh voice and peer-to-peer interaction so even on our english learning app everything happens through voice like you're taught through voice and video or you chat with other people through voice um and that's something that's also going to uh you know grow massively in in content lovely before we move on to the twitter section just want to highlight that i woke up extremely angry this morning extremely angry yesterday and just having this interaction with you bro i don't know something


having this interaction with you bro i don't know something about your energy like it's really calmed me down it's it's it's just kind of put me in a nicer zone so i feel like i'm sure you do a lot of strategic things as a co-founder but i'm dead sure that this energy that you have of calming people down and you know spreading positive energy is a huge uh uh spreading positive vibes is a huge uh strength that you have just wanna highlight that yeah i wish i mean you should stick with my mom dude she doesn't like i could do this at all i have a feeling i'm going to set up some time you need to reinforce this she thinks i pull down the energy all the time i will i will speak to mrs paul and tell her what a star she's living with at home um okay uh starting the twitterverse section our common friend manish pandey on twitter asks so priya how important are books super important i don't think like you know um


books super important i don't think like you know um i i move astray and i stop reading and then i have to pull myself back like how else do you gain exposure to what other people are thinking that you have to read obviously youtube is one we are there as creators to help teach you things and help you consume great content but you cannot replace us with books read it yeah i feel books help you deep dive into a smart person's mind so it's about finding the right kind of books and looking what's in their mind comparing it to your own and saying okay maybe i can take that piece and i can take this piece and put it in my own head that's the difference between even podcasts and books and any kind of content pieces and books it helps you deep dive into someone's mind keeping that mind this is a question from me what are do you read a lot i'm assuming yeah um so five books that have had the deepest impact on you and your current mindset it could be


impact on you and your current mindset it could be fiction non-fiction whatever so i'm mostly uh you know i mostly read non-fiction but uh yeah so i think i'll probably start with the order that i would have probably read them in uh but the hard thing about hard things i think that book really opens up your worldly window how decisions should be taken um and not taken um you know uh recently i i read this book called better under pressure um and i think that's something that you know i needed to read uh like i was going through something and then that just helped me escape pour your heart into it uh the story of starbucks you know it takes you through how culture is really built and how a brand sort of functions um and that was something that i loved uh delivering happiness the story of zappos was again super super amazing and uh then the last would probably be hoped yeah um lovely um okay and we'll move on to the next question jyoth b lamba has an interesting question this


question jyoth b lamba has an interesting question this is something i want to ask you as well i remember the first time i ever came to the josh office i didn't meet you i met shobhit but uh what i noticed was organization culture like uh you guys had like a different energy running through each person in that entire office and it was a massive office and that's why i realized that oh you guys are doing something very good in terms of team building so jodhp's question is how to go about creating a winning team that's driven and able to scale with challenges very nice question yeah i think uh you know knowing so probably like so i'll just tell you how we sort of go about it and then tie into the question right so a lot of people take the pedigree approach we are a completely non-pedigree organization i would be surprised if we have someone who's from you know like a top iit or i am uh but we've taken that approach because hey we


uh but we've taken that approach because hey we are building content for people who are you know uh like we need to have relatable people in the team right like people who are in our curation team should have already given the government exam because that is an aspiration for our viewer and if we can't relate to that how do you build uh you know how do you build a function um and i think that's something that we've done really well which is you know build a team which relates to our audience so that the question of scale and actually uh being attached to the purpose uh sort of you know gets simplified over time um and the second thing is like spend a lot of time together you know we have a completely flat hierarchy there is some people don't consider it the best thing to do but we do we do have that um and everybody sort of works on everything like there is a lot of cross-functional work happening people move teams like manish has been here for a while and like


like manish has been here for a while and like he's done everything right like right from just being on just social media to like managing orgs to actually curating and leading research for us so everybody goes through their own journey to sort of find what they're doing um and i think one thing that has worked really well is that when we started out we were a bunch of volunteers and interns people who were only attached to that mission we couldn't afford to pay anybody anything that time and those people went on finished college worked in organizations for two three years they've come back to josh and now they're leading teams so that ethos from day one is still there yeah lovely uh okay sanjana aswani asks uh she's highlighted the whole comparison of josh talks to ted and people trying to pull you down with those comparisons and her final aspect of that paragraph is how has superior developed such mental toughness um i'd also want to ask you this because you know while we see people


ask you this because you know while we see people talking a lot about mental health which i believe is the way to go you should be doing that people leave it at that they just say oh address it all right then what matlab you need to do something which is like a post step also which is why we talk so much about mental fitness on this podcast on this youtube channel so could you highlight some mental fitness aspects of your life how did you develop that toughness are there any habits you follow like for me the gym blows off a lot of anger blows over a lot of steam meditation blows off a lot of tension so do you have habits and do you have any kind of self-talk that you do to develop mental toughness yeah i think one thing is that right like when you are being compared to someone else uh you have to sort of just look back and see that okay first thing is that a bad comparison i'm being compared to ted in my first year of starting an


compared to ted in my first year of starting an organization i don't think that's such a bad thing the legacy has been around for like 20 plus years they have so many viewers across the world so it's not always a bad thing to be compared um i think i take that quite positively uh the second thing is that know who you're working for ted is working for a very different audience they are building content for a very different audience we are working for a different audience we are seeing impacting the audience that we are working for and like for us like the pick-me-ups are the stories right like every day i wake up with tags and like emails of people who watch the jewish talks the step that they've taken you see comments where people's life goal is not to become somebody it's to become somebody to give a joke talk like most of the comments are like one day i will come and stand up on that stage and we've had speakers who saw talk you know decided to


had speakers who saw talk you know decided to take that career path have come back and now delivered their own jewish talks um and i think that just sort of motivates me to another level but in terms of habits like like i mentioned earlier i think writing is something that's really helping me off late um and also exercising and i and i do like hope i can continue to keep it up with both do you think you'll embrace meditation you know like uh i i i think you're quite an inspiration on that front um i have tried it to be honest uh it's i have not been consistent with it but uh you know i've had even manish tell me that i should start again so yes maybe maybe over a period of time okay the next question is from ranveer and he wants what's what's the feedback you have for me as someone who consumes my content plus as a guy like you've met me offline i think the thing is you know i genuinely put my


the thing is you know i genuinely put my whole life out i think on social media so do you have any feedback for me don't don't tell me you're doing great man and like you know keep going because that's the usual feedback i get so i'm gonna stop you right there supriya yeah but i will uh what what do you think i can do different i think um you know you have to i so i i honestly like i obviously don't have a deep dive into the audience that you cater to um i do have some semblance of it because i do see that there are a lot of similarities but i think what could really work is uh uh you know like while you are focusing a lot on your personal life fitness mental health etc and that coordinate is really good for pick-me-ups i think what people need is hand-holding um after a certain period of time um and i think that's something that you could do and maybe you could you know like do it for specific career streams you


you know like do it for specific career streams you could do it for specific people uh but just saying that hey if you're at point a today and you want to get to point b whether that's in a career or a personal goal or a financial goal how do you do that um and i think that that could serve as you know like because people look up to you they value what you say so if you give them the right steps they'll probably take it um and you'll be able to create more more impact no man that's thank you i appreciate it and that's that's going to be the goal from age 28 to 29. in my 30s i think i'm gonna become a family based youtuber i have a yeah i have a gut feel where i i'm super excited to see you at like your journey for your kid and everything will happen on youtube and then everything and you're in your wedding live stream that's gonna be fun my wedding livestream yeah you know see i'm i'm


wedding livestream yeah you know see i'm i'm a hopeless romantic and that's why if uh if my if my wife says yo we can't record the i'm gonna say okay okay wifey we ain't recording this so uh let's let's see let's see um okay let me nice question yash vyas asks what's the learning you get after listening and talking to so many entrepreneurs on your journey i'm sure there's one common thing i think that's what he's asking that what's the common learning or what have you imbibed yeah so i think there are maybe two or three things i'll just try to summarize them quickly one is that on you know it's not always a zero-sum game um and i think we see life as a zero-sum game key like you know if it's education only one player will win if it's content only one player will win uh there is enough market for many people to be a part of it and to create tangible impact uh and i think that's been one


tangible impact uh and i think that's been one of my biggest learnings of this year um and ranjeet from pratilla reiterated it so i just want to like give him a shout out because it changed my life this year the second would probably be that you know like don't kill your curiosity um you know if you don't ask the answer is always no i'm going to keep stressing on this and then i try to echo it in my own life um and the third is it's a marathon don't pretend it's a sprint and don't treat it like it's a sprint if you got into becoming an entrepreneur it is a long and grueling and tough journey prepare yourself that it's going to be longer than what you signed up for okay lovely and the final question of this round nippon at nippuni asks real insights of india 2.0 and the next billion internet users for you to say something about this because if you started george talks in 2014 or 20 no


