it words okay so i feel with your work and your professional life instead of viewing it as your professional life view it how you would view a person because all of us believe in karma we know that if you're nice to someone that niceness will return if you're mean to someone that meanness will return but even with your professional life view it as a person and if you're giving it 100 100 results and maybe even more will return yeah in the same way if you view it as oh no i'm not going to be that serious about it i'm not it's it's fine i'll give it my 80 but you internally know you're not giving it your all then your results are also going to be 70 to 80 percent and this is something that a lot of people think they know but they don't really know which is why um i feel that again when you see setbacks when you see failures that shouldn't stop you from giving 100 the next day oh yeah then you you should be like okay next and


yeah then you you should be like okay next and also a part of viewing it as a person isn't isn't just internal it's all these professional battles we have now your whole professional world is one person according to me if you're wishing bad for someone else in that professional world you're saying oh no the hand of that person is bad it's like it's like wishing for a part of that one person to suffer because maybe it's your competition maybe it's someone who wronged you there are very few people like that though because how much energy does it take to have a very revengeful or a personal agenda driven like even the people who comes with an agenda their idea is not to put you down their ideas they need to win yeah yeah and um you know i i feel this there's a little more of that in india um generally this is what i've observed even from twitter and all this india is a little more angsty place and kanaja also keeps highlighting that the whole crab story


also keeps highlighting that the whole crab story that is a reality of just the indian oh but i think it also depends upon how you read it yeah because a lot of those things won't even affect you um i had a meeting where after three hours of like keep on asking me questions about the fun blockchain crypto keep on a guy who the reason he's sitting on that much money is not because he worked a single day in his life is coming from his grandparents of like generational wealth all he has done in his whole life is to go to uk on a paid degree come back and started investing his grandfather's money and he's sitting and grilling me for three hours and after three hours he made a comment and he said um so i think you're going to jail wow so i'm like oh really he's like yeah because i still think that uh crypto is um illegal i said okay no worries i said you know so many people if i do do help me at that time as a


i do do help me at that time as a smile with a smile as a joke thank you so much he left then there was this person who arranged the meeting and she started apologizing profoundly and i'm like why and she's like he asked you a lot of tough questions and this and that i'm like you know what did i learn from this this guy is now thinking how did she do it so those last 30 minutes was not because he's a wrong person and i am a wrong person it is is the inferiority complex coming from a lot of things which i don't even know yeah yeah and that teaches you yeah i feel definitely and i agree with you uh that a lot of if if at all there is any negativity thrown at you it's always from a place of insecurity on that other person's mind you have to just recognize it but i think my point of highlighting that person concept is that you don't throw any negative vibe towards any part of your professional world and


vibe towards any part of your professional world and it takes time for people to understand this because often what happens is if you are mocked if you are slapped by something in your professional just turn away and do your own thing rather than trying to go back at it because it will come back in like 10 different ways i always tell founders who gets into legal backgrounds with for one or the other reason it's inevitable in the startup community if you truly when you are alone in a room i always say wake up in the morning be alone in your room and tell to yourself that this legal battle is something you deserve whatever you're fighting for you honestly deserve it if that's what you still if that's what comes from inside when you're alone it's a right battle go for it because you cannot lie to yourself you know it yeah you always know it there's so much energy that goes into those things like why why rather put energy into building turn away from it yeah but sometimes you have


building turn away from it yeah but sometimes you have to fight for your rights yeah to make sure bullies have a way you stop bullies right so that is why i always say that if in the morning that's your answer and you look into my hand telling me this is where you're going we i'll get all the vcs to come and back you yeah yeah how how does your family look at this this version of you now like how because they at one point they were telling you no no get married at 20. oh they're still telling me like they're still putting marriage pressure yeah yeah yeah but but do they do they know what you've done like are they i think my parents do i think they also uh i think it's always about perception success failures is about how other people sees you and look at you so i think when now they come and they see the type of meetings i do or the places i speak at or the when the companies go public or the type of money which


the companies go public or the type of money which comes in they're like okay she's done something i don't think my dad still understands what is blockchain what is crypto what do i really do but he knows that she's whatever she's doing it's right and she seems happy because that is also very important part he always told me you need to be happy and my mom doesn't understand anything all she watches when some video comes up is like am i looking good is this a good video to share with her friends to see if there's a boy available or not do you do you think about marriage um i think it's a very organic thing it this age and space of my life um you cannot go through and say achar makal i have to get married so let's see who is available around you know and there's nothing wrong with when people do that but the thing is and this may sound very calculative but honestly i this is how i think of it uh when you reach a particular stage in


of it uh when you reach a particular stage in your life you're not looking for a partner for financial dependency or support you're also have enough friends in today's life 200 percent emotional there's no single person i believe who can give you mental simulation on everything you want to do in your life right you are looking for a partnership and that partnership is all then you are looking for trust love and respect right now whatever the with such crazy busy life when you are always on the plane uh finding that person is hard but then i believe in destiny so i'm sure at some airport i'm going to meet him where else man i believe in karanja's story he's not every romantic story as an airport you know this thing you highlighted about financial needs and emotional needs i read this amazing thing once about the concept of needs and relationships it said that you can't expect your partner to provide for 10 out of the 10 needs you have maybe they'll provide seven maybe they'll provide eight but the remaining two


provide seven maybe they'll provide eight but the remaining two or three you're supposed to look for in your own social circle in your own friend circle because humanly no one can ever provide the ten needs to you so you have to just ask yourself what are the seven or eight important needs i need from them yeah and and also know those other two or three which you need from maybe your best friend maybe from your family maybe from some relative uh but people don't do this they expect 10 out of 10 so that one person the expectations are too high and that's why a lot of relationships break so and the beauty of that is the people who are expecting they themselves are not giving 10 out of 10 thanks to the other person yeah it's always the case like uh this is something i've seen as well that if the expectations are extremely high what they're giving in the relationship is also not it doesn't match up to what they expect and then the missing thing you're absolutely right and the missing thing


missing thing you're absolutely right and the missing thing instead of understanding it and say i need it it's okay if you if that person is not giving it to me right within the frame of trust uh loyalty and whatever are the basic tenant of individuals equation you when you find it i also feel that what people start being bitter and then you disrespecting the seven things you are getting correct right and i think that's the end of a relationship then i'm very happy staying in my own house by myself other than this relationship thing uh do you feel like you're looking for anything at the next phase of your life because it's a deep question other than the relationship thing because that's that's something so many of us are looking for but okay for example maybe i'll talk about mine and maybe you can like yeah connect the dots for yourself um this whole last year was about really asking myself why am i doing what i'm doing is it to fill up some childhood void like why am i working so much


some childhood void like why am i working so much and why am i doing so many things and then over time i realized i think i've gotten over my childhood traumas with my own parental issues but this is my identity and this is how my identity has always been maybe it's because of all the tv shows i watched when i was a kid the cartoons also watched were very motivational so i enjoy the process of building a lot like i really enjoy the hunt rather than winning something like when we win something i don't enjoy it but i enjoy the process of creating i enjoy the process of building teams sometimes i even enjoy the traumas that you go through uh so i've just figured that that's where i find my enjoyment and in the long term maybe once this whole startup life is done uh i'll probably just get deeper into creation because that keeps you in that process continuously you're always creating things like we're always shooting videos we always nowadays we started vlogs which


shooting videos we always nowadays we started vlogs which basically again it adds process on top of process and that's been my answer and that filled up a white way because at least i got self-identity okay this is why i'm doing what i'm doing because i am as a person is process driven but what would that be for you like what's your next void i think i would love to take an ear at some point and just be in florence i love florence i don't know there's something about that city i land and i feel like this is my city like what are these people doing in this city and i have a joke among my friends that every time i go and it's been like 16 17 times i've been there i go to medici palace and i feel like it's mine so i want to go to florence spend couple of months or an year and i just want to write a couple of books and about your life yeah about a lot of my travel stories or what did i pick


lot of my travel stories or what did i pick up and when i look back the way i acted or reacted at that time versus how i look back it is more like talking to younger you with lot of weird adventures associated with it you know and i for some reason had really interesting adventures so i would love to write a lot of it and just like even if nobody finds it interesting at least my knees when i tell her all these things you always find it fascinating i'm thinking there's going to be some audiences out there but before we begin our twitter first round where we take questions from twitter you've got to quickly tell us just some highlights maybe three top highlights of your life from your travels don't even think too much whatever's just coming to your head just like share it with us when i was telling you about writing the first thing which i can never forget is um i was in africa office for ifc and i was doing investments i was i used to


