wake up one day and you know till up until like one year ago I was like Pagano - look you sh 0 non-vegetarian how who show and even then see I mean seeing that I still included a lot of fiber a lot of vegetarian fare in my in my diet plan but I I enjoyed my non-vegetarian also because you know you work out yeah and after 35 you lose a lot of muscle mass bone density and you have to obviously keep up mm-hmm and when you end up eating vegetarian you feel that you're going to end up eating more carbs yeah yeah you know and you will bloat yeah but it's all it's all that shift that you make in your head and it's the kind of food that you choose to eat that decides on how you look the next day you feel you're healthier now then when you were 25 I feel for a 44 year old I am full of beans and I am very healthy touchwood so and I want to continue to be like this I want


I want to continue to be like this I want to be my fittest best till the day on the I know if I die I just dial my sleep yeah and it's because it's time to go and that again is predestined but I don't want to suffer I don't wanna I don't want to go through an ailment that is you know lingering on and I that's something that I that I wish for myself yeah but in terms of comparing my health to what it used to be I don't know without any comparisons I can just say that my strength my core strength is much more today than than before because I concentrate on it yeah yeah and you know I can like vouch for this like we've actually seen you transition into becoming a fitness influencer on social media do you consider yourself like that somewhere like because you are influencing the whole country to keep up with their fitness with the health and hopefully the spirituality going forward you know I think that is something that I wish


you know I think that is something that I wish people would focus on well the spiritual aspect of it so you could be Hindu Muslim Sikh Christian it really doesn't matter spirituality has something to do with belief and faith and it has nothing to do with a particular kind of religion it has it means faith in the better good mm-hmm you know and that just makes you you know makes you evolve as a better version of yourself yeah so I read a lot of spiritual books myself and I was just reading this paragraph yesterday from this very like renowned spiritual author so he said that spirituality according to the ancient yogic definition of it is definitely like meditation and all that is a part of it but basically for like the average you would mean it boils down to living simply living positively and living income about everything that's going on so I think spirituality is one of those things that anyone can apply but in saying all this I also know that in the Big Brother house you


I also know that in the Big Brother house you made people meditate so I want to ask you about meditation and more specifically I want to ask you about your mom who kind of got you into this and there is honesty okay coming from the other side of Bollywood like the viewer side there's this whole rumor that your mom is one super spiritual do she kind of at that phase of your life where you got the whole Big Brother you know that no one happened she had like kind of advice you ki man you should go to UK so is this just a conspiracy theory is that true it's it's slightly different she always not she didn't tell me but she did tell a lot of people around me that you know my my Shilpa has a lot in store for and what she what she's achieved right now is just the tip of the iceberg and I was actually going through a lull in my career at that point during Big Brother this was around 12 years ago and she had


Brother this was around 12 years ago and she had told someone not someone she told a couple of people that she'd watch Shahrukh I remember during bicycie that Shilpa is going to attain world fame not just in India so I thought I mean every mother thinks like that about the joy you know that this child is going to delay and I thought it was just a place of love and bias but the kind of Fame that I saw after Big Brother was unprecedented it was shocking for me and I never ever thought in my wildest dreams I would win the show I was ready to actually leave the house every week and my my mom you talked about my mom meant spirituality yes it definitely is handed down to me from her my mom's been practicing meditation for a really long time she would sometimes you know be in a conversation and I would see her hands move and she she was actually praying she prays for people that she doesn't that she that that is not even


that she doesn't that she that that is not even family she feels somebody is suffering she'll pray for them that kind of an unconditional love is very difficult to find in this time in age we're speaking of evolved people my next question he was gonna be a little heavy my question to you is that what is going on in your whole business career as well because that's a very active part of your life but your low-key about it people don't know how much into business you were and I also feel you're the kind of person who when you put your glasses on you become a different person so so like do you know what I mean like not literally but all your calculations and all come on no I'm not I'm terrible with numbers I have I don't consider myself someone with business acumen also and I'm not saying saying it trying to be humble and being honest but what I have is intuition and what I have is a very clear sense of direction in my head of


a very clear sense of direction in my head of where I see myself or what I think I need to do can you elaborate on the intuition part first yeah so for me I I really believe that most human beings I read this book in it I'm terrible with names but you know it's that flicker that sense of the minute you see something you you gauge your feeling or your intuition on it and then what happens is that we lose focus and then we go into due diligence whether this is right for us or not but that is the instance that you see that situation or the thing that you want to you know delve into that instant is the truth yeah so like your first instinct about a person or a situation yeah else you the truth yeah but most people slip into that calculate so I just go with that moment that whatever just person this situation this business so if I like a business in the face of it I will approach the guys and I'll see you know


will approach the guys and I'll see you know I want to buy a stake in it so I'll also give you the spiritual perspective on like what you're saying according to the spiritual books so are you familiar with chakra meditations so basically chakras are important in our oh I'll take it off yeah so basically there's a chakra here which is also at the same position as something call your people and yeah it's like a third eye like that's what they call it so if you keep working on that your intuition continuously increases and there's something I felt as well like and the practical use of it in the modern world is business it was there's one right behind it that people don't focus on it's called the bindi chakra okay could you elaborate yeah so you they say that there are only seven chakras but there's so many more 30 2007 to 2009 T's in her body 3 points there are so many nerve endings in each one each cell has a brain of


endings in each one each cell has a brain of its own mm-hmm it's a person in itself and we are functioning because each one is working mm-hmm so have you used any of those to improve your career no I I'm I'm a huge believer in chakra meditation and I practice it and even when we started the app I was hell-bent on doing it I was hell-bent on introducing it through the app and we've done it and I really feel you know when you're in when you are aligned with your chakras you automatically feel the sense of power you feel in control of your faculties and I feel be really losing out on that it's because we are not aligned I also feel that again it's there's is this yogic concept that talks about you know peace and they say that there's three layers to it the first issue of physical health that needs to be fixed second is your mental health and third is your spiritual health so I would I would interchange that a little bit I


I would I would interchange that a little bit I would say first your mental health God and if you meant if you're functioning well up here it's mind over body yeah don't automatically your physical health will be better but do you think that if your habits are bad like very badly I'm seeing junk food every day smoking everyday things like that it creates an environment for negative thoughts and I think you attract you attract what you want so so if you want to go down that path you will attract it 100% so you have to choose what path you want today also I feel that's why I when YouTube was starting YouTube doesn't pay you initially at all so you have to say oh no I mean not not YouTube as in Adsense is a different game but the brand money that we get is fantastic well get in touch with monk entertain basically it's it's a good life now but when we were starting our it wasn't and I said train a lot of people then and my specialty


said train a lot of people then and my specialty in training was weight loss primarily and I actually witnessed what was like even just a three-month period of training people of getting them to change their habits and all that they actually start becoming more positive so that was my theory that weight physical health comes first Mental Health come second spiritual health comes third but I do feel for someone to reach that third aspect of spiritual health and even considering that as important you need to have these to fix and I feel like fortunately for you and me we've taken care of physical health earlier in life but that doesn't happen to everyone I think it happened automatically because I came from a background of sports mmm so that was ingrained in our system that you know we had to have a certain discipline in our lives and then was do you feel that in today's day and age people don't even have that like you know people don't have discipline yeah and the minute you word use the word discipline they


and the minute you word use the word discipline they feel negative in somebody something is gonna be taken away from you so I don't know why there's this whole misconception or myth with the word discipline with the word diet that's why I avoid using these words what's a day in your life like hahaha what do you do difficult question I know it'll be through a random like what different days are different but okay give me like a workday and then give me a slightly chilly there's no chilly but they make my life easy I have a I have a mess that make my life easy they know there are some jobs I can delegate and there are some I can't oh I can't delegate the job of looking good on a day of an important shoot I need my sleep hmm I can't delegate the job of I can delegate one aspect of it of motherhood yeah yeah but even though I've made some yeah I'm a hands-on mother and so is my husband yeah so we're for us that is


my husband yeah so we're for us that is our priority in our lives how does like fatherhood or motherhood change was you have to become a parent understand the depth of unconditional love but your each each person is different I'm very middle class and those values are very dear to me I don't want to consciously let go of those values so while I'm I enjoy the fact that I'm in a position of power and I love my fame and unapologetically so but I'm very clear that my day will start and end with my child so that is a very clear demarcation you know you said that you really kind of hold them it is lost values as a cornerstone in your life what are the middle-class values that you'd want to pass on to your child because he's not gonna grow up middle class and I know you've thought of that so what one what are you gonna pass on to him - what are you afraid of I don't want to sow the seed of fear because