you started george talks in 2014 or 20 no earlier yeah right no 2015 you set it up here okay yeah so if you set it up back then you saw the geo wave you saw the kind of users changing and i'm sure you're constantly seeing the kind of users changing so what's happening with india 2.0 and some insights on the next billion users yeah i think you know one of the things is that bharath has been fantasized right like right now if you look at twitter and people who are building for bharat it's been coined out to be this term or like this world that we don't know of but it's the world which is 99 of india and i think that's how you have to sort of break it down and that's how you have to see it uh we are a rare rarity in india right now right so even in terms of usage uh that is basically the voice of the mass and what they are consuming sort of you know becomes the the


are consuming sort of you know becomes the the story of what india is consuming online and a lot of new and interesting things one is that obviously local languages and when when the stuff becomes more relatable and more vulnerable that content works you know this audience wants to see your real side uh they want to see you like it is they don't want to see you made up to be someone else the second is that like at least what we've seen in our content is that uh you know success doesn't have to be running a billion dollar enterprise success can be running a kirana shop and making 10 000 15 000 rupees a month which you take back home as extra um and that is something that this audience truly sort of like you know relates to and believes in uh which is key something which is closer to their heart which they can visualize for themselves uh is something that's there uh the third is obviously voice consumption like i said right like before um on on our english app


said right like before um on on our english app when we didn't have the voice peer-to-peer feature the average time that was spent per active user per day was like 13 or 14 minutes we are at 55 minutes now people want to talk they want to interact they want to sort of grow up the ladder and aspiration is at its peak like everybody has a niche to do well they everybody wants to you know sort of get up and take charge and the internet has served as this tool that's probably bridge that exposure where they can now see a life where they can do that um and i think for anybody who's sort of a creator in this space if you if you're able to build enough to you know um sort of capture the aspirations of this audience then like 10 million subs is nothing oh so yeah lovely supriya paul thank you for the energy thank you for uh the beautiful insightful answers uh i am so so so sure that you're through with only one percent of everything


sure that you're through with only one percent of everything you're going to create in this world looking forward to it man and i'm looking forward to see you in gurgaon once this covet pandemic dies down a little bit yeah uh so just want to end by saying thank you for being on trs this is an episode that we were supposed to do way back i'm sorry got delayed till this point but i'm sure it's gonna reach out to who it's supposed to reach out to no thank you so much you know i've heard from other people how fun this is and and you know like now that i've witnessed it firsthand like it was amazing and yeah thanks for having me um and i'm super excited to see how people react to this well supriya like comment and subscribe in that case no i'm kidding i will be linking with you pre-order the jewish book you have to fill that in i will be linking the josh book down below below that we'll link supriya's


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you know if you look at the great lives of entrepreneurs worldwide and let's talk about steve jobs you know steve jobs write autobiography for yogi in india that became his book he gave it away it was the only gift given away on his funeral now what is a guy who's creating apple and the company we know today why is he coming to india and going to an ashram in taichi india and then even telling zuckerberg to go there after so many years right there has to be a reason so the reason is that in extreme situations of entrepreneurship startup business building your mind is completely frazzled right it's destroyed you don't have any kind of semblance of pure clear uh you know let's say empty thinking it's always clouded by a decision and when you get time to meditate and you are able to de-cloud your mind and defog your mind the original thoughts that you are supposed to have come through so it's a very simple thing right welcome to a


so it's a very simple thing right welcome to a sequel episode with mr a to the k hello khedri also so this one's gonna be about your life outside of selling startups we're talking about spirituality here uh i think we ended the last episode with a very interesting nugget i asked you what does spirituality give a businessman that you know other businesses other businessmen cannot have and you said insight so i think that's a great place to begin this conversation um how did you firstly get into this school of thought that okay there's a parallel journey there is a spiritual journey as well it's not just all about business so it is all obviously uh because of my upbringing you know i was born and brought up by my nani who uh who surrounded themselves with these interesting people you know they had these spiritual people who would keep coming to our house and i was a young boy and i would keep meeting them not really liking them that's part of the book initial part of the


them that's part of the book initial part of the book how i detested these you know men and women in robes and different color costumes but every time i met them these people i would get something that i didn't have myself you know they would have clairvoyance they would be able to say things that i didn't know and they would have a magnetism that i did not find in my company of friends and family so as much as i detested them i said what is this power that these people have and when i would travel on these spiritual you know pilgrimages of my nara nani i would feel uplifted so it was a pure experiential curiosity that said if people or places can make me feel different then i want to know more about them yeah uh you used a very interesting word there clairvoyance i'd actually love to hear you expand on that concept for the listeners sure so without making this sound like a voodoo uh interview there are so many people i met in my early part of


so many people i met in my early part of my journey who would because of their deep meditations because of their deep sadness because of their ability to you know probably just read people like i think you said something very very nice in the early interview that you get you got an opportunity to read people right the more people you meet the more you can understand them and uh i would just get these kind of questions that they would ask me about you know okay how's your company doing you know i met this guy ajmer who said so you know how's the socks export going and i i had no clue how he knew about socks expert right so what made him understand that i was in the socks business now i don't know what must have happened to him or how he figured it out but i think that over a period of time i realized that apart from the guys who were trying to pull a fast one on me a lot of wise people had this deep intuitive sense of


lot of wise people had this deep intuitive sense of understanding how life unfolds and therefore their questions were predicated on making me question that and understanding what they were saying versus being surprised so wow i think you discovered this at a very early age i would probably i had a i had a very deep spiritual experience have you heard of what ayahuasca is uh no i've heard of ayahuasca no i have it so uh it's a south american ritual where uh it's it's like a spiritual ritual where they have uh a brew they make you consume it and there's like their version of a pandit who who puts you through a whole ceremony now that randomly like happened to me i was on a vacation somewhere and it just came to me and that shifted a lot of things for me in my head the guy who made me experience it he also introduced me to meditation at 22. and meditation kind of met me at a very interesting point because i was just starting out


a very interesting point because i was just starting out youtube and i didn't know what i was doing uh and i think i got i got divinely like led on to like the right path so even today a lot of my key decisions come out of like deep meditations or a lot of that's it yeah that's it that's exactly the point right that's exactly what i'm saying so wisdom insight intuitivity creativity comes to you from meditating yeah um so like you know when you're you started out all these businesses you sold businesses to disney you're investing in businesses you're so deeply involved in the world of startups and business uh where do you find that time to get into spirituality one how do you exercise that muscle two and three again like um do the two worlds clash because people often have this outlook on spirituality that okay it means no material benefits but then business means the exact opposite let's start with the the last question or the last point first actually it's a


last question or the last point first actually it's a symphony it's not even a clash it's a beautiful symphony of two worlds and from them so i write in my book that i am a spiritualist and a capitalist and a very happy one at that and i'm as comfortable in a corporate boardroom as i am in a himalayan cave that's the kind of expression that i have so uh i'm not alone you know if you look at the great lives of entrepreneurs worldwide and let's talk about steve jobs you know steve jobs write autobiography for yogi in india that became his book he gave it away it was the only gift given away on his funeral now what is a guy who's creating apple and the company we know today why is he coming to india and going to an to go there after so many years right there has to be a reason so the reason is that in extreme situations of entrepreneurship startup business building your mind is completely frazzled right


business building your mind is completely frazzled right it's destroyed you don't have any kind of semblance of pure clear you know let's say empty thinking it's always clouded by a decision and when you get time to meditate and you are able to de-cloud your mind and defog your mind the original thoughts that you are supposed to have come through so it's a very simple thing right it's like uh where would you rather be in a street full of traffic and cars or would you be on an empty street that's when you can hear the wind blowing in the trees you can't hear it when there are too many cars on the street honking away so that's one part as far as the time goes it's very simple boss i mean we sleep what six seven hours a day so there's 18 hours 16 to 17 hours left i mean no one can work for 17 hours a day boss and meditation and any mindfulness doesn't take more than a couple of hours at the max so i mean that's fine


of hours at the max so i mean that's fine i mean we i think we all spend more time on instagram social media than we would ever spend on meditating so who cares it's a couple of hours at the most yeah uh but uh when did you start meditating i know you're deeply involved with the art of living foundation i've had the honor of interviewing gurudev as well on the same show and uh you know every time i have a spiritual guest on the show uh i always see though they give me some advice that i need exactly at that point in my life or you know there's always some shift again it's not for the general public to understand there's a lot of people uh the moment they'll hear this sentence they're like oh he's just talking gibberish and all that but uh this is something you understand once you're on the spiritual journey i want to ask you how did you get into uh the art of living like in the first place so it's