and i was doing investments i was i used to look very young and i was young but i used to look even younger than what my age was i think i was 24 25 but everybody used to tell me i used to look 19 18. i had this meeting with a very senior minister from nigerian government and i had an assistant it's ifc people come from very different backgrounds i had an assistant who was a caucasian every time i would do that meeting and i had the authority to write a check up to 80 million at that point every time i would do and ask that minister a question he would look at my assistant and answer and then assistant poor guy would look at me thinking why is this guy looking at him and then i would look at the minister and ask a question and he would again look at the assistant and answer so the first meeting i was like sexist and racist like everything which i could think of then i'm like i called up my boss and i said this


like i called up my boss and i said this country is this and this guy is this and he was very senior at ifc he said okay that's not my problem you have to deal with it draw your line when you say he has crossed the line of your dignity and you cannot work with him you don't have to we still have to do this project in nigeria and find somebody else to replace you and you know it's never going to be impacted on you so it's your choice so i said okay i'll try again so two three meetings it happened like that then and i asked i've so then i went to a only single women minister in the whole cabinet i seeked out to her and i said ma'am this is what's happening with him am i wrong am i is it an indian thing is it a women thing is it a young thing what is this and then i realized he can't see straight wow and i created so many stories about it based on my four


created so many stories about it based on my four meetings that the whole world bank is thinking i'm working with a sexist and i was like oh my god i i went back to the meeting and then i started observing that she was right even when he's talking to his assistants he's looking consequently somewhere else which i never observed before because i was just angry it was all about me me me and then i realized he has three daughters and he literally asked one of his daughters to intern with me wow and so i think it's all about perception yeah and also anger shakes up your sense of observation exactly so a bunch of stories like that which i feel like a lot of young people would have another way of looking at the same situation good bad or ugly it may or may not serve them in every situation but it's going to be interesting thank you before we move into the quick twitter version yeah let's see what do they have to ask yeah yeah i you have your own


have to ask yeah yeah i you have your own sort of cult following let's ask does nandara has who unfortunately you missed our twitter space um and we have to give a big shout out to uh vijay shekhar sharma who started that twitter space so i um so this is what happened i had a really bad investor call and i wanted to treat something really mean so i uh i i have this hashtag single successful girl booze so i wanted to tweet something on that so uh i go on twitter and i start seeing this twitter space thing happening and it was vijay shekhar sharma and then suddenly while it was happening i see nantara's face coming up i'm like this is interesting and nothing is happening two meetings have got cats so let's click on it i've never been to twitter space before that so i click on it and i'm listening to them and uh vijay said something about fintech some data like he was chilling really he was not even talking


he was chilling really he was not even talking about work he said something so i raised my hand and completely not expecting him to pick me up as a speaker we have recently met at the india today conclave he was a speaker and so he picked and we started talking and suddenly i see you appearing up and my connection to you was all these youtube things like all that stuff and the you came and i got very excited the reason for excitement at that time was uh that oh this guy like i wanted to tell you like maybe you need to do blockchain i was like you do so many varied topics and please stay that don't make it a page three yeah yeah yeah like i feel like i'm gonna learn something new about the field which i would otherwise never learn because i won't even know i have to put an effort that i'm interested in this you know that's the thing which like i have got you at least 180 people following you in u.s all not indians thank you


following you in u.s all not indians thank you so much um no it's just absolutely worth it like the uh the the there was one on astrology there was one on sensuality there was one which is about uh some yoga meditation thing and all that stuff this is also the same adhd we're speaking of that it bounced between topics so that's what we did so i uh and you were just the best smoothest flirt i've ever ever heard in my life and the way you made nayantha and me and we are like nanda is like oh my god i'm like and here we are educated smart women who we think like we have the whole world at our feet and we both are behaving like 18 year old like kids yeah i reminded you of you're that guy who you took up engineering for in on that twitter space oh yeah man i took up his place in your heart a little bit of this superficial cat fight of who ranveer is gonna meet sorry nantara i won but


is gonna meet sorry nantara i won but you're the queen of my heart but i've got one queen of my soul and she's sitting in front so here's a lot of queens one for soul one for body one for brain one for energy that's the harem no no but but but but but soul it's just because because we we connect on a very soul level whether it's about talking about jumping between topics or engineering college or just podcasts in general you know this thing you said about why people need to use podcast to just learn that's my big hope you know that that's the audience we'll tap into but i'm honestly i'm curious to see what happens i don't know if uh that's why we start the hindi show as well yeah so that it opens up to the masters but i'm curious to see will they jump on or not yeah yeah yeah even for us to get noticed as an english podcast we had to first get on a lot of bollywood though yeah i


first get on a lot of bollywood though yeah i wanted to do astronomy right from the start i wanted to do spiritual stuff sensuality right from the start but i couldn't you know i want people to know it's cool yeah if you like it's cool to believe in astrology it's cool to believe in spirituality and that's not the spirituality which west is trying to sell you yeah it's cool to like does so many things which you learn growing up that you're like oh it's not cool it's actually okay whatever you want to do anything which you really believe in is cool yeah yeah uh i think we are actually going to have a deep astrology special shows oh my god so i'm sending my details before [Laughter] okay so you've got a lot of cult like questions but uh it's a lot not giving away any bitcoin ether crypto prizes and when they're going to be up guys so think of this as sort of a rapid fire round like you don't need to go to coffee with


round like you don't need to go to coffee with karen now yeah but then i might ask you follow-up questions which will be my own do i get any hamper or something uh it's it's one of those hampers that you feel more than you get like zero dollar value okay fine no it uh i'll tell you what after this podcast recording i might be joining you in the evening so i'll give you a hamper then i'll talk about that do something then uh okay so the first question is from uh um i think this is a question totally in your domain and something we've not tackled in our conversation he's talking about fintech and he says that fintech industry has been focused on payments broking loans etc a recent has been focused on crypto but what's the next gen sphere fintech looking like and what should fintech look out for because again for the absolute amateurs uh fintech is eventually going to replicate the whole financial world but in technology but now the financial world itself


world but in technology but now the financial world itself is evolving so much yeah so no one no one really like the amateurs can't break probably finance people can predict it but the amateurs can't so me from an amateur perspective what does the future hold i think you know in our elite circle as i call it in an elite circle we say it's going to be decentralized finance the way the stock market is working on fiat for your swaps and options and bro bonds and this and treasuries all this is going to be on crypto with respect to tokens which is already happening as i gave an example of instead up what they have they have been doing in a real real world honestly um i don't think more than 20 of this world is banned or have access to the things which we take for granted you know or to the experience which we wanted so in i so there has to be a big grassroot level movement which still has to happen you're talking about india asia i'm


to happen you're talking about india asia i'm talking globally india also if you go to villages they you cannot go and build a brick and mortar branches of the bank today the way africa completely skipped the landline and directly moved to mobile and was able to create empezar is what india needs to do that's why paytm is working right the most of the users in tier 2 tier 3 cities are not the people who even have the bank account wow yeah so but paytm still needs some sort of a bank account we need to move to neo banks so the new bank in brazil or what cash app is and all this stuff i i won't know the definition of bank which you and me know today people won't even know that and and this is going to be for those teenagers who are using tick tock today in villages they need to understand banking uh probably five years in a very different way their banking is going to be different they're not going to have a check books


be different they're not going to have a check books they're not going to have those papers or bonds and all that stuff now so i feel like but we forget when we talk about fintech that the huge part of fintech are companies like tala the companies like m-pesa the companies who are still going and getting people having their first bank accounts on apps for them to have a saving account current account digitally but also to bring them into the credit scoring system by giving them one cent loan a day to a daily libra and then based on their own performance instead of taking oh he has a house or not how do we build a credit scoring in a traditional world what is your parents credit rating based on they're like oh your dad has a house so the child will start at 600. what have you done for your dad to buy a house um you know so they are going and saying you're a daily laborer we don't have any proof that you are actually from bihar but you are in


that you are actually from bihar but you are in delhi or a migrant laborer will take a risk and we'll give you five rupee five rupee loan now based on how will you return us five rupee next time we'll give you 10 next time 15 next time 5 500 rupee so you are creating your own based on your character so that is a whole level of fintech which is going to grow and has to grow for an equal financial inclusivity then for the elite i would go back and say defy is the word could you explain what that is so d5 is once you are on crypto what can you do crypto is a currency so same thing as you do normal currency you have rupee you have bitcoin you can use that rupee put it in saving account one person two percent whatever annual interest same thing with bitcoin you leave it in the exchange they'll give you some return then you go to stock market and then you start buying bonds and treasuries based on your risk appetite you start


treasuries based on your risk appetite you start investing the investing in crypto is decentralized finance you know you're gonna have different products coming out of it so there are apps like oh there are protocols decentralized finance protocol like rv sushi swap compound uni swap that's what they are doing so coming back to the twitter first round uh this question is from sg7331 uh what are the perks and the disadvantages of studying abroad rather than studying in india and what are the cultural and intellectual benefits this is a very very good question i think for me the difference is i think you need to find your tribe because what i got out of my college honestly like i also studied in uh in india i started at amity before i moved to mit uh then i did my master's from there from george washington um i think it's about the intellectual level or the space to ask questions which i found in my time which is back in 2000 early 2000 india didn't have that space