don't want to sow the seed of fear because it will grow into a tree or fewer then so I don't like to put that they say that every time you say something you have seven seconds to retract or it will manifest you know and I am very careful about what I say so just what I just I I really I look forward to the future I don't know what it has in store for for Veon or me all I can say is that I'm trying to do my best as a mother and I I wish that I'm able to make him understand the importance of work ethics the importance of spirituality the importance of the better good and I always say one line to him what you give you get and somewhere it's they're deeply sowed in his subconscious I don't want to force my viewpoints on him you are just a body and you are you are there to just be part of your child's journey so this moon is actually just a catalyst and he has to pave


actually just a catalyst and he has to pave the path himself and you can't want him to be or in person you know he has to learn to be that and he will grow into that when you find your path and you're calling on your own one day and I'm sure he on will find that speaking about path and calling let's rock videos I want to know like when Bazzi had happened your debut before that what was your mindset were you expecting that this is the life you're going to be entering I was so dumb yeah I was just I'm still very dumb and I like Windham 17 okay 17 and I was watching one of my interviews on lahiri that was the only time we used to do interviews and everything from my perspective to my voice to obviously my looks everything has changed what was your perspective that time I view life with Rose tinted glasses yeah you you don't have any you know experience is the best teacher did you have dark experiences after that


the best teacher did you have dark experiences after that not dark create experiences experiences that made me grow up experiences that made me realize that that I couldn't have learnt learnt this from anyone else you have to go through experiences on your own you know when you're brought up in a spiritual family you do have a kind of Rose tinted glasses you believe that the world will be as nice as your family is exact so my question to you is did you have any instances where you're like okay maybe my family's nicer than this world so do you have experiences like that you know to answer that question like I said I'm not the sort of person who judges yeah every I always believe that it's never people that are bad it's always situations and they may have had their own reason to behave the way they did so I I have selective amnesia I really believe I really believe that the more you hold on the more you know the less I don't know how to say


you know the less I don't know how to say this the more you hold on it's like holding hot coal no it's like punishing yourself for somebody else's bad deeds why are you punishing yourself yeah Kukoc are my so I have selective amnesia I my hard disk can only have all the good memories I delete all the bad memories are all the bad experiences and I I love this life I love the experiences good bad ugly whatever they've taught me the person I have become it just makes you more street smart I can say so after talking you have figured one thing for sure that your inner world is extremely positive and they say that your external world becomes a reflection of your internal whatever you become your happiness your sadness so my question to you is a very real world question which is that and this is something our works for me I filled my last thing that I do at night and the first thing I do in the morning really affects my whole thought process which in


morning really affects my whole thought process which in turn affects my internal world and therefore my external world so what's the first and last thing you do in a day and is there something you do consciously with that in you do right so what is it yeah you're all my inner secrets huh so the first thing I do is obviously express gratitude for being alive even healthy and the last thing I do is again the same express gratitude but is there like in a day a word night where you have like some kind of a nighttime routine nothing my day begins at 6:30 normally and it ends by around 11:00 11:30 well a meditation happen just before I go to bed okay so whatever happens however tired I am it doesn't stop me from you know meditating for those last 15 minutes of the day if someone wasn't get into meditation what's your advice to them start slowly and just consciously try to just blank your mind has it changed your life you feel and your perspective how


it changed your life you feel and your perspective how long it's all great it's beautiful but it's not easy yeah so it gives you that calm to deal with even difficult yeah there's so so much happening that you need a sense of you need you need a sense of calm at some point and you need a place where you can find it and that place is within yourself if you don't need to leave the country or you know go to a holiday destination to find calm so it's it's they're within you you just need to tap or rather knock on that door which happens in your meditation yeah that's that's the one place I find myself actually I also feel that your internal world is a reflection of the people you hang out with yeah and your social media feed so yeah 100% so my question to you is one do you consciously choose and cut off people now do you immediately go okay not gonna hang out with you it's okay we're all human I don't have I have


okay we're all human I don't have I have very few friends and while people think that I'm very friendly and I I embrace everyone that comes into my life make them feel very loved and then I take a step back and I close the door well I am I then I have just those few people that and it's not like they do the people I embrace don't know the real me what you see is what you get with me but the very few people that I can sit and have long conversations with like if they're in trouble in a jiffy and they're yeah because you're spiritual and you also Gemini Oh actually really if I start speaking like this to normal people will mostly they'll be like I need a drink this is like to every duty for me to Adil but yes the very few people who really gauge and understand my drift yeah but I I understand that like I think even as I've grown spiritually I want to keep a lot of the energy to myself I know


keep a lot of the energy to myself I know the things when you said when you said keep that energy to myself oh I feel like you know some people can be such energy vampires like you know they suck the life out of me and those kind of people I just I want to keep away from because I can't I can't don't want my energy to be diluted and you know we live we're living in this fast-paced life where you require ton loads of energy and yeah and I really feel that you know sometimes I'm I'm sapped hmm and then I need to again go back and regain composure and you know energy what's your opinion on like material wealth in this whole like spiritual game like where does that lie yeah you know I we come from nothing and we're gonna go with nothing so while the sounds damn philosophical like I said we live in Kaliyuga so whatever I own I enjoy and unapologetically so but tomorrow if I don't have it god forbid I'll


if I don't have it god forbid I'll be happy there as well so I you know I'm a middle-class girl that came from Chimbote from a two-bedroom home that's would I have all all of this and a beautiful family but it doesn't drive me honestly run me this this doesn't drive me the spiritual pursuit is the stronger one yeah and you know pursuit of happiness my last question to you is that after talking to you and getting to know you like through this conversation you're one of the happiest human beings are spoken to yeah yeah for sure like what have you met you haha when we come back human beings yeah that's because you sense energy and I sense that you know your smile says everything yeah and not just you just generally when I see people their smile determines the kind of people they are some of them you know that photograph behind so most of them are actually sad and they're smiling in front that's actually a very positive photograph a picture where the


actually a very positive photograph a picture where the person behind the mask is actually smiling horrible and that for me is important so whether I'm smiling on the face of it or not my heart is smiling and happy that that is important at the end of the day for sure and you know a lot of people when they're listening to a heavy so direct conversation like this they're thinking that also they're the same people who only taste material wealth in life those very often so my I feel like you know we it's very easy for us to say or judge that you know they're chasing what material wealth maybe there is something that they're still searching so we've been there done that maybe maybe out at least I feel I got pain early in life like so for example for physical health I got a gold stone at 1600 up Obie's and I've got a call so maybe in full procedure and in the same you I had two other surgeries related my shoulders because I fell and like anyway it was a


because I fell and like anyway it was a weight related thing so that was my early wake-up call from a physical health perspective mental health went to depression in engineering college so that was a wake up call key you know okay these habits led to this state of mind and spiritual health I think I just discovered meditation through YouTube so that things happen to me early like by the time I was 23 hours meditating all day and things like that and what a beautiful feeling it is now yeah all of it and you know keeping those three boxes checked like physical mental and spiritual it gives you a lot of balance and calm for the rest of your life but my question to you is when you go back to the 23 year old version of yourself what is the physical health advice the mental health advice and the spiritual health advice that you will give them you know I just feel that things come to you at a certain age for a certain reason hmm so that was your journey at 23 I


hmm so that was your journey at 23 I had the worst heartbreak like I said I viewed the you know viewed people with roastin rose-tinted glasses and I thought I'll never be able to come out of that I was I was in a shell for a really long time and then I decided to improve myself and you you know we all go through those or those feelings of insecurity you know am I good enough why why did this happen to me and you know I just feel that that is a journey that we have to take because if that didn't happen this person in front of you wouldn't be this person so I really feel that in has to be embraced and you have to live in that moment XP experience that pain and then you have to come out of it if you're gonna wallow in self-pity and if you're good at burden and project along with you throughout your journey it's going to be really difficult for you to live so for all those people


difficult for you to live so for all those people who have been through suffering it's only normal and every person suffering is the same you can't you know there's no value in terms of you know weight or you know don't know if your quantify you can't quantify or you Skupin Marisa come down you can emit for every person that pain is pain right so you have to experience it and you have to move on and you have to become a stronger person hmm so yeah so but in specifically like in that whole self-improvement phase that happened after that what did you do for your physical body so I decided to safeguard but you know we all then start building a wall you know that's the one one thing I started doing and it and it's not in a negative sort of way it's it's important to kind of decide Kay yeah me release ie here or you Amy really in a yeah so you know most of us what happens is that we go through pain and then


happens is that we go through pain and then we're still doing those back bends and then you break your back one day so I decided K beyond this point I will not bend my back so that is what life's experiences teach you so the ones who learn from their own experiences are actually the stupid ones the ones who learn from others experiences are the smart one so I learned from my own and then I realized that this is as much as I will take in my life after the one heartbreak and then the second one happened and then the third and with every heartbreak I realize that my back bending is reducing but then eventually you found your soulmate and then you're willing to do like the chakras and thank you lovely positive soul yourself thank you so much and you know through these conversations that I have there's always something I take away on a personal level on my own spiritual journey I'm trying to eliminate negative like thoughts and it can be anything