art of living like in the first place so it's a very interesting story it comes out of a very practical experience that we all know which is the threat of shutting down or something going terribly wrong or let me say a situation out of control so in 2000 my first business was going to go bust and i was extremely stressed and i had no way to get rid of that stress other than just suffering right so a friend of mine told me listen i don't know what i can do for you but why don't you do this out of living course because at least it can help you alleviate the stress it is more like time past right i said okay let me go there at least my mind will be taken away from this trauma of not being able to control things and i learned the kriya i learned breathing i learned meditation and everything changed for me now i call it not a coincidence but you can call it a coincidence my business not just survived which was


coincidence my business not just survived which was going to shut down in 40 50 days but thrived you know i'm still sitting in front of you you know 22 years later talking about the same you know ventures i started so uh did this meditation suddenly give me pools of money that came in my bank no did it suddenly give me clients or customers it did not what it did give me was a deep insight on how i should relook at my business so if i explain to you in one line i was chasing vcs to give me a little amount of money to survive and after i did this meditation course and i came back to my office my co-partner said ah look forget all this yeah let's just go to our customers and beg them borrow them and tell them listen i'll work for you for the next five years please advance me some money so that i can continue my business i did that and there were customers of ours were saying hello why didn't you ask before boss what


saying hello why didn't you ask before boss what do you want so we survived because of customer love and that insight came because i never thought of it before hmm and how old were you when this happened when you were introduced i said 27 28. so uh you know at 27 28 at least my entire generation is fighting all devices it could be alcohol could be weed it could be excess meat it could be excesses of junk food um and since i know you're an art of living uh teacher as well i'm pretty sure you're living like a very very clean lifestyle that's free of these vices could you highlight the aspect of vices in a spiritual journey and spiritual progress there's a very interesting story in the book but i'll talk about it so yeah right i i had the fortune of good fortune of growing up in and well i say good fortune you know in a vegetarian family so i didn't have to de-addict myself but i was definitely drinking once in a


myself but i was definitely drinking once in a while and i was also smoking once in a while and there's a story in this book about uh you know a incident that happened to me in a monastery in ladakh where i went with the desire of getting rid of alcohol because it wasn't gelling well with my lifestyle and meditation and the day i came back to bombay something happened and the memory of alcohol left me i did not remember that i used to like to drink uh is incredible now the point you asked is yeah i mean vices are important in our lives because then we know we learn what dependency is see if you don't have a vice then how do you learn what dependencies are right life is beautiful once you have a dependency and you want to curb it you understand the power of willpower you understand the power of how you feel when you don't enjoy that vice or indulge in the advice and so and so forth meditation and mindfulness are just


so and so forth meditation and mindfulness are just tools and techniques that give you a alternative high or an alternative respite that doesn't make you crave that and i want to i want to conclude by saying something saying something quite strange so uh you know there are two ways for a relationship to break so let's take a boy and girl they like each other now if the boy leaves the girl the girl's relationship is over or the girl leaves the boy right in the relationship of vice and us we have a relationship with vice we will never leave the wise because it's very hard but what happens if the voice leaves us the relationship is broken so that is what happens when you put a mind to it and you meditate and you pray for miracles and some things like these happen to all of us have you experienced miracles in your life many many many many they are all part of that book they're they're well i package them very carefully so that they don't look like pure miracles


carefully so that they don't look like pure miracles but yeah definitely i mean something that happened at pondicherry for me i was becoming very arrogant you know i don't drink i don't smoke i don't have any vice and i just told my wife and someone else i kept meeting that for example you know i'm such a pakka a vegetarian i don't know the taste of prawn i use the word prawn and my wife asked me she says aloo why are you saying prawn you know why don't you say chicken or something else because you know prawn is like an off it's like odd example and i said chubby you know i am saying prawn because it's so it's so far away from you know people might even eat chicken by chance but how will i ever eat prawn right that's how far away i am and lo and behold in 40 minutes of that last arrogant statement of mine i was sitting in a hotel and i ordered a beautiful tomato rasam


a hotel and i ordered a beautiful tomato rasam and it came with prawns in it and i ate it and i slurped it down and i said oh my god what am i eating man there were prawns so i tasted prawns that's a miracle wow and and it gave you what you needed at that phase of your life like a tight rap saying boss get the arrogance out get the government out the world will not forgive you for being so you know cocky yeah here's what people don't understand about vices that they don't always have to be external they can be internal as well and sometimes your journey of spirituality and your spiritual practices actually force situations like this right um the the other outcome of spiritual practice in general is what you highlighted early on in the episode clairvoyance uh so could you explain siddhis like to the listener like what are siddhis i mean in your own way and if you've had any experiences or any stories of people with siddhis if you've


or any stories of people with siddhis if you've come across any which i'm sure you have yeah so you know we'll keep the voodoo out of it but i think these are uh super powers not supernatural powers superpowers that you get because your mind is very focused or your mind is laser targeted at a certain kind of a space or a point in your life so for in my case i have begun to notice even today that you know a lot of wishes that i make come true and it's amazing like i wish that you know a game of mine will start to do well and slowly and steadily now one can't say that oh i'll just make a wish and i'll go to sleep and but i feel that by making a wish and by kind of committing my heart to it something happens that leads me to probably enjoying the success of that game right there is a story in this book about how and you know babaji babaji is the central part of this book i just


babaji is the central part of this book i just yearned and yearned and yearned to have his darshan in an airplane an airport i just said i have can you imagine how bizarre the mind is i want to see you babaji and i had this desire when i was traveling from bombay to delhi and back now it's ridiculous but in the in the story it's called the incident in the plane you will read that babaji actually gave me that grace he gave me that darshan you know he gave me someone or someone opening the autobiography of a yogi and actually trying to show it to me without knowing that that gentleman by the way is the managing director of 80 kearney in india which is a very large a well-known consulting firm so he's not some guy that you can randomly pick out and call and you know he's featured in the book and he keeps telling me that hello i have no clue why i picked up that book on my ipad and


why i picked up that book on my ipad and kept showing you that picture which you were very you know many rows behind i don't know why i did that so that's a miracle right that's a siddhi i wish for something and it came through uh yeah so these things happen and these things happen so let me conclude by saying these things happen to you and to me but we don't pay attention we all call them coincidences oh i was thinking about the sub suddenly this happened but they yeah they're coincidences for sure but how can you make coincidences repeat themselves by practicing what made them happen in the first place do you think the the process of sacrificing vices both external and internal actually increases incidents like this and increases the amount of or spiritual experiences you're having no i don't think so i don't think there is any need for us to suddenly become you know crazy and start shedding all these habits i think what these habits do


all these habits i think what these habits do unfortunately is they distract you so if you drink alcohol if you're in a different kind of space you can't be mindful you can't be attentive you can't be alert you can't meditate right so eventually let me rephrase it let's simply say if you're if you drink too much can you exercise when it's time to exercise you can't if you've got a hangover you can't so it's a simple example by not drinking you'll probably end up exercising a little bit more which will make you feel even better which will say i don't want to drink even even even more so it's a very virtuous cycle of experiencing the benefit of something by not doing something else versus saying that's that thing is bad nothing is bad yeah yeah and uh since you've been meditating for a while what does meditation feel like in your 40s like what does it give i know what it gives you now in my 20s it makes me a lot


you now in my 20s it makes me a lot calmer it definitely guides me there are mornings that i have some massive shoots or some massive commitments and i know how the day is gonna go like i get my the first message in my head is this is what's gonna happen let's expand on that for 30 seconds before i go into my answer so what you just shared with me and i'm so amazed now this is what i call telepathy or let's call it a small clairvoyance that what happens in the morning is your mind is calm and composed and clear and why does that idea is a good you know why does clarity come in the morning more than afternoon and definitely not in the evening because your mind is less agitated it's less perturbed so that's a great practical example of what can i do by meditation that makes my mind like morning all the time so that's the that's exactly what you answered uh see meditation at 20 30 40 16 i


answered uh see meditation at 20 30 40 16 i think 90 will always be the same it just makes you feel super light and super uh you know it's like saying that you're you feel like you're in a very wakeful sleep so you feel like you're relaxed nothing is bothering you you already conscious of where you are but and you enjoy that versus your friends who don't meditate like how do you see that difference in your mindset versus this and i'm not i'm not trying to look down on anyone i'm just asking you your experience no i think there is a different set of qualities that come with people who don't meditate their energy their enthusiasm their ability to do things spontaneously is probably better but eventually right there is always this claw back right you always the body and the mind always then feel tired and i think there is not any one person anyone in the world who is not tired on a daily basis because you get fed up of what you do so the real difference


fed up of what you do so the real difference between the meditator and the non-meditator is how that tiredness manifests and how you tackle it beautiful so and uh if someone has to explore spirituality more what books or podcasts would you point them towards i would say you know what boss be a spiritual hippie be a spiritual shopper do not worry about a book examine and you know there's a saying drink the wells drink the water of many wells so i would say sample the eight or ten publicly known uh institutions that teach meditation one or two will resonate with you deeper try them out a little bit more and then stick to the person or that you know the institution that vibes with you and that's the way to find a spiritual path because you should not choose something that someone has told you you know read there are many books of meditation and mindfulness read a few pick up some if you don't like it just drop it and read something else and if