2000 early 2000 india didn't have that space where you question your professors and your teachers and you can actually have an constructive answer but i heard i've really heard that is changing here i have not experienced it i don't have kids so i don't know in few universities they've set up that kind of culture yeah that way you can talk to your professor on a on a you know one-to-one level yeah but overall the country is still aware as you know it as as you know so i i teach at stanford now i teach two classes there when i'm teaching and i have this these kids all over the world they feel it is their right to question me and everything i'm teaching that sometimes even i'm irritated as a teacher i'm like just google it either trust me or google it like but then i look back and i'm like super fascinating because i miss that so for me the thing which i find amazing in uk us culture in education is your professor is not


uk us culture in education is your professor is not hierarchically listen and go he is a person who's gonna give you knowledge by you questioning and questioning about how you are understanding got it because our communications are really broken here even with everything between friends whom you feel like you know so well you don't get the right perception of the things this is why whenever i speak to american entrepreneurs or anyone who's lived in american culture they're way better conversationalists like the conversation flows they listen also like there is that a difference in energy oh because all our exams in india is like this is the question now write an answer and the answer is from the book if you have added something from outside that 100 year old book even if it is right the teacher actually give your logic i didn't give you number because this is not from the material [Music] over there all the teachers gonna ask oh very interesting you have to quote the source that's it they're going to double check the source so


it they're going to double check the source so you can go anywhere across the globe and bring that information yeah so i think that is the huge difference um said that what i miss about indian education system when i was doing my master's is uh the rigorousness of it i think some pressure some rigorousness setting up a higher goal are these things these three things are very important it makes your competitiveness it gives you toughness it also pushes people who could be where he's not just lazy we all like the way our family structure is i remember when i was living at home i don't remember waking up and making my own video till i was not pushed for something i didn't do it that was a part of a bringing yeah so i think that part is missing all right and uh i think the follow-up question was the cultural aspect of it uh like what what did it give you for life would you say conversation only like i think it gave me understanding that there the same thing can


gave me understanding that there the same thing can be said and understood in a lot of different way because people are coming from all over the world and they are bringing their biases they are bringing their perspective and they are also bringing an extra knowledge which is culturally which you cannot read and get you know so i learn a typical way of doing calculus so it's an example like i learned how to solve a particular math equation calculus and all those things in a very cbsc way or at mit or do this when i started solving a problem in the media lab a person with me who was working was from israel they solved the same problem in a different way it's nothing about right or wrong it's the education system and when we go deeper when we went deeper in the research i realized some of the ways he was doing was faster and more accurate in a bigger long equation than the way i was doing yeah yeah so even to have that exposure is what happens and


even to have that exposure is what happens and it is not about american system of british system it is about having a multi-part like a melting pot sorry yeah yeah so many different cultures and perspectives yeah yeah um which again brings me back to the podcast that's that's what we're getting same questions different answers yeah um whether it is a political opinion whether it is business knowledge whether it is cultural knowledge when you get a 360 degree perspective about it from different people that's what eventually gives you the right raw materials to construct your own perspective okay very interesting question again because our conversation was based around startups and entrepreneurship that much scan an entrepreneur live in a completely free state of mind for one day this is after your observation of all these people it really depends what stage his company is when you are starting a company you are a visionary for series b you are an operation manager because your responsibility is so big there's no time to take that day out be in a while with yourself


take that day out be in a while with yourself and just think what's next and lot of top founders have started doing it but then they have to they can do it at ipo at series cd when they can hire ceos and all those really amazing experienced people till then this is the journey how long is that usually in terms of time like i know you can't average it out freely but roughly what would you say oh it really depends upon people but in the first one year is all about being visionary every day you will get time to think about the product as soon as you close your series a and you're hiring you are just an operation manager yeah because you're just oiling the machine to machine to run and that brings me back to what you said about the best founders are passionate about it every day because only the passion will get you through dedicating your life to that stress 18 hours and responsible for like 50 people 100 people salary yeah yeah 100 um it's also given me


people salary yeah yeah 100 um it's also given me kind of an input on what i can possibly do at the later stages of my life because i'm just like you i want to bounce back next projects um okay this one's from tim si rajpal and she's been an avid follower of the show she's also beautiful no no but but she is like and she's been she's saying she always sends in her questions i'm sorry i'm just lost in a deep i'm kidding but timsy's question is based on your own professional experience what's your advice for a young lady who's trying to take a leap forward in an unconventional career who's trying to leap towards an unconventional career uh say something like capital markets which is considered extremely risky uh but i think basic the basic question is someone who's thinking that okay i can do that like can i or can i not uh yeah or probably has a vision of hmm i should do that but it maybe doesn't have the bravery or the confidence


it maybe doesn't have the bravery or the confidence yet tim see first of all apart from beautiful you're very smart because this question is very smart um if you're asking this question it means you already have something in your mind which is very strong and honestly you don't need any external verification or support because if you're really strong about something go and do it what is the worst case scenario it's not gonna work anyways thinking if sitting at home it's not working out yeah it doesn't mean anybody's going to say you wasted six months of your life no because the lessons you're going to learn on failure is actually going to make you successful yeah i want to highlight this one i forgot the exact statistic but it's something like nine out of ten guys will attempt men nine out of ten men will attempt something even if they don't have the qualifications or capability of doing it and if a woman has if women if there are ten women and they have the qualifications and capability of doing a certain task


the qualifications and capability of doing a certain task something like only three or four would attempt it there was this detailed study done i mean the uh what's it called the number of people was much larger than 10 but they came up with this statistic and the the conclusion of the study was that again maybe it's culture maybe it's society maybe it's genetical i don't know i think for me the way i look at it is the financial security because women have just started working they have just started becoming financially secure so even if you look at our grandparents and our generation before and our dad women are now creating their own wealth so the first generation of women creating their own well wants to be very safe they don't want to take risk i also feel there needs to be reference points yeah like you need to look up to like one full generation of people say okay if they could do it i can also and the world is very and first i thought this is just india but it's actually all over


this is just india but it's actually all over the world it's everywhere yeah also i feel like something my dad said beautifully and sorry guys i keep on coming back to my dad um i remember i was doing an internship and i was not happy there was something going on in our dynamics this is like way before me too movement when as a woman you don't even understand if there's something wrong happening or something is not acceptable nobody tells you there's no educational class to tell you what is acceptable and not acceptable it's a gut feeling so something happening with this guy and i would always would cringe as soon as that senior person would enter the room creepy something there was something he never said anything to me the way he would look the way he would just touch and go there was something my whole body and i grew up with guys i was very tomboy in my life so i but i didn't know so one day i was talking to dad and i just started


day i was talking to dad and i just started crying and he's like why are you crying and he's like i don't know maybe i'm wrong and i was blaming myself while explaining my dad this i was finding every excuse in the book even to tell my dad i'm sorry i didn't do anything wrong i'm like defending myself even before telling him what happened and nothing happened at that point you know he just said he listened he said so you didn't do anything why are you crying i'm like i don't know i just feel weird and now i have to go with him to this thing for the whole day i just don't want to sit in that car and he said listen always remember whatever you're doing in your life is your choice your worst case scenario is to leave everything come back to this house where you will always have a food on the table and that worst case scenario of your life are people's dream so compromise where you want to compromise don't compromise