eliminate negative like thoughts and it can be anything it can be say even angers a negative thought or not being comes a negative thought the one they have picked up from you is not judging people even if it's that 1% judgement which is very hard so I'm gonna take that away from so it's human actually I have to say while people are listening to us it's human to judge but I judge and then I'm like why am i judging hmm am i perfect and then I come out of the situation so it's perfectly normal if you want to judge for that minute but then you just have to let go of the situation that's my learning yeah that's how you become the happiest person y'all leave Leave I have my own bubble I don't care what people are doing one day what they want to do in their life may up knocker I'm gonna share with you at the same time hustling hard creating businesses creating Fitness killing it so it's not just esoteric and spiritual it's using


it's not just esoteric and spiritual it's using all that to manifest a beautiful world okay thank you ma'am this is beautiful until next time I'm on the runway show from Ranveer and Chopra Shetty goons are Atma namaste


in today's episode of the Randi show we're talking about love sex and loving sex I feel like guys don't get spoken to about these topics enough and I feel that women will enjoy hearing the male perspective on growing up this is my story from the age of 11 when I witnessed my body changing in certain ways up till the age of 27 how has my perspective on love and sex changed over the years gonna be a very very candid conversation through the medium of my life okay we begin at age 11 when you're in a coed school and suddenly the girls in your class who were just your colleagues til that point suddenly they become objects of Attraction look at girls and you're like why am i finding this girl pretty you don't know why then at the same time it's about 2005-2006 YouTube is popping up in the world you know what else is popping up websites that stream pornography websites that attract you you suddenly discover pond you suddenly discover your own


you suddenly discover pond you suddenly discover your own body your own feelings physical feelings emotional feelings you don't know what's happening to you as a young guy and suddenly along with all your male friends you begin to put sex on a pedestal you understand that there's this thing called sex you talk about sex a lot in your bus rides in your lunch breaks when you're alone with your friends in the middle of class sex becomes the center of your life and I'll tell you why it happens because of the first primary character of the story not me the first primary character is what I call the dopamine void the second primary character is what I call the love void but we'll get to that later let's talk about the dopamine void first as a human being you're constantly looking for moments that'll make you happy moments that will give you a rush throughout your life later in life you gotta rush through other aspects of your existence but early on in life you're not gonna get


but early on in life you're not gonna get a dopamine rush through your marks some people probably do but most of us don't how do you get that dopamine rush dopamine is the feel-good hormone of your is associated with feel good experiences pleasures drug addicts get their dopamine every time they do drugs you don't do drugs as an 11 year old sex kind of becomes that drug for you the idea of sex this goes on from the age of eleven till the age of about eighteen when senior college begins and in India especially in Indian metros a lot of us begin serious relationships in senior college or when you're a young adult you know what happens at that point you actually end up having sex and you also end up having a lot of other experiences so when you compile all those experiences together sex along with all the other things that are going on in your life you realize oh that's it sex was just this much this was all that sex was cool felt nice


much this was all that sex was cool felt nice but there's also all these other things that are going on in your life I'd found a beautiful relationship at that point when I was in college we had a deep emotional connect we were friends we shared many growing up experiences together we spoke about careers with each other we spoke about deep intellectual topics we discovered partying together we discovered a lot of life experiences together and yes we also discovered sex together suddenly sex isn't on the kind of pedestal that it was when you were kid you tell your guy friends hey man can't wait to grow up and experience sex I won't know what feels like then you feel let me realize hmm okay it's just one of many other things you know what else happens when you end up entering senior college just suddenly told especially if you're in Indian society then you've got to do something with your career you're told that you need to amount to something and there's that added


you need to amount to something and there's that added pressure in your life it's kind of there from the eleventh and twelfth grade to get a good senior college but in senior college your career pressure really kind of compiles in front of you and you realize oh my god man I'm going from being a child to becoming an adult didn't know that this is coming my way if you're fortunate enough to have a great relationship at that point in your life you tend to lean on that person you're going through that growing of phase together you start valuing the concept of romantic relationships a lot if you're lucky enough to find a great partner in your early twenties in your late teens coming back to the concept of sex early romance is definitely change your perspectives on sex as a 27 year old when I look back at a college relationship I don't think of the first time we had sex I think of the times I cried to her after failing in my exams I think of the times


failing in my exams I think of the times after graduating from college when I tried an internship in an engineering factory and I was told that you want upon worship is not easy in this country and you're gonna have to struggle a lot I went to home I went and cried in front of her that's the memory I take back from the relationship that I had that Wilson to take care of me I had that real human connect sex was just one part of it now that's exactly why I tied up with OkCupid for this particular podcast we've partnered up because the one big realization of my life has been that when you scan your entire life some of your key dopamine releases don't come from sex man they come from real meaningful relationships in a culture with dating apps promote casual encounters and getting to know each other and being casual about the whole swipe left swipe right culture OkCupid is all about compatibility and long-term partnership more in the app later let's get


long-term partnership more in the app later let's get back to the story what happened at age 22 things change further you're kind of breaking out of that eggshell called college life and you're breaking into the real world suddenly you're not just with people your age you're meeting people or 10 years older than you 20 years older than you you're meeting possible mentors you're meeting people you're trying to hustle the same way you are you suddenly meet people from your industry as well you know what happened to me at that stage somehow I was fortunate enough to find the perfect career for myself all my personal strengths what kind of aligning themselves and going into the process of creating a YouTube based business was created marketing has greater communication skills back in the day I was great at fitness so I thought okay let's other Fitness YouTube channel I'll grow it out as business over the years that's exactly what I did but at age 22 I was fortunate enough to fill up my dopamine void I knew


to fill up my dopamine void I knew that what I'd found matches my strengths exactly so I'd wake up every single day with the intention of creating something of going that one further step in my own career and every single night at sleep with satisfaction that's called filling of the dopamine void I was also single at this point but that didn't matter because I was kind of hell-bent on just killing it with my own career my dopamine void was getting filled every single night so there's two perspectives right there's your own dopamine void that you're filling through your career and then there's a lot of other people you meet there's a lot of other people who've also found their trips in life there's a lot of other people who haven't found the exact trip in life the strengths don't align according to the career they've chosen for themselves for example I met a lot of entrepreneurs who didn't really enjoy the process of entrepreneurship they weren't built to do business I met


they weren't built to do business I met some youtubers who had just taken up YouTube in order to further the business but they didn't really enjoy doing videos for a living they didn't enjoy the YouTube game he hadn't completely filled up the dopamine void every time I'd sleep at night after great shoot day I think to myself yes this feels so good that video I wrote yesterday was recorded beautifully today oh my god best sleep of my life they were probably not going through that same emotion the emotion in their head was Oh had two records free videos today okay I'll have to do this for maybe two three years under my business becomes stable they weren't enjoying their work that dopamine void was not getting filled and also notice and this is just my observation there are a lot of them the same guys with that unfilled dopamine void they talk a lot about sex they talk about sex the same way I spoke about sex to my guy friends when I was 11 years old


to my guy friends when I was 11 years old you know you bring up a girl in conversation and it automatically objectify that girl they'd be like yeah she's so hot man I think you know she'd be great in bed you talk about sex in general and they kind of get like over hype that's what I observed and I always saw that the same guys would get really really hyped about sex in their early 20s maybe even in their mid-20s the same dudes who hadn't completely filled up that dopamine void through their work I genuinely believe that human beings are born for a certain purpose your purpose can't be filling up that dopamine void just through physical pleasures that dopamine void is only filled through your real purpose what's the purpose with which you wake up every day every time you pick that box at night your dopamine void will be filled a career that you enjoy fills up that void completely now keep in mind I'm not looking down on people who chase


mind I'm not looking down on people who chase casual sex in a certain phase of their life I understand some people want to chase those experiences and that's perfectly fine I'm also gonna drop a big truth bomb I've had one casual encounter why because when YouTube started picking up Fame also started picking up alright and I thought to myself you know what I'm gonna be young once let me go have some fun I didn't really enjoy it mainly because I had experienced sex with someone who had loved and I was now trying a casual situation with a person who I didn't really love was probably physically attracted to that person but that's about it there's nothing wrong with her there was just that absence of love and honestly sex without love feels Mb you this a lot but you don't really understand it until you've experienced sex without love I hear some my friends now have been in long-term relationships they say things like yeah I've only had sex with one person so sometimes