it just drop it and read something else and if you had to end this episode with once big spiritual learning of your life what would it be that big spiritual learning is that there is a sense of happiness and a sense of let's say a good feeling or a warm feeling in every situation so in anything you may be going through and the worst of situations or the bad of situations there is a positive to it and nature puts us through these cycles like it puts itself through cycles right there is a sim summer and a winter and an autumn and a spring it puts us through these cycles make to make us appreciate the fullness of life so don't feel down or don't feel too up either when things are going badly or things going up because it's about the state of understanding what's going on to you or happening to you versus trying to experience it and then feeling bad about it beautiful thank you mr allocation for two amazing podcasts uh is gonna add a lot of


amazing podcasts uh is gonna add a lot of value out there uh i'm gonna link all your handles down below i hope that the listeners go purchase the cave that says new book containing all these little spiritual stories and i'm dead show lessons uh i really appreciate it so we'll probably have you on the hindi podcast at some point whenever you're up for it and uh we'll continue this vibe thank you so much so kind of you ciao good luck you


yes you read that right it's a podcast about sex in detail this is the episode that many many many people out there have been waiting for for the longest time we've got one of India's Premier Health experts one of the world's Premier Health experts he's also one of the world's Premier Wellness experts Luke coutinho the world of royalty the world of films the World of Sport and the world of billionaires turns to this man when it comes to health and wellness advice and on the runway show today he's gonna break down sex in detail to an ethical loving relationship standpoint you guys can enjoy this episode just before I let you slip in let me remind you this month was massive for me on a personal level became an investor for the first time in my life at age 27 invested in a company called Ready Set jet the products are linked down below make sure you check them out make sure you show your support but for now Luke coutinho and ranveer breaking down the


for now Luke coutinho and ranveer breaking down the act of sex on the runway issue foreign [Music] we're talking about love and sex in this podcast okay let me let me remove all my masks let's keep it real all the masks are off okay go for it um we've spoken about sex a lot on this show we've spoken about concepts related to sex uh you know I just want to dive straight in I believe in ctas which are called to actions let's give the young listeners initially a guide to good sex or you know maybe you could begin with what's the role of sex in the human existence then how do you enhance your sex life we can talk about everything from foreplay yeah to bedroom techniques to food to stretching and yoga if need be yeah to of course love of course the spiritual aspect of it okay so Luke I'm gonna hand it to you uh you take the conversation forward Okay cool so I think there's no rule book around sex again it's an energy okay


no rule book around sex again it's an energy okay now we can change the energy right now by moving from the word sex to love making massive difference massive difference okay so when I talk today you know you know keep all this feminism all this stuff out okay I am talking my story based on my opinions what people make out of it but if you're trying to take textbook knowledge of sex you know a lot of guys come and say hey look I'm forwarding you this Cosmopolitan article where they said 15 ways to please your woman okay and stuff like that I said if you want to be successful with that woman okay you think of 15 unique ways to please her not by by the opinion of a journalist who has correlated what women like and a lot of women don't know what they like the same way before the feminists jump up a lot of men don't know what they like as simple as that we all go through our first experiences more driven with hormones and stuff like that and


more driven with hormones and stuff like that and all of these things I think the first thing that I want to break right now because we counsel these young kids and stuff like that I can tell every young kid out there every young male okay if your self-worth is dependent on the size of your penis okay you have a big problem right now okay I know porn has made you think like you know the bigger you are the more happier the woman now today we've worked with models actresses beautiful women pretty women normal women all of that stuff okay I asked them one question what makes you happy in bed okay not one of them till date have said the size of the penis not not one of them they say that Luke okay we want to feel secure we want to feel appreciated we want to feel cared for I get that in a guy I'll get wet the foreplay is going to be good I'll give my all okay the second thing that guys have to know about it is a


thing that guys have to know about it is a woman doesn't have to orgasm all the time for you to be successful women have said it all the time that we love orgasms we love them okay but we don't get them all the time so if you've not given your woman an orgasm every time you've made love to her doesn't mean you're a failure but when you keep watching porn like every 30 seconds a woman's having an orgasm so you your benchmark of success is something that isn't true it isn't true so number one advice if you are comparing your life your sex life with porn right now I can guarantee you you either have premature ejaculation okay you can't keep it up okay and you have insecure feelings because it's a wrong Benchmark you are designing to fail for yourself okay and all of us have done these things all of us when we that I'm back in college we had magazines like Hustler and Playboy and stuff like that we didn't have the internet


and stuff like that we didn't have the internet back and go at that point and stuff a few clips of videos and stuff like that and on limited knowledge of sex was like oh it's got to be that way but we learn in evolve that's a phase that you're going through but don't link your self-worth with that I can tell you up front right now before we come to the main parts of sex if you're eating crap too much of sugar too much of foil not exercising there is no reason that you're gonna have a strong erection and keep it up period okay it's it's not gonna happen it's not gonna happen because we know too much of sugar junk food impairs blood circulation what keeps you hard is your blood circulation smoking definitely 100 down alcohol as well okay now but a lot of people come say but Luke you know when I drink alcohol I I really you know I feel like doing it and stuff I said did your woman enjoy it after that I


I said did your woman enjoy it after that I said no I couldn't really keep it up but what has alcohol done given you a sense of power why because it drops your Gates when you drink alcohol you can say so many things that you can't say when you're not an alcohol but again everyone's different there are some people who drink alcohol and say I can only do it when I have alcohol everyone's different but I'm trying to say it comes down to science again okay when you're intoxicated okay your liver is so busy trying to clean out your system and stuff like that blood flow is less circulation is low so do the math works for you do it yeah my point when it comes to sex okay again when I ask a woman what do you like in sex what position you know what they say it depends we don't have a fixed position that we enjoy one day we like a doggy style one day we like it missionary one day we don't want to have sex we just want


day we don't want to have sex we just want foreplay one day we don't even want that we just want to cuddle in bed for that that's great sex for us but again the media is showing you that it's got to be this explosive orgasm and every guy is like who is she getting it is she getting it is she getting it all of us we've been there been there done that the first question guys there you come and stuff like that a woman says you know we hate that question because it doesn't matter if we want to we'll tell you to keep going it's as simple as that so communication I mean communication yep you know I have this thing I've figured over the years I believe that while you can break down sex as a very complicated concept you can keep improving at it there's two Basic Ground rules or ground Concepts when it comes to great sex want to speak about sex in non-sexual scenarios yeah in a very non-sexual way when you're talking to


a very non-sexual way when you're talking to a girl we have a platonic relationship who's your friend if she's talking about sex don't don't look at her in a dirty way yeah just talk about the subject it doesn't have don't bring the emotion in it you'll get to learn a lot yeah uh especially from women and many guys are not capable of that because the moment sex comes out of a woman's mouth they start visualizing about that moment that's how guys and they think they're loose and they're I had a woman who said Luke you know I feel [ __ ] at times because I'm turned on to Kaiser it doesn't make me a [ __ ] and I was like yeah wow listen to her she's like I feel that you guys you all feel horny you all feel like a lot animals you'll want to jump on us and stuff we respect that feeling if you respect us the same way you you respect us if I want to feel dirty talk dirty in bed it's because


want to feel dirty talk dirty in bed it's because I'm turned on but I do that and I'm termed as a [ __ ] and now no matter how good the guy is I will never ever come with that guy again orgasm with that guy again so you see yo you're very right about that when you talk about it don't look at that person if a woman is being vulnerable and talking about her sexual fantasies a lot of guys say oh and they start fantasizing that they're going to be with that girl and stuff and they mess it up all over there so you've broken down honest communication right then right then honest communication is one and the second thing I'd like to highlight is extended foreplay and this is not just physical foreplay foreplay begins in conversation yeah absolutely absolutely it starts from the time you've picked her up from the time you hold a hand till the time you do all of these things today again foreplay in normalcy is oh I'll go down on her


in normalcy is oh I'll go down on her that's gonna turn her on and stuff like that and he he can be down on her and she's not even getting a little bit wet because she's not ready yeah and she's like you know I think a woman's body in a man's body is it's like a well-oiled machine you know liver everything has to work together for it to start working you can't just go on and say oh wow I read in Cosmopolitan that you know women love their nipples to be fondled and sucked on or a guy likes this and they just go and they'll start doing their stuff like that yeah you can lead we've all done that we're hiring every second guy who started it off is always like you know I'm under am I in the right place right now we've gone through that that's fun don't don't get so attached to it but again it's a process like you said it starts from the time you know you probably pick her up you start