compromise where you want to compromise don't compromise the things which you don't want to because the house is here and i think that has given me so much confidence throughout my life that i always think if i am taking a risk like when i was going to africa i was taking a salary cut and i was letting off a promotion i was about to get and moving it two years in a normal case scenario uh i was like if it won't work out i have somebody who's actually gonna cook for me instead of me cooking every day that is good and i just made it as a good way of thinking let's just take a risk and we'll see so i think that support system nowadays i start seeing from that's coming very strongly yeah or content hopefully yes so that's that's honestly the big hope i feel whenever if you if you feel you know there's that uh saying by matma gandhi that be the change you wish to see in the world uh as a content creator you start


in the world uh as a content creator you start feeling that more and more as your career goes forward like if you're if you're questioning them why is this wrong what can we do to fix it make content about it because over time you realize that content just like parenting sits very deep in a person's head if they really find themselves within that content piece yeah because we also have this thing now if um i'm giving a gyan i will not take it from the people i know very well um [Music] but a people i may not know but i think i have a perception that person has done well i'll take it very seriously and i think that's what you're doing from here i mean yeah i i try again i try not uh analyzing the content a bit too much oh god no ranveer i have to say this um i'm sure there are so many people like me who found you based completely on the content yeah we only found your floating skills later and the charming skills i


found your floating skills later and the charming skills i would say but on a serious note it's the power of the content which gets us connected to something like this right for me it is another bucket list yeah i found a content guy on youtube sitting in sf in new york and now i'm here after like year and a half with no connection please make it clear i didn't pay for it that's what people think that uh there's a monetary angle involved in some of these podcasts and it's really not but no yeah not even coffee i've only got water i actually got you did you read my tweet no no okay you should you should read my i got you the world's best coffee oh yes i'm a big coffee k queen k queen kavitha i gotta say thank you from the bottom of my heart for for giving me so many of my answers through this very kind of multi-directional conversation uh i think that's where we connect as people also we like learning about different subjects i've learned so


we like learning about different subjects i've learned so much from just talking to you in these two three hours uh you've also broken some of my perspectives i'm happy that some of them are broken but i honestly don't know how to thank you and i think you already know that i wish to have you on the show many many more times so every time you're on bombay please let us know and we'll create some magic for the internet no thank you so much for having me now i have another soul mate in my life yes that's because you're the queen of my soul ah i just gotta highlight that as well uh what i do suggest for listeners is uh follow queen k on twitter and please join our twitter spaces at some point i'm gonna start doing those again yes uh now i will switch off this podcast because i also need to have my offline conversation with queen k any parting notes for the audience be adventurous [Music] and follow you on your new thing spotify ah yeah follow wow follow


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welcome to this extremely special solo podcast this is part one of my own spiritual journey not gonna reveal too much about it in the intro other than the fact that these were two extremely heavy episodes to create for you guys so i hope you enjoy it for now make sure you follow the renovation on spotify where is spotify exclusive which means that every episode is available on spotify 48 hours before it's available anywhere else in the world and without further ado enjoy this very special solo episode of the runway show namaste everyone this video is about careers making money fame growth mentality evolution family life relationships as much as it's about spirituality because that's the seed for all this other superficial stuff that i spoke about when people say that oh i'm not religious i'm just spiritual and then don't really have a concrete definition of what being spiritual actually entails they're the reason that the word spirituality has kind of gained this sort of flaky sort of loose reputation and i'm hoping that


sort of loose reputation and i'm hoping that this particular episode of the ranveer show helps change that a little bit i'm going to be talking about my own spiritual journey beginning from college where i was that kid who sat for meditation seminars and made fun of the person conducting the seminar didn't believe in the power of meditation thought it's extremely flaky thought it's a little random graduated from college began my career angrily with a lot of fire because i wanted to kill it in life i wanted to earn money i wanted to make it big then i went for a vacation randomly came across a shaman a priest from the south american amazonian culture who introduced me to ayahuasca ayahuasca is not a psychedelic drug ayahuasca is an extremely spiritual substance that puts you through an extremely spiritual experience that shifts things in your head neurobiologists all over the world are studying ayahuasca in detail i made a detailed solo podcast on ayahuasca i've


a detailed solo podcast on ayahuasca i've hosted a top botanist dr mark plotkin to speak about the use of plants that ayahuascus derived from in the world of neurobiology i've spoken to multiple neuroscientists who are studying the effects of plants that give rise to brews like ayahuasca that stuff is real that stuff is potent that stuff will change you that's where my spiritual journey started as well it was like one big gear shift in my own life i do recommend that you go through those podcasts or at least that one ayahuasca episode before you watch this one i did grow up with a sense of god i did go up with a sense of prayer i did grow up with sort of a guru figure that i've spoken about earlier on this podcast as well what i've not spoken about is what happened after the age of 22. i'm 28 and from 22 to 28 i built out my own career with beer biceps with these businesses with this content that we've been


with these businesses with this content that we've been putting out for six years there's also been a parallel career according to me which is the case with every human being we all have a material career and then we have a spiritual career and honestly if you focus on your spiritual career it will benefit your material career it won't give rise to your material career but it will give you the tools required to kill it in your material career working hard isn't enough there's a lot of people who can work hard there's a lot of people who can push that extra bit who can go that extra mile for the sake of their career but in the process of pushing that extra bit going that extra mile you sort of damage your own insides just a little bit you know what i'm talking about you know when you were a kid and you had exams and you prepared all night for it but then you slept late you decided to wake up early just to give yourself that extra half an hour or one


to give yourself that extra half an hour or one hour in the morning to study further for that exam it may have benefited you but it did tire your mind and body a little bit that's the case with really ambitious people as well they're able to push that little bit harder but they also inflict that little bit of damage on their insides and that's what spirituality can help cure it's kind of like polishing up your insights polishing your mind polishing your soul polishing your body a great mentor to me mr kiran kharag once described the gifts of spirituality beautifully he said that imagine yourself in a situation where you're hearing from someone you're hearing abuses from someone insults from someone but you can't give it back it could be your boss it could be your client it could be someone who you wish to work with they're insulting you you can't give it back but because you're that ambitious you want to go that extra mile for your career so you just take


that extra mile for your career so you just take all that anger and swallow it you put it back inside you just doing that is like pressing the accelerator on the brake of a car together it damages your engine and this happens to all of us especially ambitious people that damage to the engine can be cured through spiritual practice through meditation naval ravikant says that meditation is like intermittent fasting for your mind i think we all live in an age where you know the benefits of intermittent fasting even staying away from food for say about 12 hours helps your body heal better and most people don't do it in the modern day but people have started to adopt intermittent fasting because the process of staying away from normalcy sometimes helps your body heal intermittent fasting helps your body heal the process of spirituality helps your mind your emotions and your soul heal and a healed recovered refueled reinvigorated mind emotional state and soul are the tools you need


emotional state and soul are the tools you need to really repeat apart in your career to enhance your relationships to enhance your family life to live a more peaceful calm life after my ayahuasca session which happened in seychelles my shaman told me he'd be visiting mumbai three months after that date so i ended up doing a second ayahuasca session after my first ayah ask a session which absolutely changed me it opened me up to the possibilities of the human mind it opened me up to the possibilities of perception i remember when i had just done the ayahuasca the effects of it had gone away it had changed me i had cried in my ayahuasca session i had changed as a person in my ayahuasca session after the effects wore off i was walking back to my own hotel room at night and i felt like each plant that i was passing was saying something to me it was a new form of perception that was very active right after my iowa session i was curious i wanted


after my iowa session i was curious i wanted more i asked my shaman when i'll get to do it again and he told me that three months after that particular date he's going to be in mumbai and i can do my second session of ayahuasca when i did it the second time i did it with three other people and of the four of us close to nothing happened to me something happened to the three other people nothing happened to me when i asked him why nothing happened to me even though i took a heavier dose this time he said that please stop thinking ayahuasca is like a drug or a drink those are non-living energies if you put alcohol inside your body and your mind it's going to alter the way the body or the mind works because of its chemical constitution it's chemically designed to alter your body and your mind with ayahuasca it's not about chemicals it's a spiritual experience and the ayahuasca chooses what you should go through when you consume it