yeah I've only had sex with one person so sometimes I wonder what it's like having sex with other people I'll tell you I personally feel that sex with that one person who you love a lot that's the best kind of sex in the world and that's something that needs to be voiced or not more especially in India don't put sex on a pedestal should put relationships meaningful relationships that bring something out and you that's what you should be putting on a pedestal I'll tell you why so here's where that second character of the story comes into play one key character was a dopamine void another key character in the story is a love void this is also something that's not spoken about as much as it should be spoken about after the age of 22 the love white starts increasing for people you found your curio you found that way to make money through something you love and your dopamine void is completely filled up I don't know whether this is biological or whether it's an outcome of the culture we


or whether it's an outcome of the culture we live in but I've noticed that the love void increases for a lot of people after the age of 22 people are looking for relationships men specifically I've noticed that men especially in urban metros a lot of them have found that career trips in life many of them haven't found their ways to fill that love void there's a lot of pressure on all of us in India if you're a young Indian there is going to be Korea pressure on you you might be able to sort out your career but you know where's that one person at the end of the day where's that one person you can call when you're completely free my co-founders Rogers in Viraj also my two closest guy friends in life but there's certain things I can't tell them which I do end up telling the romantic interest of my life at that point that person you can fall back on why you growing so much in your career who you growing for now usually with these podcasts I


you growing for now usually with these podcasts I always try giving you a CPA or call to action I don't have an exact call to action with this video but what I do want to address is the importance of acknowledging that it's completely normal to have this love void if you're someone who really feels like you want a relationship hey just know that there's a lot of us out there a lot of us around the same age we're going through the same things all of us are looking for some kind of partnership especially in your mid-20s and your late 20s and probably even after that it's very normal to crave a relationship so the only CTA that I will give you in this case is one ideally ensure that your dopamine void is completely filled up try finding happiness in your work and trust me there's enough job options out there to find that job that you really enjoy and completely fill up that dopamine void because I feel you shouldn't get into relationships until you are


feel you shouldn't get into relationships until you are completely fulfilled as a person and to make peace with this idea of a love void it's very normal there's ways to tackle it this way is to fill it up you definitely need a relationship in your life a loving partner in your life to make everything complete if you're someone who thinks that relationships or the correct kind of partner will take away from your career it's a very old school mentality you're only gonna be young ones and if you find a correct kind of partner it feeds into your career it will give you more creativity it will give you more perspective the most beautiful aspect of all my relationships till did my dopamine void was filled up my love void was filled up I always grew in the relationships even if it was the wrong kind of person you grow you understand what you don't want from someone you understand yourself much more if you truly truly love that person you will try matching up to the class the level the requirements of


matching up to the class the level the requirements of that human being you'll get out your comfort zone and grow in some way or the other the best relationships always provide growth to you as an individual so even if you're looking at relationships from that selfish perspective it's okay remember when you're dying you won't remember sex you won't remember how much money is in your bank account you're gonna remember that person who you built those memories with that person whose hair you held back when they were throwing up who held back your hair and you were throwing up that person who you cried to the person who cried to you getting comforted by that person comforting that person with all your strength and Mike that's what you'll take away and that's why I think it's a beautiful idea to change the relationships when you're young CTA how do you do it I strongly believe you should work on developing interests and hobbies that's a very easy way to connect with other people it expands certain avenues in your own


other people it expands certain avenues in your own mind it makes you a more interesting person but the other thing I'll really suggest is that make use of the Internet I've had relationships where I found someone off dating apps and that's why I've partnered up with OkCupid remember many many relationships and marriages that we're gonna see over the next 10 years are going to arise out of good dating apps in an age when most dating apps are very surface level it's about being compatible based on looks OkCupid focuses on overall compatibility where they help you find the people who could be ideal for you they ask you foundational questions about political views about your choices and food about your worldview and help you find those other people who'd probably match well with you remember I genuinely feel that we're heading into a world but people find their life partners from the internet from dating apps like OkCupid OkCupid is the dating app I recommend to you keep in mind there's a lot of women out there who want serious stable


a lot of women out there who want serious stable relationships I promise you there's a lot of guys out there who want serious stable relation as well people just don't know where to start they think dating apps all about hookups and they never consider the fact that you know what there might be a dating app that's about the next step in someone's life next long-term relationship the correct kind of partner the correct long-term relationship is what you'll take with you to your grave the person that you make all your memories with the person who you picture when you hear slow romantic songs that person's out there that person's coming when you take one step in the direction of what you want the universe will take ten steps in the direction of you in order to give you what you want take that first step go on an app like OkCupid and find that person you love love is the most beautiful thing in the world dopamine void will get filled by your career a love void will get filled by that right person who is definitely


will get filled by that right person who is definitely coming your way I hope you enjoyed today's episode of the runway show little heavy little from my heart and super honest thank you guys


how difficult is it being a romantic chocolate work hmm and having a 14 year long relation you know when when I'm sitting with a girl I'm romancing the girl generally in the video and I would just you know hold a face like that and just romance hello that I've never done that with my girlfriend everything in life is achievable luckily web open up at a point of time in my life I feel through hard work and dedication and taking it slow you can get it [Music] I use Mara hello what's happening nothing I'm just pretty excited to be over here because I've seen you virtually so much your life me he's pretty big in ona so she'll might be deceiving but if you hug him we'll be like woah if you if you hang out with I wish Mara you'll have an army of girls chasing Neil who's recording this video he told me that by McCulloch Gaja boyish when I enter over to lurk UV light a parking either a what is


lurk UV light a parking either a what is this life you're living bro they're living like a dream life for so many guys that commuted since 14 years so it's I'm really grateful and humbled by the love I get like it's really it's it's really great to get that kind of an attendant and that kind of attention from boys from girls but also you have to like I I don't take anything very seriously in my life and I think nothing is gonna stay so it's just came yeah okay I'm getting it now maybe I won't have it tomorrow so it's that kind of an approach so that keeps me a little K yeah okay right now I'm I'm liking it I'm enjoying it but yeah it's it's gonna be till a time and then it's not going to be there or but coming back to the girls teasing you why do you why do you think this happening specifically to you because there's so many digital actors out there so many actors in general in


digital actors out there so many actors in general in India via girls running towards you it's the axe effect I think it's the kind of videos I do online it's more to do with that I've done a lot of romantic stuff and cute videos with filter poppy and with other channels so you know probably that because of that they think a are yes leave maybe I see yoga sweet but yeah so I've never I've know you know this is a very funny thing where you know when when I'm sitting with a girl I'm romancing the girl generally in the video and I would just you know who love face like that and just romance Allah that I've known that with my girlfriend like I have never done there's a ballet cynical tourism I'll be a wreck there as a career I've never done that with her and she always wonders how are you so romantic on screen and off screen your nor love that I don't know man I just have to do it over there that you know


just have to do it over there that you know like with you it's just so it's it's it's like that I have a lot of questions about your 40 in your long relationship but just for the listeners and viewers I want to mention one thing that I really like sweet guy yes okay and that's that's I'm sure that's why the girls are following you do but you also kind of are really sweet toward all the guys you may do really respectful as a guy so I think if anyone wants to learn how to charm other human beings that's the core aspect of it I really believe honestly I genuinely believe in being kind that's that's the prime moto of my life that there is no reason why you have to be an to anyone just be kind to one another and you will just see everyone being kind to you as well so it's like a reciprocity thing so I think that's the only reason why it works for me because there's no I don't believe in giving


because there's no I don't believe in giving anybody a tough time no no that's a very Punjabi thing to say yeah from Amritsar yeah the vasa from Amritsar Amritsar ebro's so I was at this party recently basically sit in a circle and each person references their own community okay it's like when someone from Maharashtra someone from Punjab someone from Bengal and each person says one good and bad thing hmm and I definitely like all communities even Punjabis have their own flaws like I feel we show off a lot of course dude like it haven't you - like deli malls like when you go to Delhi moans oh my god I felt so cool there everyone was dressed up in the in the most branded things I've ever seen in your life from cap - they said not all of them but some of them and I really looked at them and I felt that this guy must be really rich you know when you see somebody in like a Amira blue that


you see somebody in like a Amira blue that says that there's a lot of people in our state who if they buy five rupees of butter they'll put three rupees on the beer and eat only two rupees Punjabis are sure and that's nothing flashy yeah I made cars so flashy and my dad was like yeah when you do well in life by a pajero I was like that's the last thing I'll do is buy a pajero but the good aspect of it and this to me is really good aspects of Punjabis one is I feel we brought up being taught what real love is in my taught to value love like more than money more than anything so that you know if your siblings I won't double your family's I want double take care of them take care of them irrespective a care of anyone yeah and and the second thing is this be kind of again what you said that just spread respect spread goodness yeah this is also why I feel a Punjabi boys get all the