time you know you probably pick her up you start talking to her you lay that whole thing out you know um you know we can go on and on about emotional and intellectual foreplay I believe uh just human beings the way we're wired we love vulnerability yeah so if as a man you're able to show a certain vulnerability to yourself that could be career insecure yeah life and security physical insecurity emotional relationship based insecurity and by that I don't mean possessive yeah Miss I mean just showing your real colors yeah that's foreplay yeah absolutely um you know obviously intellectual sex is also foreplay where you're exchanging deep thoughts about life about yourself about each other um which is why a lot of women actually prefer older men because women and men definitely mature at different rates yeah so it's the intellectual uh part that they get attracted to see let's understand uh physical attraction chemical attraction I'll break it down okay because we've always tried to understand this okay there's a girl


always tried to understand this okay there's a girl and a boy there's Conformity they share the same you know likes dislikes music okay so you're moving closer on the basis of Conformity you're conforming to each other's ideas now as you come closer you know the dopamines going up you hold a hand there's oxytocin going up it's a chemical reaction okay and I'll tell you why it's a chemical reaction it's never love at first sight I don't believe in that I don't believe it depends on your definition it's first the chemical reaction okay because the dopamine everything is giving you that sensation everything together now and I'll tell you exactly why so you have the greatest sex life for the first year after a while you know it comes down they like they said honeymoon why okay now for the relationship to grow dopamine and serotonin and oxytocin it's you know there's overstimulation of it you've had maximum sex now for the for the partnership to mature I need to find


for the partnership to mature I need to find new dopamine a new oxytocin you know generators through conversation that's how relationship growth so if you're building a relationship only on sex your relationship is going to die at some point build it it can some start off with great sex but then mature couples which I'm learning now at the age of 41. you have to build up other aspects like I can have a conversation and wow my dopamine stimulated attraction again if you're only dependent on sexual attraction it's going to die it's overstimulation that's why they say the Honey Boo oh the sex was great the first year now my husband is not even in the mood now my wife is saying well whatever because while you're still dependent on the stimulation source which is over stimulated what have you done to generate new sources holidays travel movies together holding hands doing all the things that excited you in the first place that's how you keep it alive man you know what you're basically saying is


alive man you know what you're basically saying is self-growth fuels a good sex life absolutely because when you grow yourself you have more stuff to talk about you have more stuff to exchange to exchange to talk to you know vulnerable stuff like you know like you know with you're changing all the time I can't expect ranveer to be the same on the next show we do together you'd have evolved in many ways you can't expect me to be the same we can't expect our partners to be but the men men will come and say oh my wife when we were dating she was like this this she was into me she was that then the guy the girl was saying when my guy he was he would buy me gifts he would do this whatever yes at that point that's who you all were each of you all have also changed now can y'all communicate and you'll go up and say you know I loved it when you bought me flowers any guy will say like wow I'll go and


any guy will say like wow I'll go and buy her fly instead of like you don't buy me flowers anymore and you start the nagging all of that stuff which guy is going to want to buy flies all the same opposite sex I haven't talked both before the Femmes wake up you know so my whole point is uh you have to evolve mature of course the sex is going to be if you're over a partner for x amount of years you've tried every position in karma sutra if you're flexible and agile and you can do anything what else is there to try what else is there to try then you say like a woman doesn't turn me anymore turn me on anymore let me become bisexual or let me change my gender example okay but sex is one part of your life for dopamine if I've built 10 other mechanisms I have a balance in my life if I haven't I am going to change my partner I am going to have affairs I am going to


I am going to have affairs I am going to probably become bisexual after I've tried every possible position because it's dopamine once you've done it ten times a hundred times the same position new positions it doesn't excite you anymore it's called over stimulation it's not our decision it's the way chemistry Works 100 um I'm gonna say something a little spicy right now which is a theory that just popped in my head uh when it comes to long-term sex breasts gets saggy penises get less hard vaginas get loose and guys grow out moves with time but what keeps growing is the brain the brain grows and if the brain is growing the brain needs to be stimulated with so many other things you know when I speak to my couples I have a lot of couples in the age of 60 70 and I asked them straight how's your sex life what's good there are some of them who Luke asks ex-lives are unbelievable because they connect because of Love they connect because


because they connect because of Love they connect because of love and for them it's no longer about like you know there was a ladies sweet 68 year release she's saying look the same pleasure I would get in my 20s if my husband and I are sitting holding hands looking at a sunset I get the same feeling just in a different way domain and oxytocin wow different sources of stimulation you're playing a video game you're getting dopamine and oxytocin so chemistry can't change but the levers and the mechanisms can 100 change that's why when a woman says that I said but you all want that physical yeah they say yeah some we want we want our gas we want this but look we can get the same feeling not physically if we feel cared for we want to give our all automatically automatically so you see these are things we learn later in life and stuff but the young guys out there who follow this advice right now and work backwards you know before trying to get into someone's


backwards you know before trying to get into someone's pants do your groundwork make them feel cared for a lover it's going to be easier you don't have to like go through video after video compare yourself in the mirror with someone and then assume that oh I'm not getting lucky tonight because my skin is dark I'm not getting that no you're not getting lucky tonight because you've not said the right things you've not laid the foundation it's not because you're dark you're not because you're whatever sometimes you you see really pretty women with men who I'm not gonna say are ugly or fat but you know you say it's a common thing how did she get that guy and then oh he must be rich you know oh the same thing with a guy like a super handsome guy she get that girl yeah maybe he has three other Mistresses on the side but they don't understand that it's a beautiful example of people connecting Beyond just physical sex into so many different ways yeah you know so


sex into so many different ways yeah you know so it's the more porn you watch the more messed up you're gonna be it's as simple as that so here's a note for young men who are trying to get into a woman's heart you won't get into a woman's heart by making a physically attracted to you you won't get into a woman's heart by getting into her pants you'll get into a woman's heart by getting into her soul and you're gonna get into her soul when you inculcate self-confidence and a positive energy have genuine essentially absolutely bro I'll give you a simple example no disrespect to any of the guys out there the girls who have great physiques six packs size zero figures no disrespect but you know what we did this exercise where we took pictures of guys who are ripped six packs whatever and we showed them to girls do you find this guy attractive do you find this guy attractive 10 hours it's too much it's too much right so every guy


too much it's too much right so every guy out there build a great body I like maintaining a six-pack 360 degrees of the year at 360 days of year whatever but that's because I feel good but if you're building a six-pack because you think you're gonna get a woman I'm telling you right now you're not you're probably gonna get them and you're gonna be in the friend zone you're going to keep there they want you for the pictures that's it but believe me very rarely are you going to be lucky develop your skills develop how to talk how to do all of these things just having a six-pack body and I've showed many men women with you know brilliant figures and they say oh yeah she's probably good for a little while I want someone deep you know they have the assumption that beautiful women and models are shallow like assumptions and stuff they're not there are intelligent super intelligent ones but you see perception so it's not about that it's way way deeper than that


not about that it's way way deeper than that and if people can figure that out I think they can build more you know realistic more realistic relationships I mean everyone wants great sex but it doesn't end there there'll be days when a man can't do it there'll be days when a woman doesn't do it it doesn't some women I failed I failed will she love me so [ __ ] if you based Your Love of your relationship on your performance bro what's it gonna be five years down the line by saying failed most guys mean they either came too fast or they didn't get an erection they didn't get an erection they fail or they've done everything but the woman didn't orgasm and women say and these same women say look we tried to tell him that orgasm doesn't mean the sex wasn't good for us an orgasm is many things coming together I could have had a bad day and that's why you know I'm not unclear at all I'm enjoying everything but I didn't orgasm


all I'm enjoying everything but I didn't orgasm so when this communication in a man understands and imagine the pressure it takes off a man that you know it's fine it's fine if she does an orgasm every single time and I'm sure a woman will have a problem if she doesn't orgasm at all every single time that's a different story but it is like that we all go through phases like this there are some days where you feel like you're this rock star and then there are some days where you just feel like you can't perform and then you've got to step back what's going on in your life are you too stressed out are you sleep deprived you're drinking too much of alcohol smoking too much of weed ask yourself you'll find a reason there's always a reason why it's happening I'm not getting an erection let me go and get my heart checked yeah yeah do I have high blood pressure big issue for for erections and stuff now why do I have diabetes big issue


and stuff now why do I have diabetes big issue for erections so we have to say step back and look at these things I've had a lot of young Bros of mine who have dealt with erection related issues and in 99.9 of those cases and they have been a ton there'd be more than you'd imagine and a lot of them come to me and speak about it because with my brothers I'm very open um I feel in all the cases it's more a mental game than a physical game but someone just needs to tell them that yo this is normal it happens even if you came too fast it's normal it's much more mental game than anything you need to be relaxed you need to accept that this is happening you need to communicate with your partner that this has happened yeah and often I've I've actually spoken to them after they've come out of that phase of their life uh their female partner the girlfriends their wives actually had them come out of it where they were very supportive