chooses what you should go through when you consume it the big difference between consuming ayahuasca and consuming weed or alcohol is that ayahuasca is a life it's like a person or an entity that you're putting inside you so the second time i did it nothing happened but i wanted more growth so my shaman told me that that massive slap of ayahuasca that you felt the first time you did it you can feel a micro version of that every time you meditate and as you meditate consistently in life as you keep going forward with your meditative practices as you keep diving deep into spirituality the effects get compounded you live life as if you're always high on ayahuasca you live life as if you always have that peace that ayahuasca gave you in that moment you consumed it it intrigued me parallelly i used to watch a youtuber called elliot hulse on youtube who used to talk about spiritual practices and he spoke about how meditation helped in his muscle recovery now


how meditation helped in his muscle recovery now keep in mind i was a fitness youtuber at that time and if you're a fitness youtuber you're perpetually thinking about fitness in your daily life so i was always looking for that supplementation or that added step when it came to my own fitness that would benefit my own fitness levels the way my body looked et cetera et cetera and the moment i heard elliot hulse say that meditation helps in muscle recovery i started perceiving consistent meditation i sort of like going to the gym i went to the gym consistently for five or six years of my life till that point and i'd seen the benefits it had given me a better looking body a stronger physique general strength confidence so i thought meditation seems to be in that same zone you keep doing it something will happen so i called up my shaman i asked him what's the best form of meditation to practice which is also easy so he said just practice um chanting


is also easy so he said just practice um chanting meditation ideally with a partner so i made my mom sit down and we've started meditating together somehow i convinced her to take up home chanting meditation i told her that just do it for me i've read about the scientific aspects of it and they say it has benefits for your mind so the first time you're going about home chanting meditation right you're meditating i was meditating with my mom you take a deep breath and let out an om [Music] you take a deep breath and do it again you take a deep breath and do it again and you keep doing this for at least 15 to 20 minutes the first time i opened my eyes i felt like all the colors of the real world had gotten a little more saturated and that's when i knew that okay something's happening this is real what is happening here my mom felt something she felt way karma fortunately we kept at it and we kept doing this all the


kept at it and we kept doing this all the time and a month later i was just sitting in my room and i was feeling this strong sense of peace on a sunday sort of a sense of peace that i had not felt since my childhood and then i remembered my shaman telling me that you'll only see the effects a month into doing it consistently every day i was feeling a significant level of peace that i hadn't felt before so i got even more determined to meditate and i started meditating twice daily 20 minutes twice daily sometimes on some days where i was thinking about my meditation all day i'd research about it and read about different thoughts when it came to meditation and i read somewhere that you approach meditation very openly as if you're approaching an entity that's coming at you in the same way that the ayahuasca energy came at you and gave you something you approach an entity it could be god it could be the universe it could be some kind of power


be the universe it could be some kind of power and you meditate with that open intention you meditate with an intention to meet some kind of entity so i meditated intensely that day i went beyond the 20-minute mark i went beyond the 30-minute mark as you keep meditating you keep getting calmer and then at the 30 minute mark i just felt like there was this really bright light that was shining upon me in my meditation right this was the first time i ever felt anything like this i opened my eyes to see if any of the lights in my room went on but no my mom was meditating in front of me so i closed my eyes again slipped back into the meditation and just enjoyed all that light strange i have no explanation no biological explanation till today about this phenomenon spiritually when you see light it does have significance more on that later so after this meditation when i opened my eyes i shared this experience with my mom and my mom said that even she felt the


mom and my mom said that even she felt the same thing happened for the first time and that's where i realized that this meditation thing i'm doing is beyond human biology if two people can sort of share this experience without even having any kind of physical contact in between them something is happening here so i kept meditating more in life and at about this time i was also kind of just waking up in my own career i was finding my own feet in the past i've spoken about the mental health issues i've gone through in my early 20s after engineering college dealing with alcoholism in college dealing with not the best father-son relationship in life which is now healed but i remember in some of these meditations after this white light experience that i had if i meditated beyond the 30 or 40 minute mark i was able to go back into some part of my memories feel the pain i felt in that memory cry about it release it open my eyes and feel a lot better after the meditation was


eyes and feel a lot better after the meditation was done something like this had happened in my ayahuasca experience as well but i felt like in that one hour of experiencing ayahuasca i would go back in my memories experience my memories from a third person perspective and come to terms with my past but the meditation felt more real the meditation felt like i was feeling those emotions again i was feeling the arguments with my father i was feeling the insults of my professors i was feeling what my first ever crush said to me when she broke my heart in life you know all these little painful memories that i was going feeling unlocking coming back feeling lighter i was also going through a lot of trauma of my early career away or youtube when you're just getting used to this random new fame that's happening in your life i was not dealing with hate well at that point in my career so i would kind of accumulate it inside me and sometimes with my meditation


of accumulate it inside me and sometimes with my meditation i would release all that scrutiny that i felt and i felt lighter after my meditation and that lightness allowed me to work better releasing your heavy memories from your past replacing hate with love it allows you to work better it allows you to work more efficiently that's a very raw explanation of how daily meditation can help your career i chose to go back to my memories but often when you're meditating you just go through what the meditation takes you through which makes me wonder that did i actually go to those memories or did the meditation carry me there i don't know at about this time i started dating someone who i loved immensely and i remember that every time i'd hold her hand i always felt like hey you know that white light i see my meditation i want to give her some of it if i ever kissed her i would try transferring some of that energy because my shaman was still guiding me till this point


my shaman was still guiding me till this point and he told me that you know meditation is like charging your phone you put a wire inside your phone you let it charge up completely and then your phone's ready to be used at high power and high efficiency you're like that phone that's just been charged by the power of meditation and you can choose to pass it on to the people you love through love so i was deeply in love and i gave this girl all that light i was like all that's mine is now going to be yours every time i kissed her every time i held her hand every time i hugged him i just wanted to douse her in light i happened to meet a friend of mine who was a practicing yogi so this girl this yogi girl tony don't do it it's not safe to do this what you're doing is an extremely raw form of reiki and when you're giving energy to someone especially the meditation energy that you've accumulated if you're


the meditation energy that you've accumulated if you're giving it off to someone else it's just dangerous people who've just begun their spiritual journeys are not supposed to transfer energy like this even to a loved one because it can be dangerous i went and saw a satguru video at night that day which spoke about reiki and he said something similar that when you're transferring energy like this these are subtle energies and energies also carry information and sometimes karma there's an information exchange there's a karmic exchange that happens when you transfer energy like this you know when some people are around babies babies are just very calm and they tend to love those particular people or animals are drawn to some people why why animals drawn to some people versus others it's because they're giving off a particular type of energy right but when you're giving too much of it to one person it can be dangerous so it put some doubts in my head but by this point i also wanted the


my head but by this point i also wanted the next stage of meditation so this circumstance together kind of convinced me that i should go for a reiki course that yogi friend of mine she directed me to a reiki course in bombay which was life-changing i was guided by a reiki master called jakisha poppet she is the person who taught me reiki who taught me reiki those two days three days at the start of the course we had to write down what we wanted from that course i wanted three things spiritual growth material growth and healing because at that point i'd also injured my elbow really badly i was going through a tennis elbow situation and i'd gone to physios i'd gone to doctors and nothing was seeming to help reiki supposed to be sort of a healing practice which a lot of people don't believe in because there's no scientific proof related to reiki yet in the same way that up until recently there was no scientific proof related to pranayams but


there was no scientific proof related to pranayams but suddenly the world of science has discovered the power of pranayamas and breathing techniques the world of science still has to discover all these secrets from the world of yoga reiki is a japanese method of healing of energy transfer that was brought to japan in medieval times by people who had visited india learned things in india and carried it to japan you will only believe in reiki when you actually experience a reiki healing session from someone you need to go through it to understand the power it holds it was a two day initiation ceremony where they make you do different kinds of meditations they make you confess things on pieces of paper they teach you about chakras which was such a life-changing lesson for me it opened up so many parts of my head so many parts of the human experience and i wish that every single human being gets to know about chakras it probably deserves its own podcast i'm not going to talk too