why I feel a Punjabi boys get all the attention I wanna I want to talk to you about how difficult is it being a romantic chocolate boy hmm and having a 40 in your long relation see I'll tell you there are two a very important thing is whatever I'm doing on screen is a portrayal of what romance is it doesn't generally have to apply in your real life and in my real life I'm pretty different to what I am on screen because it's written in a certain way and have to do that and will do justice to that but in my real life I'm honestly not as romantic as its it's shown in the in the shows and the sketches I do but I really make an effort because when you're dating somebody for 14 years you really have to make sure things have to still be at a level where you're attracted to each other you're you're happy with each other you're growing together there's so many things which a fourteen-year-old relationship requires then I feel


things which a fourteen-year-old relationship requires then I feel a new relationship because you can probably when you're starting off with a new person there are so many things to do so many things to talk about so many experiences but when you over the person for so long the most important thing is honesty the most important thing is just one reason for being with that person like they can be a hundred problems with that human being but you just have to find that one reason why you wanna stick with this person what's your one reason my one reason is my girlfriend is the strongest woman I know and she's the most accepting woman I know in my life so I really love her for that and also I feel respect is very important if I respect her and she respects me for who I am for what I am for what I'm doing then 90 percent of the reasons do not matter you know like if there is mutual respect for the other person you know why relationships or why friendships start going for the tosses


relationships or why friendships start going for the tosses because the respect angle in them starts going down or people start taking you for granted if those things start happening with relationships I feel that's the time when it goes downhill how did you overcome your rough patches through a lot of meditation the relationship rough patches oh yeah I'll tell you why because since you're dating for so long you're immature in the beginning so is your partner and then you're growing to be an individual which the other person is seen and probably you're growing and the other person is not and at a time there might be that she's growing and you're not so it's about being at the same plane or waiting for that human being to come to that path and then growing together grow but by growth you mean carryover oh no Osen growth like spirit like spiritual growth like personal growth now a very shallow example of sharing supposingly I am I am I have a sibling I was told to share all my life everything


I was told to share all my life everything in sibling life is shared only bro in Punjabi in Punjabi luckily I had a sister to play Orioles with it me Toby whatever I get covered up in the Rose so ash now is a single child the concept of sharing is a little alien to single people of course it's there but so when you're dating your first instinct is Kay mine mine yours yours and I was that what is it mine yours you know what I'm gonna say this is a very small example so it's been 14 years now she doesn't give a about sharing and this in there what is your what is mine this is but it takes that long for a person to change now she doesn't care about what's mine what yours it's just as you know that idea of growth happens like this so you gotta give it time you gotta wait if that person is not understanding what being grateful for your life is at one point she will understand I will understand so


one point she will understand I will understand so you have to wait for that person to reach there and grow and that's when you grow together so you're saying like oh your perspectives grow exactly you've grown up thinking a certain thing but then you realize okay this person thinks on a different way and then you try matching that thought it would make sense it yeah if it makes sense to you so now there are so many things where she might branch out into a different human being and I can only give a perspective k bro you know he has a bow hey a saver I am thinking this way maybe I might change my decision go here oh she might change a decision come here but it's about that's what I'm saying it's about being honest in each other brutal honesty to the point that you're forced to think if why is he thinking like this what is the reason like he's not a stupid person so so in that way you match each other so that's very important for any


you match each other so that's very important for any relationship what's the best and worst aspect of a 14-year old relationship best aspect is you're so comfortable she's a part of my universe so you know there's not even a thought like for me it's my mom dad my sister and my girlfriend it's one unit so I have never thought of all escaped grea Alighieri nine in a row she's so that is that comfort is she knows all my friends she knows when I started acting she knows what my dreams she knows everything so insecurities also she knows my insecurities inside out she knows my worst moments in life she's helped me through them so there's just here on the same tangent worst aspect about fourteen-year-old relationship is there are things which you don't have much to do like you've pretty much experienced a lot of things together so making new experiences is something which is a little tough to do but you got to still try and strive for those because that's


to still try and strive for those because that's the only way it will go forward you know what I say and you're not married but you can have a kid exactly exactly exactly and so you just have to find new ways or just be comfortable in what you are also like there have been so many times where people have sat in a car and I like it now you wash now less so I remember like we were in Bandra and a friend of ours was sitting behind and we reached Lokhandwala and I started and talked and we were listening to songs and I feel it's very important to respect silence in a relationship if I'm comfortable with you sitting silent that's pulp fiction a comfortable silences yeah yeah if I'm comfortable with you sitting in silence that I really enjoy your company I don't have to keep yapping all this while to just get a reaction out of you or like I really liked people who are quiet and if you're sharing something with me quietly okay if


if you're sharing something with me quietly okay if you're not okay but you gotta respect the spaces like probably she was thinking about something I was thinking about something the other person was just thinking what I stood not dog it and yeah so being silent with your partner and enjoying that is also a blessing what I like three things you know that are the most beautiful things do she is very beautiful like I'm I feel lucky that I've actually got her she's very patient as a human being with me and the third thing is she's really strong mentally like she's really strong nothing can break her have you ever cried in front of you know a lot of people just generally assume that guys aren't romantic and guys don't want love as much as girls do trust me there's a lot of guys out there who can die for a stable relationship there's a lot of guys out there who won't they Mary Jane Watson for the spider-man I have cried that's okay like in the beginning I used


cried that's okay like in the beginning I used to feel like no account no you know I'm strong absolutely no strength in not showing vulnerability I feel the more vulnerable you are the most stronger you gain yes so bro I also know you now kind of as a brother and you're a really ambitious guy like I know that whatever work you're doing right now you're kind of building towards something making you creating a big legacy yeah how much of a career support system do you get from her that's the first question and second question is also expand on your ambition so of course in terms of our dreams I have certain dreams like I've always been an ambitious kid I always want a Mercedes I always want a good flashy house and a potato Pajero my dad so I really want these things in my life but like step by step I always believe in breaking down your goals I remember at a point I was doing I was assisting in films then I did theta then I did a


in films then I did theta then I did a lot of ads then I wanted to take the jump to films but luckily web open up at that point of time in my life and touchwood it's been great that I've been getting good web shows I'm really happy and grateful for that and now the next step is obviously gonna be digital films or films is what I want to go add like that's obviously your main goal in life do you see yourself being a mainstream stuff of course if you can visualize it I can I do believe it I do believe it like some like I've always believed it like since I started acting I always wanted to be like there so step by step slowly it'll take time but I'll get there because it's it's also a little difficult if you're not from this field if you don't know anyone and my parents are all in it my friends are some of them now I've made them like I didn't have anyone in the start so obviously it's


have anyone in the start so obviously it's gonna take a little time to build your base but then I feel through hard work and dedication and taking it slow you can get it yeah hundred percent dude yeah I think what people don't understand about the world of acting is that it is high pressure especially for the people who are the leads and shows your needs and movies so very high pressure and very no so what is one thing that like the average viewer the average fan may not understand about your world like what's that one difficult aspect oh there's a lot of Rijo still and a lot of practice which goes into it and rejection oh to another level and you get rejected to your face there's no CV like even if you've studied from the best institutions of the planet but if you are not good at the audition he'll say you are not good so you are rejected on your face it's not gonna be the case see we go they come minimal a poor dish in my chair over the


come minimal a poor dish in my chair over the upcoming Liga yeah grab Caloocan invited over a Genaro no one looked mean era or I said that we looked a cat Caribbean merely looks me and then you start that journey of negative downhill slope K oh maybe many knock but here maybe many cheeks buddy maybe manthramo town or fair childhood a self degradation do a point where you're not happy with yourself so I request everyone who was going through rejection to not think of these things because you might not be fitting in that aspect at that point of time but there are 10,000 other aspects you might fit in or you just have to fit in one aspect so just relax and rejection is not anybody's fault it's just probably you didn't fit the bill it's nothing personal so yeah dude like what's been like your worst day of your career let you know it was like the most like what the day probably when there have been times where yawn so many boys days


there have been times where yawn so many boys days I remember one of those first initial auditions when I'd come home and the casting director really humiliated me like what is it he said acting miedo I think about Uniqlo acid and now for it was my first audition and I was there forty people nobody was there to guide me Aram Nagar I reminisce regio Palomino Delta to make her Jackie ruia or mummy go what am I gonna get man you better audition they did that's audition k bother get the container Nana so Jordan abut merrily this audition did they just get over this fear so then I was like okay and the tenth edition I cracked my first ad so I all love my acting career fully to my mom because if she wasn't there at that point of time to help me as an annuity bush also there were times where I remember was replaced from an ID because and you would replace home a very big show as well I wasn't put in


very big show as well I wasn't put in place for a very big show as well that happened like a decently but but you know these things you can't take it to your heart like you know it's the business if they probably don't believe that you can do it okay then I feel there's a lot of a lot of heart if you leave with grace anything it's okay maybe do not work or not work there's no point of being bitter and sad world what what are you gonna get anyways you know what the job up Cooper okay kya he fire them I'll give it a giggle couch couch or Malika no and it's not that only one person is making a project there are thousands of people many fish in the sea Amelia Abimelech a mini madman in exile 1 million right now in life what's your state of mind with operation MBBS coming out it's a big show and it's a show we're not just romantic yeah so what's your what's your state of