them come out of it where they were very supportive that can be it for a guy and if there's any girl listening to this yeah and support your guy yeah support your guy and if it's an issue on the other side guys support your girl you know if she's going through a period of where you know uh it's it's painful for her all of that stuff you know I mean she's not changed she's going through an issue support her through it what's the girl equivalent of not getting a Bono dryness vagina dryness oh wow very painful for them you know a lot of a lot of women I mean a lot of cases of women who are married relationships who still can't have full penetration because the paint wow so the solution there's Lube uh it doesn't even work then so then they have to work on because they have fears in their mind a lot of them have been either abused earlier or they've had this fear or they've heard stories of you know their girlfriends who have


heard stories of you know their girlfriends who have been raped and stuff there are always and that's where a guy has to help the girl through it that's that's again where love is to the rescue so understanding understanding I wouldn't say love I would say maybe for you different perceptions for me I would say understanding I would feel understood let me say like like yeah like I said all masks are removed okay in one night if I don't perform well I want understanding you know I don't want anything else I want understanding and I feel good and the next day or you're a horse again it's like that you know so it can't the body won't always work that way so you're right about erectile dysfunction a lot of the K most of them are mental but a lot of them juvenile diabetes wow it's huge the moment someone comes to me I say please get your blood work done first okay first because if you you have diabetes you know a simple thing for guys let's add


you know a simple thing for guys let's add this to the sex guideline boys and men we wake up with erections in the morning sometimes a couple of them two three four five if you find that you're not getting your morning wood it's called morning wood nocturnal uh tumor sense if you're not getting it you want to get your heart checked and your blood sugar levels okay let me explain why the morning what happens okay it's not like yeah you know a lot of women get angry like they wake up and they find like their guy sleeping and they have an erection who are you thinking of no no they're not thinking of anything it's a normal thing just before we wake up in the morning the body is doing his final check blood flow everywhere blood flow to the penis up down it's like a beautiful machine that's where morning wood comes from it's the body doing its final check so if you're not getting your morning wood you know if you're very stressed you can


wood you know if you're very stressed you can relate it late night fine but if you're constantly not getting it you want to get your heart checked and your sugar levels checked and and women listening to it no your guys not thinking about a woman unless he's awake and he's got an erection probably then but you know this is the science of the body erections are absolutely normal it doesn't mean I have to be a Rouser think of another woman if I get it there's so many times I'm at work and stuff like that working on something like that you suddenly get hard you go down again you look you're like what am I thinking about I'm working no it's your body just doing its stuff leave it leave it you don't have a problem just chill leave it at that point the morning wood is very very important for men it's a very good indicator of heart health and uh diabetes and it happens till you're old yeah it decreases over time it decreases over time but


decreases over time it decreases over time but you know as we help people to sleep better I have men in their 50s or so hey look you know it's becoming a problem it's uncomfortable by five in the morning I have this erection that doesn't go what I'm saying that's that's good for you and that's where morning sex was brought up morning sex happened from there wake up I'm done finish the thing beautiful it's like that so it's different it's the way you perceive it some people love morning sex some doesn't depends on the partner depends on so many things some men just don't get an erection in the morning so how will you have morning sex you know some people are night people some people are often on people but everyone's different that's why you cannot compare your sex life or how you perform with other people the best is ask your partner honest questions what do you like does this please you and I do it communication is the most sexiest thing the most sexiest


communication is the most sexiest thing the most sexiest thing and a lot of women say I like to be guided I like to be asked what I like or I like to tell you what I like but a lot of men will feel egoistic about it don't tell me what to do I know what I need to do and you just go on licking randomly and not you know achieving anything and stuff like that so I think communication is key um okay now usually in this podcast we have a rapid fire kind of twitterverse based q a at the end I think that'll be a whole other podcast when it comes to sex so we're not going to take the audience's Q a I'm gonna talk about the final part the climax of this podcast pun intended uh it will be all about the actual Act of sex right from physical foreplay and what do you do when you're penetrated and all what do you do after right before that I would request the listeners and Watchers of this podcast to share


the listeners and Watchers of this podcast to share this as much as possible we grow through your shareability sharing it on WhatsApp sharing it on your social media when you put out conversations like this that's when uh sex is going to be a much more easily spoken about topic yeah uh I have gone out of my comfort zone to create this kind of content on beer biceps something you've never created before no one better than my big brother Luke coutinho uh I'm not an expert I've learned this over the years and stuff I've probably done everything that I'm now telling people not to do yeah and we learn through it it's as simple as that but you know you also come from a scientific uh place yes health and the human life is something that you study day in day out you want the best communicators I know and often for a guy if you're talking to guys your age or younger about sex it always becomes explicit it becomes oh man when you talk to an older guy about it it's


you talk to an older guy about it it's a lot more educative so I hope that that's the energy people pick up from this podcast and I hope there isn't some dude masturbating Somewhere listening to this that would be weird but coming to the final uh part of this podcast um here's what I know about physical foreplay we're done speaking about emotional foreplay and warming it up when things actually start um again every woman is different every man is different everyone's bodies are different um everyone has a minimum of two spots on their body one is your obvious spot which are your gender tools uh for women there's another spot which is the breasts and women have probably a third spot also which you have to find which is different for like every woman am I right and saying no you're right actually women have quite a few spots and the beauty is if you discover it for them but by saying by saying oh that's I yeah it is it is sometimes if you really explore you find


is it is sometimes if you really explore you find a spot on them which is like they'll say you know this stimulates me more than my nipples and then you feel like yeah like 10 times and stuff like that and you know what to work on and stuff so it's all about exploration you know because their nerves at the end of the day there's so much to explore in a woman's body for women to explore in a man's body but like when you're limited with your knowledge from porn you just do the same crap all the time you know all the time and um you know I mean this is something you can only feel the third or fourth or fifth spots can only be figured either through communication or through experimentation and it could be as random as your YOLO the back of your absolutely the neck the shoulders it could just be a random part of the body or not um aware of yeah uh every human being man or woman wants to feel like their body is being explored because sex


to feel like their body is being explored because sex at its core is vulnerability yes that's the key to great sex I feel explore each other's bodies before you go into the Final Act yeah would you absolutely exploration that's what Kama Sutra teaches you as well sex is not just the act of it it's exploring you know what turns on each other you know and again it starts from the emotional part everything and physical so many so many different things so many different things you know there are women who have said sometimes they orgasm without even penetration oh really like you mean by someone going down on them or fingering no not even that no penetration at all just those moments and stuff being in them in in an erotic hug during a massage all of that stuff which shows you the capability of the human body that foreign orgasm you don't need men can orgasm men can orgasm through certain yoga poses and asanas and certain you know when you do this post called the Mula Banda


when you do this post called the Mula Banda it's not a pose it's a it's a lock you find yourself getting stimulated because all that Sexual Energy Comes Alive Kundalini Yoga teaches you that it teaches men how to orgasm without Act without a woman even being with them okay so these things show you the reason I'm saying that is it shows you the capability of the human body and the secrets of the human the secrets of the human body so that that's what makes exploration huge for us imagine discovering something new you know with your partner or with your lover or what it is you know whatever it is and stuff like that you know I think that's that's very very you know necessary yeah I feel I mean without revealing too many details uh I didn't know that there's a second spot on a man's body and most men don't because all the attention usually goes on your own penis and your balls like you think it's like everything's down there and someone told me no


like everything's down there and someone told me no no that's not true and and helped me discover that and I was like what the [ __ ] like I didn't know they were talking what are you talking about I don't want to reveal it because okay I just revealed it yeah it's my yellow man and someone just like placed a kiss on my YOLO here's the other thing right um in bed there's givers and takers yeah you realize this once you've had sex with more than one person unfortunately most human beings are takers but I'll give you some advice 100 okay you be I'm talking as a guy okay you be the giver now what you get back's gonna come compounded I learned the power of compounding and money maybe at like the age of 35 but the compounding of giving a woman genuine love sex foreplay whatever and then you just lay back and and and it's massive be a giver be a giver but if you're not getting back then also you know


but if you're not getting back then also you know kind of whatever I feel to a certain age of my life uh and yes I have had my share of fun um I happen to just be with takers and I do believe that insects it is the duty of a man to give uh I learned this from a YouTuber called Elliot house he talks very amazingly about the penis and the vagina the shapes of it and that's a good representation of not a man's Nation nature but I'd say masculine energy masculine energy is very go out there yeah do it just like the penis it's shaped forward feminine energy is very kind of Indian correct yeah taking care come in I will help you like the vagina it's got a slot for the man to put his penis in uh now I'm not saying that all men have that oh I'm gonna go for it yeah everyone has a balance of masculine and feminine energy and if you feel it's too much of masculine