its own podcast i'm not going to talk too much about chakras in this one we did a couple of extremely powerful meditations over the course of two days the last meditation was this thing called the golden ball meditation which i'll never forget in my life it was a healing based meditation where they clean up each of your chakras one by one it's a guided meditation jigisha mam took us through it you allow light to pass through each of your chakras starting from top each of your chakras represents a nerve cluster and an important organ in your body but it also represents some form of human emotion if your lowest chakra is shaken up you'll be an overthinker you'll be stressed a lot you'll face anxiety a lot if your next chakra is shaken up you don't experience as much peace as as possible if your next chakra your solar plexus is shaken up you tend to have negative emotions towards other people if the next one is shaken up which is related


if the next one is shaken up which is related to your heart that usually means that you've not received enough love or you're not capable of giving out the love that's inside you your throat chakra is related to your communication and your confidence levels your third eye chakras related to your intuition while it was passing through the third eye i didn't feel much throat i didn't feel much heart i didn't feel much i was in love at that point solar plexus i didn't feel much because i didn't have negative emotions towards other people but when it hit the sacral chakra which was related to my sense of peace i felt an experience stronger than my ayahuasca experience i've had something happen inside my body i went to almost all the moments of my own life that had created my daddy issues till that point all the micro and macro arguments i had with my dad i revisited all of them in the span of two minutes three minutes it felt like a cleanse it felt like my body


it felt like a cleanse it felt like my body let go of a lot of heavy memories i started crying profusely during that meditation crying much more than i cried because of the ayahuasca and then it went to the next chakra and i was fine again i did feel tears i did feel discomfort even in the last chakra but overall i was fine i opened my eyes [Music] and i wasn't the only person who cried the guy next to me had cried as well someone in the corner of the room had cried as well so this wasn't just me they'd all gone through their own experiences when we got to share what we're going through i realize different chakras have affected different people differently depending on what they'd been through in life for me it was my daddy issues that got solved i realized man reiki is real after any of these courses that you go for the spiritual courses that you go for they only really benefit you if you practice them in the long


really benefit you if you practice them in the long term that's the advantage of staying in india we have access to so many beautiful advanced spirituality based courses advanced meditation courses be it brahma kumari or isha foundation or the heartfulness foundation or yss which i'm a part of right now that you see behind me it's a yss although i've come to how yss came into my life eventually but we're talking about reiki right now so i was told by jigisha ma'am to just keep practicing the reiki and that's what i did and what do you know that elbow pain of mine faded away a little bit healing my own body and my own chakras through the reiki gave me a lot of peace it gave me more lightness than even the om chanting meditations gave me and that benefited my career and now i could give my girlfriend real reiki in a much more controlled format when you're transferring energy like that you're supposed to have a certain kind of


that you're supposed to have a certain kind of thought process when you're transferring energy but you only learn after going through a course like reiki i kept doing it for three four months almost every day i felt the changes in my body and my mind but i also felt like maybe this wasn't for me maybe there's a deeper form of meditation now what was this deeper form of meditation going through the reiki course felt like i had arrived i finally found a tool to help my career but it wasn't the tools that i stuck to in the long term because when it comes to these advanced meditation courses you're supposed to try different ones until you find the one that speaks to you on an extremely deep level until you find the one where you feel like you belong there like you feel like you belong in that school that's the truth about advanced meditation courses and more of that in part two of the special episode of the rendez show that was part one of a special two-part series


show that was part one of a special two-part series on spirituality make sure you hit that like button makes you share it with your friends and i truly truly hope you found value and you found some form of inspiration from part one part two isn't as much storytelling as it is esoteric as it is conceptual but part two is also the heavier of the two episodes enjoy it keep growing and remember to follow the runway show on spotify every episode is available 48 hours before it's available anywhere else in the world thank you for listening [Music] you


almost everyone if you haven't checked out part one of a special two-part series on spirituality i do recommend you check out that episode before you check out this one i'm not going to talk too much about this episode in the introduction i am going to say that it is a heavy episode and i hope that it opens up certain thought processes in your own mind when you're talking about a concept like spiritualism there is a lot of heaviness attached to the sentences used to the concepts that's spoken about so please check out part one just for context for now make sure you follow the rendition on spotify there is spotify exclusive now which means that every episode is available on spotify 48 hours before it's available anywhere else in the world this is part 2 of our special on spirituality enjoy [Music] the great advantage of living in this beautiful country is the same reason that so many foreigners so many spiritual seekers from other countries visit our beautiful country india we have access to spiritual training we have access to


we have access to spiritual training we have access to spiritual wisdom and that's the beginning of the second part of this special spiritual podcast that we're creating the last episode i spoke about my first steps into spirituality this one is about where i really started finding my feet so i've done reiki by this point but also from a career perspective i was under pressure i was a youtuber i needed to do something more with my life i couldn't just be a content creator i knew that's not what i was born for i wanted to launch monk entertainment and i knew i had the business skills i knew i had the people skills i knew i had the grit to be able to form a successful business outside of just creating content i even had the self-belief by this point i probably just didn't have the professional glue as i like to call it i didn't have that x factor [Music] but i'd also seen by this point that years of meditation just one or two years of meditation


of meditation just one or two years of meditation actually my process of visualization how much it had benefited my sense of calm that i carried into my work in stressful high pressure situations i had done reiki by this point but i felt like it wasn't what i was looking for i started searching for deeper forms of spiritualism watched a lot of satguru videos on the internet and then eventually i ended up coming across a lot of fellow spiritual seekers just like myself one of them pointed me to ville parle it's a suburb in mumbai and he told me that it's the last existing transcendental meditation center in mumbai transcendental meditation is very famous all over the world it's called tm you have lots of celebrities who practice tm oprah winfrey i think tim ferriss has experienced tm the beatles have very famously been proponents of tm and they credit tm for giving them their sense of creativity their sense of direction their sense of purpose that's what i


sense of direction their sense of purpose that's what i went searching for i needed that x factor that career i go to the tm center in ville parler i enroll for a course it's a three-day course not as grueling as reiki it was just a one or two hour session for three days back to back in the morning they give you something called a beej mantra a beej mantra is a really tiny mantra that's like a beach beej is the hindi word for seed it's like a seed that you plant into your head and then it grows into a plant and that plant is what gives you the fruits the career glue the relationship glue the life glue i practiced dm with the personalized beej mantra that they gave me when i really discovered the power of mantra chanting mantra repeating a mantra constantly and meditation just one short mantra it could be something from your own religion it could be something you've grown up with just these short mantras just repeat them in


up with just these short mantras just repeat them in your meditation and witness the effects it has on your process of meditation we've done a podcast with dr radhakrishnan where we spoke about this concept of short mantras of bij mantras and he compared it to pole vaulting the peach mantra is like a staff for your pole vaulting technique it helps lift your mind up and lift your mind beyond your own sense of consciousness when you're lost in your mantra chanting what tends to happen is after a point say 15 minutes for some people 10 minutes for some people when your mind is extremely calm your mind doesn't even remember what it was chanting but your breath seems to be following a pattern of its own and the chant moves from your mouth and your mind to your breath it's a very difficult concept to wrap your head around unless you've experienced it yourself and my first experience with was through tm i did see the benefits it gave me but i just felt like it


it gave me but i just felt like it was in my cup of tea now around this same time i ended up meeting one mr manish pandya i've spoken about him in this podcast we had him on the show he introduced me to a book called the autobiography of a yogi and this is where things exploded in my life spiritually years of home chanting practicing reiki practicing dm all of it had benefited my career but this one book it was so heavy it was so heavy that i wanted more of it what maneesh bhai told me was that when it comes to some books you don't read them the books read you and the books give you what you need at that particular moment if you read that book with a sense of respect with a sense of seeking with a sense of wanting evolution from that book it gives you your answers it gives you your next steps it gives you your guidance the tm the reiki the om chandigarh made me calm it had given


om chandigarh made me calm it had given me career glue and we had begun building a business youtube was also growing by itself my family life was getting better my relationship was getting better i was becoming a much calmer person but i wanted that next step as with my material career i'm always looking for the next business to build the next challenge to overcome the next mission to go on to when it comes to spirituality i'm always looking for that next step of spirituality to jump towards autobiography of a yogi is an extremely heavy book we're supposed to read one page at a time and if it isn't entering your head easily you put the book down and you try reading it the next day you're not supposed to force your way through that book you're supposed to retain as much as you can you're supposed to read it with a sense of respect and that's exactly what i did over the course of a year on days where i would have problems on days where i would