romantic yeah so what's your what's your state of mind my state of mind was to do something different and broaden my horizon as an actor and like you asked me what career graph do I want to follow I really want to be a fab actor you don't known for a fab actor and stuff for that respected as an actor and not from anyone else but also from myself that K bro like I never thought I would be able to do you P accent and it was really difficult to think and once you see the finished product and you're like okay you've done a decent job I'm not saying that oh man your money I know in life but you've done a decent job like anyone who just sees that show will not be like hey this guy's not from there so when like I remember you P guy coming up to me and said bro I'm from you P and there is no chance in hell that I think that you're not from you P and that that that that complement


not from you P and that that that that complement means more to me than anything else in the world that you so things like these are what you want to work on and and getting to learn new things yeah in like item if I go to you P now I speak in that accent and that's so cool that I know one axe a now tomorrow if I go to some new place there I'll learn something else and it's just about learning and growing more as a this thing so I this is the space I'm in right now where I want to learn like new things and experiment a little also stick to my guns like a romantic show so I'm a little about that also okay what I'm decent that I'm doing that and what I'm not I'm trying to be decent at that so just probably doing a believable job in whatever I'm doing this podcast is coming to an end I want to end by like just saying one thing man I speak to a lot of people from my industry I mean


to a lot of people from my industry I mean a lot of actors as well I've met very few guys who live life with the kind of discipline that you do dude oh man yeah so we're like getting up at 5:30 in the morning and all that so kudos to that dude like where I see so many people partying on like Friday oh sorry night you're thinking about your next yeah like gig in life it's it's it's to do with a lot of people who have guided me in my life especially my parents like they've really helped me then my girlfriend there are some people like a friend of mine called adit they're like these are some very very important people in my life who probably shaped the way I am my sister so yeah so it's thanks to them and luckily you know these these people always come in my life or at a point and they teach me something what I need to hear yeah you know like when you're having like a day and you just call one of


having like a day and you just call one of them and they just say that I think then you know like hmm can you can you like just give all these learnings within 5 points like a 5 point success formula ah first is to never give up whatever you're doing I feel you should never give up in life everything in life is achievable everything in life is achievable then I really believe in breaking down your goals you don't have to reach point A to point Z in one shot it has to be gradual and if it's gradual it's better because you've had more experience you've met more people you're probably getting better at what you do so that then I think there is no substitute for discipline like you have to be disciplined in order to achieve something in life because everything fades away and the only thing which can get you back on track is discipline even on your bad days good days I don't give a do what is needed to do like you have to still do it put in the


like you have to still do it put in the work put in the work there's no substitute on that then being kind I really believe it I really believe been kind karma and it pays off in your career it does it does mean kind to people to friends to your family start start small bro like I'm not saying like start big and I feel being ambitious somewhere like not everybody has to be ambitious in life but like have something to work towards like I don't believe in you're meant to do something for a purpose and stuff like that like I feel purposelessness also has a purpose but just have a goal even if it's small it's big be a little ambitious about something or the other even it's about being a better human being I'm saying as basic as that like just look forward to something there is something to always look forward to yeah cool I mara brother thank you for thank you so much man thank you so much I hope you enjoyed it I really enjoyed it


hope you enjoyed it I really enjoyed it what is it tell me something what you order this thing also yeah you tell me about your journey as a youtuber like how's it going and it's going good I just feel a very locked in on life right now why I said look good not in like a bad way at all just I'm working on two three huge projects and I feel and if he says something that's taken me far and I was always challenging myself to get to that have you challenged yourself in like a lot this this time I've like really taken on a lot taking a big risk in Korea but also going in with positivity and discipline for sure yeah it'll happen like yeah I'm sure you're you're meant for big things only other I I am very very conscious of who we bring onto the podcast like all the time I'm like I question if you've decided okay we'll bring on one person I question it like 20 times with you but I saw your Instagram


like 20 times with you but I saw your Instagram I saw you your interviews it was it because again I have too much respect for people who respect their own work so I saw that dude and that's also why I feel that that dream you have of films and all I think it's very achievable for you but the kind of ethic you have just keep going good luck and everything yes see you guys I'm gonna link all of our users handles down below make sure you go subscribe and follow we'll see you later see you you


Hilary the gentleman will climb Mount Everest he undertook a journey from the Congo three from the start of Ganga right up to Calcutta in a speedboat in a large speed mode so when it reached Banaras they told me the story I didn't witness this there was one of these auguries who said this is nothing I mean these boats have no power they said what do you mean said I can stop it with my erection okay so he sought sat on the bank and the boat was in the water and they tied a rope to the boat and they tied it to his erection imagine that he's holding the direction for that long Wow and they started the boat and he held it for at least three four minutes I got the boat was trying to go and he is holding it back [Music] it's gonna be a slightly dark very low nerd very wise episode of the runway show with the positional Yuda of my life and many ways mr. Kiran call up a mentor nice


many ways mr. Kiran call up a mentor nice meeting you again yes as always sir you're a huge mentor to me I'm kind of bored about talking about careers on decided we need to change things up and just stimulate our minds if you're a skeptic switch this podcast off go watch other episodes listen to the other episodes because this time we're talking one of the most well-read humans that I've come across in my life Kenan collapses a legend of the world of branding and advertising in India but we're not going to talk about all that we will be talking about the darker experiences of your life we will be talking about the darker books that you've read you also spent a lot of time in Banaras very young yes so I am dead sure you have some crazy stories from back then as well so in this podcast we're gonna aim to stimulate our audiences mind thank you for being on the runway show firstly thank you for getting me here again my first


firstly thank you for getting me here again my first question to you is about Agora like how people call it auguries the our body culture so for a complete rookie for a complete noob could Watauga rise right so I think one of the things we should begin by saying to ourselves is that if you're born in India you have an enormous opportunity because as a civilization we are very old as a nation we are very young right but as a civilization we are very old and therefore you have millions of ways of experiencing realities beyond the normal millions of is so the normal way we know is yoga and yoga they say that it is Ashtanga which means it has eight limbs youngnam sadhana somebody all of those are limbs of yoga so not only do you have to do do you have to practice yoga some we is a physical part of it here to practice control and all of the whole lifestyle has to be about it so it is that a stronger part which


about it so it is that a stronger part which means it has eight eight things that must be in place so that is called the right hand of God the left hand of God is called Agora Agora is like the short sharp quick way and you guys this long-winded way but you guys safer this if it goes wrong if Agora goes wrong you could end up then or you could end up as a mad person and I read a lot about Agora from in English there will be millions of books in Indian Sanskrit and all of that which I haven't read but the books that have made our accessible in English is a gentleman called Robert swaboda so his return Agora won over Auto Agora 3 which has mind-blowing stories so he came to India and studied Ayurveda and from there he got attracted or always perhaps he always were attracted in to our and he found a group called opml ananda and then you have all these stories about time travel travelling in to


all these stories about time travel travelling in to other people's bodies and all of the mystical powers that auguries can have so I want to rewind a little bit you said right hand of God left hand of God and these are paths yes at the end of the path whenever the path is liberation and both get you to that same end absolutely that this is just two paths there could be many more okay so for instance there is a there is a path month or a sect called not month okay and guru and the top of it is the tomorrow and you have much internal gerak not all of that these are all practitioners of Kundalini Yoga okay so Kundalini Yoga in the belief is that there is a serpent coiled thrice at the base of your spine like a pool of energy it's an so it's the female energy then when you practice you Kundalini Yoga she Rises through the six chakras that you have and when it merges in the top chakra which


and when it merges in the top chakra which is where the male and female meet then you have enlightenment or liberation gorot so anyone who's got an item and is actually risen their Kundalini inside that is if you in you believe in that notion of that path okay so I lived with J Krishnamurti for four years who walked with him had lunch with him and he won't mention any of this right because his entire thing was if you are aware if you are fully aware you are maddeningly aware you will be free of the entire habit of thinking and conditioning and all of that so it which is one Singh the most interesting part of our civilization is that you could be encountering hundreds of paths all tried tested worked upon experimented with so paths to liberation thoughts to leverage and what happens at liberation at liberation so one idea of liberation is to do with rebirth okay that you are no longer reborn this eternal cycle of being reborn


longer reborn this eternal cycle of being reborn etcetera etcetera and suffering and suffering the other idea is of if you do not believe in rebirth or anything like that that you are free of everything that causes suffering to mankind you're free of anger you're free of fear you're free of any negative emotions and you become what is called as a state upon you okay the person who has total equanimity Hostetter brother means he who's pregnant the mind is completely steady irrespective what happens outside God and do you also get what they call said these or super powers yes there are meant to be it's in these okay you can become very heavy very light therefore can walk you can fly there are it's famous in this so I think Hanuman had it's these so for those who do know said these are basically there's no real translation for it in English but it means that when you're on the path of yoga or very yeah evolution these are like kind of