and if you feel it's too much of masculine energy in you you have to inculcate some feminine values like endurance like compassion like emotional thinking like spiritual growth yeah similarly if you have too much feminine energy you need to inculcate some masculine energy traits like determination like a bravery like Risk these are all energies that you have to use exactly right yeah uh but purely when we speak about sex I do believe it's a role of a man to really channelize his Divine masculine and it's a role of a woman to channelize her divine feminine absolutely and you know ranvi you make a very good point there's no fixed rule about this you know sometimes the same woman will be like you know the foreplay just get straight to it and then some days there are like you know Coastal it's changing it's an energy it can never remain the same sometimes as a guy you just want to you know give and stuff like that and a woman wants to take it


stuff like that and a woman wants to take it at us sometimes you'll want to extend it so there's no fixed rule about it they're all different energies depending on who you are in that moment how you're one hour before your sex started what were you in that moment so these are all energies and that's what should be kept open and that's why some some women will say that you know Jordan I'm not talking about me you're an amazing lover sometimes it can be rough with me I want to be I want to be dominated I want because that's the energy they're feeling at that time you know so I think that it comes down again to that communication but the the most beautiful lovemaking is when it unfolds naturally it may start off as gentle move on to really really wild in between become gentle again and it's just flowing because energy flows I think that's the most beautiful love making now if I said I'm gonna say okay uh tonight I'm gonna start off by going down


uh tonight I'm gonna start off by going down on her I'm gonna do this I'm gonna tie her hands Vienna back then I'm gonna put her on her knees that's you're supporting a vision in your mind and it could be completely different so what you said about these energies is real but they can change according to how she's feeling at that point how the man is feeling at that point absolutely right man yes dominate because go back to go back to uh the cavemen the job of a man was to inseminate a woman create create all of that stuff and a woman was meant to you know take that egg become a baby nurture all of that stuff that's how it worked today it's moved into so many so many so many different things and stuff like that which is okay it's evolved it's moved into different but it doesn't change the fact that you know this is what it is for and how how does science explain that every time a man makes love to a woman


that every time a man makes love to a woman okay ovulation every year okay at that time of the month if you're pregnant the body's preparing for it but if you're not pregnant the sheets fall off and you go back you know all of that stuff if there's an egg it will move on so the body expects penetrate I mean it's it's a natural process it's a natural process you know so this is the beauty of sex and this is the beauty of the body there's so much more depth to all of these so I better look I want to learn tantric sex I want to learn a lion I think I said for what aren't you happy yeah but but what if I can extend an orgasm I said great for you go ahead and try but again I always say what is your why why are you there no no these people yogis do it right you're doing it because you does it fine you want to experiment okay and stuff like that not the happiest people they make love


like that not the happiest people they make love they're happy they build and that's it that's how it is so everyone chooses their whole thing but today they're all together oh Patrick's Day coordinate my breeding okay if you're doing your yoga practice in the morning you're doing your brand am I you're already in Rhythm that Rhythm flows into your daily work conversations love making eating everything that's the purpose of yoga I shouldn't have to do yoga to have a better sex life it's because I'm doing my yoga automatically every part of me is functioning in Rhythm so that's how it does so coming back to yoga yes we have so many people today who have gotten into yoga sorted out their premature ejaculation you know issues a lot of women with you know vaginal dryness and all of that stuff combining their pranayama with their yoga Kundalini Yoga you know everyone has sexual energy and I think your body's capable of healing itself absolutely you know a woman


of healing itself absolutely you know a woman the amount of Sexual Energy she carries is something to be in awe of yeah I'll give you a case I had a lady and she came you know and vagina dryness all of that boils this that whatever so I went to not a food problem I said relationship my husband doesn't make love to me I feel unwanted I feel this spoke to the husband she's saying like you know honeymoon period is over and stuff and this is how it is right it dies I said yes maybe it dies but your wife perceives it as feeling unwanted you know all of these things sing but I don't feel like I said fine I don't know I asked the woman I said do you masturbate she said look I can't that's a sin so I said okay fine then you're going to sin okay for the next few days You're Gonna masturbate okay and when I have these conversations I always have a lady nutritionist so hard it comes with


have a lady nutritionist so hard it comes with me then hardiker take this through and stuff like that one week later you should see the testimonials that come that's come in why did I make her masturbate to release sexual energy energy put into just imagine a pressure cooker it's gonna burst women have sexual energy that comes out in not just sex the way they mother a child the way they defend themselves the way they protect their children the way they keep an eye on their husbands all of this is pretty this is Sexual Energy it's a beautiful thing if the woman cannot release it why does an orgasm feel so great for a woman why do when we ejaculate why do we it's a massive release of sexual energy which is why like you know if you're working on an important project all of that stuff and you want all your brain energy don't masturbate then don't do it then you're going to decrease all your energy all of your energy do it when maybe you want to go to sleep


do it when maybe you want to go to sleep or you're bored or whatever you're not working on a project it's an energy release and that's why you feel so good it's like you're stressed right now okay everyone watching this now take a deep breath ah you're gonna feel good you are going to feel good you've just released so much of energy because right now we're talking shallow breathing and all of that stuff so Sexual Energy is such a beautiful thing women build Empires driven with Sexual Energy now most of mythical Sexual Energy sex no it's an energy it's a physical energy and it has to be released it has to be released like a man as well so a man not getting sex in a marriage okay becomes frustrated angry all of these things again Sexual Energy is contained energy has to flow that's why you'll have night falls all of these issues and stuff like that the body has to empty when it needs to empty so it's a beautiful thing Sexual Energy I think


so it's a beautiful thing Sexual Energy I think women should be so proud of sexual energy and work with men to harness this energy harness this energy ask any woman the craziest orgasm okay would have happened with everything working in sync with each other not just like that you pick up a girl one night stand you bang each other and stuff like that I can guarantee to you in most cases that woman's not orgasm and the guys just had it's more of a you know one night excitement kind of a thing under the influence of alcohol drugs or just High dopamine oxytocin and stuff like that but for Rural orgasms any woman will tell you I need to feel cared for yeah I need to feel loved I need to feel at least respected and stuff like that you know so this is how it is um coming back to the actionables yeah um is it safe to say uh that after we've finished off the exploration process in the foreplay I'm talking about this like


process in the foreplay I'm talking about this like an engineer but uh you know anyway that's how a man's mind works okay men do think in structure Not all men but I I personally have a lot of masculine energy which I've balanced out over time with a lot of feminine energy as well but my natural inclination because I've gone through engineering colleges to think in structure and format uh so if you have gone through the exploration you've kissed you've like used your fingers you know you've caressed um is oral sex The Next Step before penetration see I just think that you know every guy's goal is to get the woman to orgasm or Climax and probably in a hurry if they you know tend to have premature ejaculation so the best idea would be the more foreplay the faster it is once you start penetration to get a woman down if you're going to start directly with penetration like I said you've got to be the really one in a I don't know


to be the really one in a I don't know how many men do like get the woman to climax an orgasm just with pure penetration and most women don't like it that way I mean there could be someone I'm not going to talk for them but you know we ask these direct questions that's how we learn and we get better at counseling people and yeah we want foreplay it means that guy and look at what they say pleasure is the second word versus they're giving us time they they they like us they love my body they want to go down on me so you see in a woman's mind is working in so many different directions you get the woman wet you go down on her all of that stuff you've prepared like I said it's a well-oiled machine you've got to get all the levers working the right way and then the climax and the orgasm usually happens the right way you know so I think that would be definitely the next step of course some women don't like


the next step of course some women don't like men going down on them really yeah a lot of them like what's the logic a lot of them so spoken to a couple of them a lot of them in certain religions it is considered disrespectful for the guy to go down on a woman and many religions are kind of sexist yep absolutely so a woman brought up with those values that your job is only to give and not to take so when a man goes down on these women they've never had a man go down them on and all for them it's like an explosion of different emotions there's a lot of resistance and again communication because as a man if you find a woman who's never been gone down on that that would be my first priority give her that pleasure so if you try to force her it's not going to work but you ease her into that easier into that easier and you know you break the barriers and stuff it's going to be beautiful it's going to


stuff it's going to be beautiful it's going to be and there are a lot of women who don't like to go down on guys because for them they've been brought up and I've asked these women they're saying yeah because you know our family told us that men pee from there so we shouldn't put it in our mouth not the woman's fault but the upbringing it's like what you tell them at that particular age so they see it as dirty same guys also how can I go around on Hershey peace what if she's not clean so everyone's different but again again through communication all of that stuff everything is possible and if you don't like it you don't like it there are other ways to do it it doesn't mean oh no this is not going to work my sex life is over this is over that is over you know there are find other ways to do it yeah find other ways to do it you know I mean you look at HIV patients you can't have oral sex there are