where i would have problems on days where i would have questions on days where i would face challenges i would take those problems and questions and challenges and turn to the book and try finding my answers within the book and i am not kidding you i'd find those answers in that book some books are just written with a sense of power that just carries itself through time that book was written in the 40s i was utilizing it in 2018. that's how powerful that book is it's made me who i am today it's shaped up a massive part of my personality and this podcast isn't about the book that book is an infinite source of knowledge by itself i've reread it so many times i've read so many chapters but i'll tell you what the book led me to reading that book was like a year-long ayahuasca experience and it made me understand that yes spiritual growth happens through consistency and it happens to finding these advanced meditation courses but what it really happens through is


meditation courses but what it really happens through is text written by an evolved soul is conversations with evolved souls both of which have very willingly somehow come into my life over the course of time and i'm extremely blessed to have experienced both reading that book opened my mind up spiritually and there's no limit to spiritual knowledge often on spiritual podcasts we sometimes get comments under youtube videos saying hey this is not how you think about this is how you think of it because a lot of different spiritual schools approach the same topic slightly differently everyone's trying to say the same thing be a good person meditate regularly pray to god or that higher power be humble be kind to other people be loving towards your own loved ones forgive be easy on yourself live healthily it's the same concepts but it's these little nuances these little differences between the schools that create rivalries that create fights that create arguments that create criticism in between those schools my point is that i'd


in between those schools my point is that i'd experienced other schools but i found myself in yss what is why is this the person who wrote the autobiography of a yogi yoga in the panamance he set up something called the self-realization fellowship in america which contains a yoga course for advanced spiritual seekers people who want those advanced forms of meditation can do that course and get to higher levels of spiritual growth the self-realization fellowship is called the yoga and satsang society in india and that's what i'm a part of without getting into too many details of this story the wisest story in my life i remember reading that book over the course of a year feeling the change it had brought about in me changing me as a human changing my perceptions of life once i closed that book once i was done with it i wanted more so i googled yss mumbai and i found out that it was 10 minutes away from my house 10 minutes by walking distance i'd walked past that


10 minutes by walking distance i'd walked past that building all my life and never noticed it so the moment i realized it's 10 minutes away i left my house i went there and for the first time when i was entering one of these advanced meditation courses i felt something different i felt like i've sort of come home i felt like i'd returned to something i don't know how else to explain this but this is what i felt i went inside they had an office where you just feel this incredible energy lots of these old ladies few old men sitting there running the office and i went and told them i've read the book and i want higher levels of spiritual growth and they said we have this course that's pretty much free of cost it's like worth 80 rupees or something i enrolled for the course and they told me hold on before joining this please know it's theoretically intense to study all this it's also extremely intense to practice the practices that are within this yss course are you open


that are within this yss course are you open to it the kid that learned martial arts inside me the teenager who lifted weights that young adult who meditated regularly all three of them said yes i'm up for it this is what i need for my next stage of growth and since i've begun the yss course there's been no looking back what's within that yss course we're not allowed to speak of these things on the internet but what i will tell you is that it's incredible and it's not just about yogic techniques or breathing exercises or meditations it's about a certain thought process it's about a certain lifestyle it's about a certain way of treating people it's about self growth it's intense it takes time it takes patience it takes consistency but this is the most massive jump i felt spiritually practicing yss techniques regularly that's what it takes probably when you do the podcast that's about the autobiography for you we'll talk a little bit more about these yss


we'll talk a little bit more about these yss lessons what i will tell you now is some nuggets from the six year journey as most of you know i have dealt with severe addictions in my life we had alcohol be in marijuana and over the course of meditating that much you notice that your body starts rejecting certain substances it began with rejecting alcohol it then started rejecting red meat then white meat then rejected marijuana then it rejected eggs rejected what does that even mean it means that when you consume the substances you just feel bloated you feel a little low you feel a little lethargic and you're not able to meditate well on the days that you consume these substances so your body automatically kind of just realizes and i think i'm gonna stay away from this that's nugget one nugget two you feel a strong sense of connect to some higher power and the closer you get to that higher power the easier you feel about yourself the calmer you feel about


you feel about yourself the calmer you feel about yourself the more you're able to live life with a sense of focus number three anger leaves you first through the habits i spoke about in that first nugget second through the sort of self mutilation that you're putting your mind through you feel anger that's not spiritual notice that you're feeling anger push it down ensure you don't express anger first you learn to not express it then you learn not to even feel it acknowledge it don't let it sit in your head this anger doesn't get you anywhere next nugget you feel a much stronger ability to love both romantically and with your family and trust me no amount of money or fame or power of numbers will give you the same joy that a moment of pure love will give you even if you're the one who's giving the love [Music] the next nugget all of this returns the goodness you're putting out in the world the love you're putting out in the world all of it


you're putting out in the world all of it begins to return to you when your core is that spiritual process the love returns to you immensely you work hard you put out value in the world that value comes back 10x you help people and lots of people come to help you when you need it you really start noticing the effects of karma over the course of spiritualism in your life over the course of a spiritual journey in your life next nugget you gain these tools for your career if you need creativity your creativity gets enhanced if you need confidence your confidence gets enhanced if you need peace and calm that gets enhanced whatever you need from a soft skills basis from a soft skills perspective those things tend to get enhanced next nugget you become extremely tolerant you're able to take criticism like a non-living being almost like a robot you become sort of non-reactive to criticism you absorb it you become tolerant towards it not just criticism from drolls or haters but


it not just criticism from drolls or haters but criticism from your peers your relationship with criticism and growth changes probably because the anger's kind of faded away when you see life extremely functionally next nugget you tend to become extremely zen about moments in your life be it the pain you're feeling in a situation or the joy of feeling they're able to separate themselves from you you're able to develop a very beautiful relation even with something like death if there was no sense of spirituality in my life i would have been destroyed by both my dogs dying within the span of a year but i was able to handle that much better that's a whole other podcast where we'll talk about death in detail next nugget was yss lessons i'm not even done with half of them they've all arrived but they're so heavy and you're supposed to retain all of them so much that it's not able to get through them easily you realize how much knowledge there is to be absorbed to


how much knowledge there is to be absorbed to be learned about and that quest for knowledge makes you a more curious person makes you a more interesting person helps you have better conversations which is honestly given rise to the podcast and the final nugget this isn't something you should work towards the only thing you should work towards in your meditation is getting closer to god or the universe you need to be single-minded about it but you're gifted immensely when you begin a spiritual process there's a quote from the autobiography of a yogi that says do not chase money for money is a toy in the hands of god chase god work towards money and you'll see that the money will chase you work towards it don't chase it money will come to you fame will come to you numbers will come to you power will come to you positive thought will come to you more than you can imagine in fact there'll be so much of all of this that you'll be tested very often money


all of this that you'll be tested very often money will be coming to you like a tsunami and then suddenly there'll be a wrong way of making money that'll appear in front of you that manifest itself in front of you an unethical way of making money will you take that up and fail your spiritual test or will you say no and chase god once again even when that crazily sexy form of making money is coming towards you you start gaining power and then suddenly a really dark powerful human being puts the hand out and says let's join hands and you'll become even more powerful you'll become 10x more powerful the moment you join hands with me will you join hands with that unethical person or will you say no i'll chase slow growth i'll do the right thing and i'll pass my test and i'll go closer to god that's the final nugget spirituality throws tests at you if you pass those tests you'll get more gifts if you fail those tests you don't just go to


if you fail those tests you don't just go to a lower level you might fall back to where you began from it's like climbing long infinite ladder we have constantly tested and the higher you get the more difficult the tests every step prepares you for where you're supposed to be in life and this is why i say that this is a parallel career it's not like your material career your material career depends on your hard work your strategy your soft skills your people skills all of those can be strengthened through spirituality that's an insight into my spiritual journey and at every stage it's helped me level up in terms of my own career of course i can break it down much more but maybe that's for another episode if you enjoyed this one make sure you like it make sure you share it with fellow spiritual seekers thank you namaste [Music] so that was our two part special on my own spiritual journey i am so glad that we've built out a community where i get to share


we've built out a community where i get to share these experiences with you guys there's so many open-minded people and i also know that there's a massive segment of the indian population that may not accept spiritualism just yet but it's probably conversations like these podcasts like these experiences like these that will kind of open up their minds as well that's the hope that i've made this content with do spread the word about these two episodes they're very close to my heart they're probably the most special episodes we've created on the runway show till this point thank you for tuning in make sure you follow trs on spotify every episode is available on spotify 48 hours before it's available anywhere else in the world i'd love to know what other solo podcasts you guys would like to listen to so let me know in the comment section thank you thank you thank you a million times lots of love [Music] you