or very yeah evolution these are like kind of like kind of powers powers that you can actually get if you know very serious about your your path yes so very if you really look at the person who is realized all of them are going to say and don't pursue that yeah because that will actually shorten your path because only get you'll get hypnotized by having that signe oh you get drunk in the power you drunk in that power and therefore you're lost the rest of the path guard so again if you want to learn how to actually begin your meditation session again don't listen to this podcast because it's gonna be it's not an instruction for because we've covered those topics with doctor other question Pillai this is about the stories that you've heard I want to come back to talking about our Horus so my knowledge about auguries is that I've seen it on Ripley's Believe It or Not on AXN where they basically consumed half burned human flesh so you'll find a whole community


burned human flesh so you'll find a whole community of our bodies in Banaras and one of the rituals is where they have to eat human meat so do you are you familiar with this whole thing it's just one rituals so there are many ok so the I what is the idea there the idea there is you will go beyond your notion of what is good or what is bad by doing things which are completely outside human society you are also meant to have sex with young girl who died and who's been buried like necrophilia necrophilia no yes so these are things meant to push you beyond the idea of good bad ugly not ugly this is right this is wrong that's the whole which is why it's called the short path which it just throws you into the deep end of these experiences and then you come out the other side completely rid of all these normal notions of good bad ugly beautiful all of that what is your opinion on the concept of ghosts or


is your opinion on the concept of ghosts or from everything that you've read there is a simple classification in our philosophy there is a classification called they have a gunman who shot gun and Raksha Stern okay so if you belong to Russia's gun you are you have a greater tendency to experience the occult hold on so gun is like a personality trait I'm guessing yes okay your genetic disposition genetic disposition the person who is born with the gun is unlikely to ever encounter any occult experiences okay and the person with Manisha gun is likely to have both a little bit of beautiful but coming back to host so I think because I mean Banaras Banaras is you know it is decent of all these things why do you say the centre occult there is also let's see some amount of it in Bengal some amount of it in a cell but the agora mut the epicenter is in mannerism is agora also the same thing as college ah do you can mistake it for that okay


college ah do you can mistake it for that okay because colleges would be practiced by somebody who has got those powers through some method but agora in its purest form is not about doing tricks or how many human beings it is not about harming human beings or earning money by doing miracles it is actually a genuine paths to enlightenment so our bodies have no intention of like haunting you know dreams or and making money no but what about everything this movie called punk by Ram Gopal Varma now centered around Blackmagic color black are you familiar with antral and all this like that yeah what is the non trick oh so there are three words like tantrum entre entre okay Yantra is a tool okay Tantra is the technique and mantra is the utterance that you have so if you have learnt those tantras the tools then you become a tantric so in Banaras for instance I was there in 79 so I think 77 or 78 Hilary the gentleman who climb Mount


or 78 Hilary the gentleman who climb Mount Everest he undertook a journey from the Ganga three from the start of Ganga right up to Calcutta in a speedboat and a large spin mode so when it reached Banaras they told me the story I didn't witness this there was one of these a giri's who said there's nothing I mean these boats have no power they said what do you mean said I can stop it with my erection okay so he started sat on the bank and the boat was in the water and they tied a rope to the boat and they tied it to his erection imagine that he's holding the direction for that long Wow and they started the boat and he held it for at least three four minutes to go and he's holding it back so because you're so deep into spirituality you also end up meeting a lot of these God men or like gurus so I think Godman is now what am i auditioning in the modern day but there are people who


in the modern day but there are people who very advanced on the yogic path who genuinely deserve the respect who don't do the shady that the general youth expects from Godman so do you have any stories about so beautiful question me I have had the privilege of meeting a gentleman called guru Maharaj okay my father tried to get diksha long distance greece you gurus give you grace by giving grace meaning they facilitate your journey on that path they help you advance yes so on a particular day which is guru Poornima day my father sat facing a particular direction having been having something and he was to get grace from guru maharaj the amazing thing was nothing happened to him but my sister who was just eight or nine she went into totally different zone like what he started she started doing yoga asanas which she had never done her voice change and all of that like voice became heavy yeah Wow so it was to my mom and me it was a bit


was to my mom and me it was a bit scary but then we came to understand what that whole thing was and we went and took her to him in Pune and he explained that obviously she is born with this Kundalini excitation so but she'll have to decide what to do with it because it is a dangerous path okay but he says the pursued spirituality to some extent but to some extent it was natural so she had to consciously curtail it okay and then she met a guru several years later and therefore her path was simpler Kiran Khalsa thank you thank you very much thank you for having me again could you just give some quick book recommendations for people one who want to get deeper into the occult world and the others who want to get deeper maybe into the right-handed clean marriage yoga yes so so Buddha of course agoura wanna go out to over a three yeah and that is for bother the my current favorite on the right hand side in mindfulness is


current favorite on the right hand side in mindfulness is a book called mindfulness in plain English by Montague narodny absolutely beautifully written I mean every page has a quotable quote and the simplest non-technical no jargon language about what is this whole notion of a posh oh cool I have gifted it to God knows how many youngsters beautiful again so thank you for being on thank you until next time probably the next time we will do a conversation on business and branding because this is a 360 degree mind so from Carranza and Ernie's thanks you run away all the West thank you


doctor any top Bollywood producer and ask them about why they cast certain people why they don't cast certain people they'll tell you it's all about the X Factor something beyond just acting ability or looks a guest today is Barker saying one of the top digital actors in the country today but keep in mind she's also one of the top bloggers in the country that's part of her X Factor she's highly prepared highly motivated highly ambitious and highly woke as I call it so in today's episode with Barker saying we spoke about everything from her love life to romance in general to vibes to spirituality and of course all the usual Korea oriented topics that we speak about on this youth-oriented podcast big reason I personally enjoyed this episode is because Berta Singh is one of those few people who's got a 360-degree intellectual mind that's combined with the power of positivity so if you want me to one of the most positive social media influences in the country today who's also one of


influences in the country today who's also one of the hottest young actors in the country today burka Singh is your answer by guessing is the truth and she's on in the Ranbir show [Music] the two things that I personally respect the most in life are hard work and spirituality and you see one of those two things and a lot of people you meet in the 20s in Mumbai but you rarely come across people who have both together and that's by cursing that's a lovely introduction man thank you I think I'm gonna write this down and send it across when anyone scans your Instagram profile hmm or if they come in contact with you in person I feel you can gauge a person much better by sensing the energy like that you know the physical energy absolutely as well as the Instagram feed energy uh-huh and with you in both those cases that's all I see like I see there's a lot of dedication and speed in your life and you know I see a lot


in your life and you know I see a lot of actors and actresses coming to Mumbai uh-huh who are from ameno trying to crack it in this field and they're not able to because they don't have that x-factor and I think if they can learn that x-factor from someone it's you oh wow okay firstly coming from you thank you and secondly those are such like kind words thank you to be honest like every day when I wake up in the morning I wake up with just one thought good Shanaya carnage so even when I try to create content I try not planning it too much in advance or anything it's just very like what I feel at that moment when I wake up that morning is the kind of content that goes up on my Instagram or YouTube do you think of yourself as a content creator or an actress actor okay I'm an actor first always because that's where I began everything that's what I absolutely love doing you know I'll tell you one thing I love about you


know I'll tell you one thing I love about you ah you can tell me like ten things no problem I'll only tell you ten things this is one thing everything else so uh actually the one thing the one thing is that I see everyone and I industry comparing themselves to other people and you're one of those few people who doesn't compare themselves to anyone umeri favorite aha is that the truth no no man I think dogs are my favorite no but let's among people yeah I mean you compare yourself to anyone I mean see not in a larger picture to be honest hmm I got mine I could steer clear I be like array our higher nature so I don't think I'll be comparing that'll just be envious of something in a very competitive a positive competitive spirit not in like you know negative no no you're right like constructive Envy Oh Donna yeah yeah I see other people actually wishing bad for others and I don't see you doing that never never ever ever ever yeah like even if I


never never ever ever ever yeah like even if I get chucked out of a project and I'll still hope that project does well if it's a good project you're a good reader vibes yes you just I function on vibes like I think and that's the foolproof method of you know being comfortable in life yeah making making sure life goes in the right direction hoping your life goes in the right direction because you can never tell so okay let me let me figure this so you're very dedicated about your Instagram like right before the shoot started you had an alarm on your phone that rang it's a 6:30 alarm yeah basically I studied Instagram ticket like you told me that you also like are a businessman and you study everything and you have like you know a lot of research and writing that goes behind everything you do like that even I kind of study everything I do why is if you don't know it you can't do it like being prepared yeah it's like getting into a dark room without having