HIV patients you can't have oral sex there are HIV Partners who are together you can't have oral sex you can't do that so does that mean they don't have a good sex life they find other ways to do it what's the logic of that like they have the HIV or viruses only one of them has it no no both a lot of them because you it's very rare for you to find a part so why don't have HIV and stuff like that why can't you have oral sex if you only because the transmission right total sex HIV can be but if both of them have it anyway yeah but then you're creating an overload on the immune system right the idea is to keep the virus dormant right so yeah these are real problems that people wow that's the whole thing I mean you don't even have to have a HIV people should know that through oral sex you can transmit sexually transmitted diseases as well so it's not about that hey you know I'm not gonna have


about that hey you know I'm not gonna have penetrated sex I'm gonna go down on this stranger tonight and stuff like that you still got to be careful of it you can still get a sexually transmitted disease through it yeah that's that's something we need to highlight which we probably haven't highlighted in this entire product safety absolutely and there's a lot of STDs flying around absolutely it's huge and again people say I'll get it I'll get this but if you get a virus that screws you up you know everything's over herpes and HIV not curable either uh it's it's a virus that has to go into remission so your immune system the moment like I have a lot of patience who suddenly get help copies when their immune system Falls like some they get flared up on rashes and rings and all of that stuff could be painful all of that stuff it lives in you but you keep it in remission you can live a normal life if your immune system


you can live a normal life if your immune system drops it comes up again yeah so so Safety First no matter what safety safety person be very conscious of who you're exchanging your energy with absolutely and I love that I love what you said you know every time a man has sex with a woman and a different woman you are exchanging different energies and absorbing different energies as well this was very well explained to me by you know A lady called Christina who's a sexual sexual Wellness expert and she told us how it's not just about you know pleasure you are exchanging energies your energies and that person that person's energy is in you so you know do it with Clarity if you want to do it and it can really [ __ ] up your head like it can mess you up if you're just you know sleeping on multiple people also the the spiritual aspect of sex is uh they say that when you choose sex with someone you're accepting all of their karmas as yourself absolutely


accepting all of their karmas as yourself absolutely it's a sacred thing to say we see it as pleasure come on I'm not going to try you and and be a saint over here for most of my life in my earlier days it's seen as pleasure good bonding and stuff like that but today you see it as a very sacred thing you know you are giving your energy to someone else you know someone else is giving your their energy to you and then you go home and you have sex with someone else or your partner and stuff there's a Energy Mix that's happening that can emotionally affect a man and a woman yeah but we don't look at these things so we ask direct questions how many partners do you have you're feeling depressed yeah this that whatever I'm sleeping with four different women let's consider part of your depression is also the mixed energies in you take your medication that's not your solution you need to also change these habits just threatening these habits which are


change these habits just threatening these habits which are the wrong habits for you well you know so and a healthy sexual relationship within the confines of a romantic relationship is possibly one of the most enriching you can go through I think so um absolutely final aspect of it uh penetration two two questions one for the guys actually you know I'd probably say uh this this section of the questions are mainly for the guys one okay if you are dealing with premature ejaculation is there some kind of mentality you can use to prevent that or you know if you're dealing with again erectile dysfunction if you start losing your erections after you've gone and two about um I don't know how to put this in a classy way but like thrusting like when when you're actually in the act of sex yeah what's the other rules is everyone different everyone's different see if a premature ejaculation it's always good not to be ashamed of it and just discuss it with your partner okay very very


and just discuss it with your partner okay very very good because the momentsy understanding fixes everything they understand now you're no longer pressurized you're no longer pressurized they understand I'm gonna give my best but I try foreplay is very important for people who have premature ejaculation very very very important or they can't keep it hard long enough and stuff like that you know know you wanna you don't want to use oral sex you want to use the fingers you want to use all of that stuff and there are loads of happy couples living out there where their husband has premature ejaculation the wife understands and they figured ways around it and there are couples that fall apart because they built their whole relationship based on sex and pleasure and stuff like that okay thrusting is very very you can look at it differently everyone's different that's why I feel when you are making love to a woman you have to be so include if you are only thinking that oh [ __ ]


if you are only thinking that oh [ __ ] am I as good as that guy I saw in the porn video today am I performing well does she like it you're missing out on the signals from her so you decide your thrust Pace based on her body language based on the sounds she's making and a woman will communicate and always ask they like to be asked like you know do you want it harder you want it faster is it going well and and every guy she says it's just don't stop it's beautiful you got the pace that's what you want so communication is everything because today she wants her heart tomorrow she wants a slow people you know it's different all the time but porn teaches you bang like you know just go on so you think wow that's the right way but most women will not want it that way we be gentle okay now I want it fast okay fast I'm reaching an orgasm don't stop okay but start off slow so I think it's a beautiful communication


start off slow so I think it's a beautiful communication process at the end of the day and just stop watching porn I mean once in a way you want to watch a video you're bored you're sitting in a hotel fine do it but I'm saying if you're watching all the time you are preparing yourself for premature ejaculation you are preparing yourself from failure because then the only thing you compare your performance with is this your benchmark of performance is communication with her how did she feel a man knows when he's pleased when she when he's pleased the woman he knows it's like you've done it she's orgasm and you're like you know yeah you know you know and you know when you haven't and be okay with it you know it is a beautiful affirmation I tell people that you know it I'm okay it's gonna be okay you know it's not okay today it's gonna be okay tomorrow you've not failed so people have made sex complicated it's the simplest thing yeah


have made sex complicated it's the simplest thing yeah it's the simplest thing it's like making a dish it's like making okay I'm not gonna compare sex to Kitchen even though I like kitchen you get the ingredients right the right amount of deed the right amount of turmeric all of that stuff the right heat and stuff and you serve it well that's comfort food it feels so good the same thing with a woman it's I'm not saying you're like jigsaw puzzles but it's like putting the pieces of a puzzle together and you put it together and you've got a beautiful picture you know that's the way I would see it it doesn't have to be complicated that's gorgeous I'd probably conclude by saying that uh do the one thing that enhances any human communication and sex is a human communication at the end of the day if you want great sex just be completely present yeah be aware and have Clarity on the other person absolutely compassionate absolutely and be okay to ask women women


compassionate absolutely and be okay to ask women women like to talk about these things you know I like it if I like it if a woman says that you know hey you know what turns you on what you know what all of these things rather than assuming that like I just go down on a guy and stuff like that you know I think communication is such a beautiful thing such a beautiful thing and Sexual Energy is also such a beautiful thing I know people who this energy bills in them they get sick and stuff it has to be released that's why masturbation is a natural process for a woman and a man it's a natural process it's not something which is bad it's bad if I'm abusing it okay it doesn't make masturbation bad if I'm watching porn video after another and I'm trying to like Shack five times in a day obviously or abusing a you know an intelligent system and stuff like that but it's so natural for a woman to masturbate you know a man a guy to


to masturbate you know a man a guy to masturbate all of that stuff that woman you know who came and said look it's a 50 or it's a fifth month of marriage and I saw my husband masturbating and I said so what so what am I not pleasing him enough I said you may be pleasing him you know whatever he's masturbating doesn't mean he loves another woman he's thinking of another woman or whatever I said for all you know a lot of women while they're on top of a man they're thinking of another guy a wrestler an actor whatever these are fantasies this doesn't mean they don't love you you're doing it all the time you have a problem it's as simple as that so I think you've got to break down these complications and not hold on to it no hold on your guy is sleeping in the night and he has a Nightfall what are you gonna say to him you're gonna say oh you you were thinking of another woman and you


oh you you were thinking of another woman and you came and stuff like that I know it's a Nightfall there's science to back it up so I think people should uncomplicate sex so you feel the essence and the beauty of it it's non-complicated it really is and the beauty of the Simplicity of sex is in our own we as Indians we should be so proud of Kama Sutra um read it people think positions I learned positions no you learn a way of life through Kama Sutra what a beautiful book what a beautiful book and if you look at the images in Kama Sutra do you see models the guy has a punch the woman has a punch but they have the most ecstatic sex life because it's not about how you look it's not about whether you have a six-pack you have a whatever and stuff like that that's the beauty of Kamasutra and I think everyone should read Kamasutra to understand that sex is so much Beyond just pornography once you reach Kama Sutra you


Beyond just pornography once you reach Kama Sutra you realize that porn is just a joke just a joke you want to hit it off quickly watch a quick video fine good but you really want to learn the essence of sex read Kamasutra it will change your life and the way you look at women the way you you look at yourself your own Sexual Energy is a man it changes the way you look and you know sex yeah and sex is one of those topics that we can keep breaking down I'm sure that this is in the last podcast based on sex that we're doing so I would request listeners Watchers to post your questions down below uh take active part and growing the podcast share the podcast with your friends subscribe to the YouTube channel if you're listening to this on YouTube make sure your notifications are on and what I'd also requests knowing my big brother Luke coutinho is that we will be doing more episodes but you have to check out the older episodes we've done together uh Luke