welcome to the runway show everybody the goal with this show is to always bring you fresher deeper heavier content took a risk by creating an episode entirely about sex this one's a solo podcast it's an outcome of all the gorgeous conversations i've had with sexologists with health experts with kama sutra experts and i hope that you find value in this one remember that we show the spotify exclusive now which means that every episode's available on spotify 48 hours before it's available anywhere else in the world and without further ado enjoy this very special solo podcast of the ranveer show [Music] this is going to be the most non-sleazy most straight up most real conversation about sex on the indian internet especially but hopefully the world's internet because i feel like a lot of young men especially but even young women don't get the right guidance when it comes to good sex when it comes to the right practices related to sex and that's why we'll be talking about this super openly i also feel


be talking about this super openly i also feel that these are conversations that weren't really spoken about that much earlier on and we need to be the generation that normalizes conversations about sex so without wasting any further time let's talk about 10 tips that will absolutely change up your sex life and will absolutely boost your sex life into new levels of niceness basically keep in mind i'm not a doctor i'm not a sexologist i'm a podcaster i've had the luxury of speaking to health experts like luke coutinho karma sutra experts like seema anand and the 10 points i'm going to talk about in this video are kind of accumulative outcome of those conversations and countless offline conversations i've had about sex with friends my age people younger than me people older than myself men women people from the lgbtqi community but of course success objective these are sort of 10 generalized rules that i hope will help you rule number one very basic it's called ccp consent comfort and protection consent


it's called ccp consent comfort and protection consent do not force yourself on anyone hurts me that we have to even address this as one particular point it should kind of be hardwired in our heads that you don't try forcing yourself on someone physically without their consent if she says no it means no if she says i don't know it means no every young guy should know this that's the golden rule of sex that's the basis do not force yourself on anyone a lot of guys young guys especially get carried away basically because of their own horniness they can't help themselves in that moment and they kind of almost force themselves on their partners if your partner is not giving you their consent you don't take the act forward you control yourself you take a step back consent is the basis of not just good sex but sex in general please ensure this box is ticked before moving forward comfort this is sort of the next level of consent say you're starting to get physical with


of consent say you're starting to get physical with someone and you just kind of feel a vibe that they're not comfortable with what y'all are doing revisit the consent conversation if they're not comfortable with you putting your hand somewhere with you taking it forward from just kissing the person have a conversation with them communicate a little bit with them only through communication will you know if the equation is comfortable and the third one another concept that's not really spoken about enough with the age of online dating with the age of dating apps with the age of hooking up the truth is that stds are extremely rampant i've had conversations with gynecologists about this and they've spoken about how stds are a lot more prevalent than they used to be say even 10 15 years back and there's data to back this so please use protection use condoms have conversations about hygienic sex now we move on to point number two point number two is where you might consider that it becomes spicy the second basic rule


consider that it becomes spicy the second basic rule of good sex after ccp is the intellectual and emotional connect that happens before you get physical with someone we live in an age where so many people from our generation just believe that sex is about physical closeness physical intimacy basically just banging raw bodies against each other that's not good sex that's forgettable sex good sex first of all happens with someone that you love love improves the sex even if all the other eight points that we'll speak about after this even if those points are not followed but if you just love the person if love is shared between two souls that improves the quality of sex now if you're not sure if you love the other person yet one level before love what's that called what's that called it's called intellectual and emotional intimacy great sex doesn't begin in the bedroom great sex begins on the dinner table when you're talking to the other person and you're getting to know the depths of the


and you're getting to know the depths of the other person's mind first before having sex with that person understand the person that you're going to have sex with understand a little bit more about them ask them deep questions understand the emotional corners of their mind maybe understand the surface level version of the traumas understand them a little bit deeply because that's where great sex begins you'll be making it better for your partner through comfort create that comfort by having very deep conversation first i personally would suggest that if you're dating someone if you're seeing someone you delay sex up till after the point where you've got to know the person and you have a certain sense of an emotional connect with them an intellectual connect with them get to know the person first don't just jump into it point number three stretch the foreplay we read about this in all these ask this expert columns and newspapers and trust me it's true and again a lot of men are to blame here what i've heard from all my offline


blame here what i've heard from all my offline conversations is that a lot of dudes kind of just want to move into the act of having sex right they want to move into the act of penetration without understanding that foreplay is what really enhances sex for their partners for a lot of people right once seen a meme which actually described the experience of sex for men versus the experience of sex for women very beautifully so the experience of sex for men is it's kind of low while you're stroking right think of masturbation what happens you work your way up to the point of ejaculation and at the point of ejaculation there's an explosion of feel-good hormones and that's what sex is for guys it's all about that one moment of the orgasm a woman's body works differently but it's not about just that one moment it's about the whole act probably before the foreplay begins but especially during the foreplay it's a fundamental difference that you only learn through experience because as men we assume


you only learn through experience because as men we assume that okay this person's body probably works in the same way that mind does so we think that okay because maybe we will like penetration because it simulates masturbation for ourselves this person will get pleasure if we simulate the kind of masturbation that we know masturbation for women and masturbation for men are two very different things for men it's about working your way up till that one point of explosion but for women it's the whole process it's like a slow build up of a liquid that just oozes out of a glass at some point it's not one single explosion at one point it's the whole process and the more you have a slow build up the better it is in terms of giving your partner pleasure of course this isn't the general rule for all women but this does work to a certain degree supposed to focus a lot on foreplay as i said in the previous one you're also supposed to focus a lot on conversation keep your foreplay slow keep


focus a lot on conversation keep your foreplay slow keep it enjoyable explore your partner's body ensure that they feel you're respecting every single part of their body ensure that they feel loved on every single part of their body ensure that love is a factor even if you don't say that you love them ensure that you're exploring your partner's body with love love helps people orgasm just saying again not a general rule some people like it really fast right but to be safe if you do want to play a general game focus a lot on foreplay sometimes up to the point where until the partner tells you okay now go for it you don't go further than foreplay focus on it give them pleasure in ways other than penetration next point the next point is a recap of one of our previous points know when to communicate and when to shut up during sex do not spoil the vibe of a particular moment by just saying oh this is great or talking too much or saying move them move here


talking too much or saying move them move here don't spoil moments if moments are building up let them build up so know when to shut up but also know when to communicate there's not a single partner in the world who won't appreciate some form of communication and sex tell them what you like ask them what they like ask them to communicate some people just get really shy in bed so you've also got to be conscious of that and still make them feel comfortable say you ask them a question they don't want to talk then just shut up follow their lead make your partner feel comfortable this is a communication skills trick if you ever want to make someone feel comfortable in conversation you mimic the energy levels and body language the same rule applies to bed there's a lot of silent communication skills that take place in the bedroom but the louder version of communication skills verbal communication actually speaking to each other can enhance your sex life significantly so please have open conversation in the bedroom if you


so please have open conversation in the bedroom if you want to do something in particular ask the other person tell the other person the more you communicate as partners the better it will get if you want to try something say it what's the worst that can happen they're not going to judge you you're submitting your body to them if they're judging you for speaking up they're probably not your long-term partners just keep that in mind point number five kisses and exploration learn how to be a good kisser it is a life skill especially in the bedroom especially to enhance your relationship man learn how to be a good kid so the basis of good kissing is once again spotting the other person's energy levels and mimicking them spotting the other person speed of kissing and mimicking it spotting the other person's energy of kissing and mimicking it be a good kisser even while you're having sex and ensure you don't limit yourself to just the lips kiss them on the neck kiss them on the


kiss them on the neck kiss them on the ears explore the body a little bit when it comes to women they have two sensitive spots for sure right the reproductive organs and the breasts but there's also more sensitive spots on the body and that's for you to find out where is it is it the ears is it the neck is the back of the neck is it the front is it the chest is it the stomach where is it you need to find it through your kisses and the same rule applies for men as well a lot of men actually believe that they only have one sensitive part which is their penis or the balls but that's not true there is a second a third body part which is subjective for every man you've got to find out for yourself you've got to let your partner explore your body you've got to be comfortable right ccp consent comfort protection this is an exploration will kind of open up your partner's body and that's when we can move on to the