yeah it's like getting into a dark room without having seen that room before and you can't see anything and you're just like my heart my room you Joe chance by chance make amil chhaya military girl for all you know up yah-ha-ha tomorrow that's happening Kalama have seen you know mm-hmm so it's always better to know what you're getting into and let you know this is your X Factor like this this people don't do whether is acting whether it's in stuff like people don't care about preparation you're doing that do you agree I agree I think you just helped me discover my X Factor I'm not tell you the nine other things I like I like how you read wives easily okay but you know they say that a vibe of a person shows up on the person's face especially when like they smile do you agree that that's unnatural bachata don't like that you can gauge the spiritual level of a person although just general energy of the person when they smile yeah how honest


of the person when they smile yeah how honest the smile is today you said it like if you can spot honesty in someone smile or you can spot like fakeness and you can tell so my question to you is that do you agree that your internal world is really happy and that's what gives you all these bubbly rows in your acting gigs and all that as I said like I really believe I am happy inside because again you need to find happiness from within you can't like base it on an external factor Kyogre makeover Phil Miller I'll be happy oh god make oml yeah I'll be happy you need to be happy and that's what's going to attract good things to you to people who are listening to this and don't even know the meaning of the word vibes can you explain in your own words what is this vibe kallithea vibe booty hair aapke aura job energies you give out so everyone roams around with these energies that are constantly like around you right


these energies that are constantly like around you right so job do look Milty here they have an exchange of energy and that's what the vibe is like the the energy you give out and the energy you are capable of receiving or perceiving is a vibe just such a positive person I want to know the worst moment of your life I mean yeah the worst moment of my life is actually when my pet passed away more than my pet he was my brother and a lot of people make fun of dog owners calling their pets they're our family but like both I have a tattoo in his name is surely is a thing so I think losing him has by far been the worst possible thing in my life ok sorry I do that he lived king-size 13 and a half because he was only back what are you doing he was a lobby retriever okay which we had adopted because he had been chucked out of his previous house because he was that kameena oh wow so they were just like what is


oh wow so they were just like what is this yeah jokingly its kinetic neck why do you think people abandon dogs like how what gets into a human being to be able abandon hello I don't understand what gets into a human being when they do any form of cruelty and this is not like this is such all like everyday phenomenon that phenomenon that like people don't think like Diwali K time pizza is the worst for any animal in the city yo kilo Pagano jothee like I I don't know like to answer your question I don't know what gets into people or what triggers them I think is just that unhappiness and that toxicity within yourself that comes out in ways and it comes out on people and things that can truly fight back you know they say pick someone your own size they're not capable of picking someone their own size and that's why they take it out on animals who can't really say anything they just have to suffer that's what they say about relationships


have to suffer that's what they say about relationships also that in the first two years you'll be in your honeymoon phase it'll be good yeah and then your third fourth you if you have any unresolved if you inside you it comes out as projections on the other person because you know that you know the other person won't leave you there with you now they so you starting you never ground it by projecting on them Marlowe if anything's going wrong in your life suppose your bosses shouted at you you guy that I'm going to your relation you can use out of them for something stupid car it can be avoided so like this place tango yeah so you think people like so insecure boyfriend's are just project you know insecure girlfriends are just projecting their insecurities on the partners your boyfriend's and insecure girlfriends are a result of bad parenting so oh not bad by ending but like you know ignorant parenting like I'd like to hear more about this so if say you have daddy issues


more about this so if say you have daddy issues as a girl growing up and all your life you've not been that close to your dad right you've been close to your mom but have not been close to your dad and like your dad comes home from office but he's like always just like working you know doesn't want to know too much even growing up without Matt so you've always kind of someway wanted some kind of a father figure in your life and when you get that boyfriend who is your love he loves you he does a lot for you some way you start filling up that void that's in you because of your dad and that boyfriend's energy and then once that energy is yours because you've never experienced it in your life it's like the first time you were eating like a chocolate cake in your life right you've never had the taste of chocolate in your mouth but the first time eating a chocolate cake it becomes so nice and then sometimes it doesn't happen but sometimes it might


then sometimes it doesn't happen but sometimes it might become a possessive relationship so they say that possessiveness insecurity all these are some childhood issues or or it could be in the case of you know how there's a lot of Indian guys who weren't comfortable with things that their girlfriends way so see they're going out there'll be no how can you wear this that also comes from some kind of childhood experience where maybe that guy's father has told his mother that of socialization basically growing up yeah whatever you grow up seeing personality and very importantly the way you react to situations the way you behave in a relationship the way you treat the opposite sex right it's usually a lesson you learn from the way you've seen your parents interact because you're not allowed to talk and their internet so you think whatever they are doing is the rule of the world oh absolutely I don't know why I'm giving you some I got about both giving each other things are like how do you accept


giving each other things are like how do you accept and give yawn okay I want to ask you how ambitious are you as a person I've noticed whenever I've tried being ambitious mmm it's not worked out for me hmm whenever I have just you know it's a stereotypical as it sounds but Comcare open kitchen thematic ro Karthi ona you actually like things work in your favor hmm so I wouldn't say I'm very ambitious you was toward some long-term vision no I never said long-term goals so it's always just I'm doing this it's achievable short term goals that come again it need not be a quarterly goal or a monthly goal also one goal can be like in the next week I need to achieve this goal or it can be over for example so before I started doing all this travel content and started traveling a lot and you know as a profession as my work I worked really hard for that so that was my longest term goal of probably had because that was something I'd


term goal of probably had because that was something I'd been wanting to do ever since I was in school you wanted to make money off Travel blogging yes make a living like a sustainable comfortable living of traveling now this need not be travel blogging so when I was in school again when someone asked me what's your dream project as an actor I was like me could travel show co-hosts Werner and not India travel international travel Oliver Slovakia so that was always my goal so like that's what I always worked towards and that's what happened God like it you became that in a form yeah and so what I didn't like what didn't I didn't realize was now when I meet my friends and maybe some people I meet after a long time they are like dude you're finally doing what you wanted I was like was that that vocal about the goal clearly almost everyone I had told you are with a travel car and I are was a travel car now I just want to travel the world I


car now I just want to travel the world I just want to travel the world and without realising I've said it to so many people now that when it's actually happening it's become a reality when I meet people later and they tell me you're to the world easy and it's happened yeah do you feel like you manifested this yes I think what really manifest everything that happens to us we're too small for a universe to give a damn about every single thing individually unless you don't actively put your energy on it yeah put your energies in it exactly that's a better way of putting it but I put your energies in and live like be alive so what is this formula for success what's your own personal formula what have you done right and I know that knowing you you're a very organized person yeah what are those what are those boxes in your head we are like yeah okay I only need to do these these four things these five things and I'll be fine I think promptness what


things and I'll be fine I think promptness what do you mean just don't procrastinate okay execution yeah and being prompt in execution don't think he may you call kururugi my a perso Karuna marry possibie doggone tough Rihanna manga deals one time a car sucks here I'll do it now so that I have time in my schedule for something new to come sake Kalki think of something new comes my should you is not blocked by something that I've procrastinator for you know you know what they say about how to spot a potentially successful kid how you see what's on the kids plate when he's eating food how he yeah give him give him us two three subjects and then give him a cake at the end of it and also give him one very tasty something so but kids who the kids who are going to become successful are the ones we eat the bad taste things of Jesus oh okay that's one box I want to know more what else is in your success formula I think that's


what else is in your success formula I think that's what we've been discussing or like through though like through this while back that we've been chilling not know but one of those trade secrets that you keep only to yourself well secret ceramic you know I'm joking I think it's just very honestly is just like as I said what you have inside that's what you put outside and that's what you manifest like I'm keep executing yeah just a 2 point formula pretty much when it comes down to the basics like if you're actually looking and just like putting it I think that's what is not just for this but for everything that's the formula for staying happy that's the formula for being successful that's the formula for having an X Factor that's for that's the formula of having a good relationship a good marriage or good anything mm-hmm what's your definition of a good relationship they're both people are happy so are you asking me about like a romantic relationship romantic relationship okay from person experience I think a


relationship romantic relationship okay from person experience I think a good relationship is when both sides respect what the other person says I feel if there's no respect now like if one pose feel that that person is better than the other that's an issue hmm but if both respect each other for who they are for who they are for what they do for what they stand for for everything and again you need to vibe with that person on a very very very minutely well as well like explain that I don't know I think it's a little hard to explain but let's park on a tree yeah and like that spark is true it happens and in conversation what do you look for in a relationship in you should be able to talk about anything something as frivolous as the shape of your poop do something as deep as what is this thing that's keeping my feeling like this today mm-hm and like I should just like be able to go over with my partner that he he should know me that well that okay why am I